Compassion for Narcissists from victims

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People who say this are sick and unhealthy people who need to stop talking. Imagine telling me, an expert on the topic, incorrect information that is not only wrong but dangerous. Sit DOWN. 

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[ThatMontanaMom]

It doesn’t matter what happened to them to make them that way!! What matters is that they CHOOSE ABUSE!!

[ThatMontanaMom]

Also, having that “compassion” is part of the broken thinking that will KEEP a victim in a relationship with a person who has a very real possibility of ENDING their LIFE.

[StephP]

I understand totally. I have no compassion left for them. I have compassion for you and all other victims...may we find happiness for now on. No more abusive people in our lives.😊

[annaburns]

Totally.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told, “ you have to forgive them because you have no idea what they were going through and they were just thinking about themselves and struggling with their situation. “
Exactly.
So
1. They projected their situation onto me for no reason.
2. What about what I was going through?

[kimcannon]

Right ✅️ i get this all of the time from family... No. No more!!!

[msc]

SPOT ON! 💯 society needs to STOP CODDLING stop making excuses for them, stop protecting ABUSIVE Abusers CHOOSE TO BEHAVE THE WAY THEY DO!!!! They DO NOT show their victims any sympathy so WHY IN THE WORLD would they deserve such a favor?!!!! Abusers are abusers through and through, never believe otherwise. They will abuse their own

[allentempleton]

I have been abused in every way possible. My life has been destroyed and I'm too old to rebuild. Pretty much the worst case scenario. I do have hope that I can at least find healing and peace. As part of my healing I hope I can let go of my anger and find forgiveness. I wish this not to benefit my abuser but to lighten my burden and allow me to move forward. Anger has it's place but over the long term it causes us to relive the pain of the past.

[shelleysulecki]

Hes a victim in his eyes. Run girl. Dont look back

[karenmuradian]

No you shouldn't do that either! Love yourself above all, you deserve to be treated with love and respect! Everything else is bananas

[catherinemarsh]

The best thing is not to talk to people about your experiences and expect them to listen and understand. I am 60 and have only spoken to one person that, although they had never been a target of a narcissist, was able to put himself in my shoes, acknowledge the trauma of being there and what it must have felt like and then proceed to suggest what to do which was exactly what my plan was. Most people are not capable of putting themselves in someone else's shoe and just give the same old, "but can't you just forgive?". It would make it so much easier for them as they cannot comprehend. You never get over it and you are so much more aware of the presance of a narcissist as you meet people through life that you can actually act as a guard, but at the same time don't tell them what you see as you will sound like the crazy one.

[melbaT]

I ignore most advice ppl give me. They say the dumbest things.

[Ida]

Well this is what some people say about that:
1. If you forgive him then it’s easier for you move on because you’re not harbouring resentment forever, which can be quite toxic and interfere with your other relationships.
2. Narcissism is a mental disorder and we don’t like to tell people they are bad for being mentally ill.
Take this for what it is. Personally, I don’t give a shit what your mental disorder is if I’m being abused by someone. And I have all the compassion in the world for people who are mentally ill and getting help for themselves, including alcoholic and drug addicts, who most people don’t have a lot of compassion for, sadly.
As for forgiving him as a method of healing yourself, you decide. You seem to be still angry but you don’t seem like the forgiving type. Forgiveness is only one method for healing but there are others. I encourage you to find a way to heal yourself so that you’re not angry and your anger doesn’t creep out in other ways or with other people who don’t deserve your exes issues, funnelled through you, toward them. You’re responsible for healing yourself, just like your ex is responsible for healing himself. Hopefully he won’t be an asshole forever but really who gives a shit, he’s gone. And hopefully you can get over him and not feel so angry that you have to post videos about your anger. Because this is what’s your doing. You’re reaching out for help. The ex is gone. But his actions are still with you. So to answer your question, you don’t have to forgive him or feel compassion for him. But you do have to get over him. You know you’re over someone when you feel nothing for them. No anger, no love, no happiness no sadness and no frustration about people telling you what you need to do. The reason people want you to feel compassion for him is because it’s a good sign that you’re over them. If you can feel compassion for someone who’s thrown you up the stairs, you’ve pretty much healed yourself. But if you never get to that place, you can still move on. Find your path. It takes time.

[WEFamilia]

It’s Our opportunity to raise above it, and be pleasing to GOD. Folks love to trrryy to pull You down and cheat You out of being Our bestester Selves.

No thanks. It’s sad, and these are Our loved ones. I’m really praying for GOD to see Them through too, in JESUS name Amen 🙏

[valkyraevixx]

We are tould we should "be nice" because many don't like it when we are honest, brave, and strong.

[sarahbell]

Only am abuser has sympathy for another abuser .

[Mel-osld]

u shouldn't.. who's telling u that.. it's not compassion or sympathy it's understanding 💜💜💜

[Belle-m]

I know, my own life feels like this.
Severely abused by serial cheat and psychopath narcissist.
I finally cut off after he cheated again etc. and now he wants another chance. Won't leave me alone, it's a night are that never ends.
And he is good at making people feel sorry for him, I almost feel like the bad guy not having compassion for him that he he tells people he wants to kill himself again, because he hated the life he chose

[tbacon]

Why do "they" think the abuser deserves to be treated so much better than the victims should be. I was told that I should consider being nicer to my husband, and then maybe he wouldn't feel the need to abuse me in pretty much every way possible.
I was raised to be nice: don't ask anyone for anything, wait on your husband, make everyone else happy, so I don't think being nicer to my husband would have made any difference.
My stepdad always claimed that all car accidents were caused by women. I asked whose fault was it if both drivers were men? He claimed that at least one of their wives must have started a fight before he left, so it was still a woman's fault. He seemed to believe that women could never learn to drive and that men came to it naturally, and therefore, men do not cause accidents... 😂

[elenasandoval]

Some couples therapists keep pushing for that 😒 so sad and dismissive

[nme]

The abused person who considers the shoes of the abuser is a person who is healing holistically.
This holistic healing serves not the abuser, yet the person who survives the abuse. In order for the abused person to have clarity on the decisions that they have made, in order for growth to occur for the abused individual, they must first understand their fallacies and motivations for accepting the treatment, learning why they were attracted to this situation in the first place. Wisdom cannot be found, without the self knowledge of motivating factors that underlye our behaviors. It's not blaming, however its understanding oneself that provides the clear vision to avoid these type of people in our future.