Explained Why Narcissists Hate to See You Happy

Explained Why Narcissists Hate to See You Happy

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WHO AM I?
Hi! I’m Shaneen Megji. It seems my whole life has prepared me to do the work I am so passionate about today. Let’s just say I had to swim in narcissistic waters for many years, in workplace scenarios, in my previous faith as a Muslim, in friendships, and even in the church. God truly doesn’t waste anything. Each and every experience and all the studies I have done help me in my passion to set people free from the bondage and oppression of narcissistic relationships, to help survivors of such pain regain their authentic selves and their hope in God’s good plans for them, and to re-educate the church around toxic leadership.

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[stompthedragon]

" they can't regulate their own emotions so try to regulate yours". Well said

[carolynforge]

They do too much and say too much. They're always busy complaining, manipulating, gaslighting, accusing, abusing, lying and acting out. They're exhausting.

[Imnotyourdoormat]

"For they sleep not, except they have done evil; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall." *Proverbs 4:16*

[Desiree-Laine]

Married to a narc almost 10 years. He literally broke my spirit. I fell into addiction, to self medicate from the constant abuse. My health went down hill, and I became suicidal for years. He pushed all my friends, and family, away. I'm separated now, trying to get my life back, at 43. Please pray for me.🙏💙

[daviddale]

Our daughter in law is a covert narcissist and she sits in the corner and frowns anytime we celebrate someone. I’ve seen it at birthdays, weddings, showers etc. she’s so miserable to be around and she has managed to pull our son away. It’s very sad. I continue to pray for them, which is not easy but I know God is in control of all things 🙏🙏

[rootsiebee]

Narcs want to take your happiness away or steal it if they can.

[chelceasurgenor]

My husband gets so mad at me when my dad or someone else comes in and I start laughing or talking to them when I don't act that way with him because of his attitude and silent treatments. Thank you sister for all of your very helpful videos.❤
I have isolated myself. I'm just so drained and depressed anymore that I don't have any joy or motivation at all. Pray for me and my children to get out one day.

[nf]

They have a CRAZY uncontrollable need to do everything they can to stop you leaving them, ever. So whilst you cannot, under any circumstance, leave them, they can come and go, discard, etc as they wish. It is BONKERS. Praying God gets me out of this situation now, without delay 🙏. There must be a way...

[l.]

I wish that schools were more aware of narcissistic abuse and were not afraid to 'interfere'. I was approached by a coach when I was in grade 8 because I was the second fastest runner in the school. This man coached one of our classmates to the Olympics. He asked me if I wanted to be on one of the teams. I asked my Mom and she cleverly said "Only if your grades don't drop". She put it all on me. I had no idea if my grades would drop but I was a straight A student and it was only grade 8. Her Threat frightened me and I declined the offer. When I was ready for post secondary, no surprise, there was no money set aside for it. Had I joined the teams I could have gotten a scholarship and gotten away from her.

[anneyoung]

Exactly correct-narcissists are toxic, unstable, and unhappy, and, for some reason most of us will never understand (no matter how educated on narcissism we are), they are desperately committed to trying to make others take on their misery.
Just say no-firmly, clearly, sometimes loudly, and daily.

[whn]

This is so true! When we were getting ready to go see MY side of the family, which is full of smiling, happy cousins, my kids were super excited to go. They told their grandmother (my MiL) they were excited to see everyone and she actually told my children (ages 12 and 6, at the time) “don’t be so nice and loving with those people. You need to remain serious children.” What. A. Jerk. It’s a good thing my kids see past her BS. 🙄

[craigtillman]

I didn't realize my ex-wife was a covert narcissist until I went into therapy. This video explains why my EX felt she had to spoil the happiest moments that she didnt intiate. It seemed her purpose destroy my joy, especially with my family. She had to belittle my love for being a muscian.

[salauerman]

They can’t control THEIR emotions… the fruit of the Spirit includes SELF-CONTROL.
They work through FEAR: God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and a sound mind… they are like THEIR father, the devil.

Your happiness highlights THEIR insecurities…maybe GUILT as well?
I’ll bet that showing them grace, love they don’t DESERVE, makes them angry- because it reveals their darkness.

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I love that “practice gratitude”!

[wesmeyer]

As a senior who lived with toxic personalities from childhood...your right...they..for the most part, won't see their behavior as a problem...take care of yourself..God Bless..thank you Shaneen.

[sayedenforever]

I notice that covert narcissists can also pretend to be happy that you are happy, then later you find out through outbursts or back handed statements or rage episodes they will reveal the truth of their disdain about your happiness. It's like they pretend to be happy or agreeable on the outside but disdain and hatred about it on the inside.

[bobsanderz]

Long before I even discovered narcissistic personality disorder I would tell people how they hate me when I’m happy and no one believed me. Even in adult life, if I was too happy or confident with my dad, he would need to speak to me alone soon after, always about what was wrong with me.

[dl]

This is so true. I wondered for so long why they punished me, like I was a bad person. I'm understanding more that the narcissists in my life wanted to keep me unhappy. Such a selfish way to live. I'm working on my complexes still, trying to see myself as an acceptable person who deserves happiness.

[forsterfarm]

Yes, this perfectly reflects my relationship with my narcissist mother. Whenever I've had joy or been happy around her, she would swiftly punish me for it by shaming me for one thing or another. I stuff my feelings of happiness and joy around my mom so much that its leaked over into other parts of my life. I feel like my marriage and my young daughter are being robbed of the happy person I used to be. Recently, God has been helping me see the sin cycle that exists between her and I. He's shown me my own sin in the situation, and he's been pruning those branches out of me. That process has been painful. But I actually feel like I'm beginning to emerge on the other side of it a different person. For the first time, her condemnation of me isn't finding the foothold it used to in my emotions, it's losing its power. I'm starting to feel joy in doing things for others because I know it pleases God, and because through the pain I've felt with my mom and the conditional love she taught me, it gives me deep joy to share the power of unconditional love with the people around me. He's taught me, through her, how absolutely paramount the act of unconditional love is to the testimony of Christ. That new understanding has given me a new lens on why Jesus said "they will know you are one of mine, by the way you love one another." It was sinful for a parent to show a child conditional love. It perpetuates a cycle of sin that reverberates down generations if someone doesn't bend a knee and ask that God cut it out of them... that He please let it end with me. That's been the only thing that has made a true life changing difference for me. God bless.

[TuerlingsTim]

They are just very sick, real sick. Sad for them but we can’t help them because you are a object and not a personality 😉

[arrowhead]

Yes! Relationships are competition! People are possessions.