Why We Always Chase the Wrong Person | Matthew Hussey

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[heleneorchanian]

"We accept the love we think we deserve."

[oloblish]

We want what we can't have. When what we should want is those who already value us.

[SealztheMan]

We live in such a backwards world and it translates into our mentality, especially in love. A lot of people's understandings and definitions of what love, dating, and relationships are, is truly opposite of what they really are. Dont go after what makes you feel good, go after what you need. Great video Matt

[How.Dare.You.]

Im a woman and find chasing exhausting. If a guy makes me chase him, its a turn off. Worse is when a guy was a good boy and after a bad relationship is now a bad boy

[TheMoolimoo]

No one can explain life to me in such a simple, understandable manner as this man. Thank you Matthew for always clearing things up for me. I’ve watched you repeatedly through all of my anxiety, though every boy I’ve been involved with, since I was at least 16. I’m 22 now. I’ve learned things about myself I NEVER knew before, I’ve learned to analyze my own experiences and behaviors in a healthy way, I’ve become a much more grounded person because of Matthew.

I am 100% sure that I would have been a completely different person if I hadn’t stumbled across your content all those years ago. You’ve helped me understand my value through my darkest times, in a way no one around me has ever been able to. You truly have a real impact on peoples lives and I’m so thankful for it.

Love, Hedvig

[CherryCherry]

I needed to hear this so badly! I've recently met someone who seems to be a valuable person showing me interest, giving me undivided attention and treating me astonishingly well, but having gone through a few bad relationships, it made me really suspicious just like you said in the video. I feel like there's no way this person can actually like me, it's really hard to believe that someone actually has good intentions and wants nothing in return but your affection.

[lipisar]

👏👏 Even if the person you like is giving you love and attention, the relationship can become toxic if you are demanding from that person to make you feel good about yourself. A high level of expectation and extreme neediness. First you need to find reasons to feel good about yourself without external validation. To take care of your own needs to some extend. Then your relationship with any person will be mature and loving... Too much neediness is a sure downfall. No-one can fullfill those high expectations...

[SCRT]

Literally to the 1% who's reading this, God bless you, and may your dreams come true, stay safe and have a wonde‎rful day. ❤️

[cocoleluz]

😞 this world is going crazy. A lot of people are suffering from a heart break so this makes sense. Sometimes we say no one likes me but there is someone that would do anything to be with us but we want the one that’s doesn’t like us 😣

[audraoliver]

This is where those people who attract narcissists fall into the trap of-hes pushing me away so I need to try harder. That whole I'm flawed so the narcissist sees it too. Only to confirm this negative self worth already established within you. This is where good self esteem must be rooted in order to consciously be aware of who we reject and who we attract. I've been in a couple narc relationships in the past and this video drives home a need to work on ourselves before choosing "a bad boy" or someone who only sees themselves as attracted to you.

[katarinavila]

This video is EXACTLY what I needed right now. Thank you so much for your amazing work, Matthew!

[ajaym]

What I like about the video is that it acknowledges that the "bad boy" or "edgy" type characters haven't grown up and that good men are mature individuals. What I dislike is this notion that girls who seek the love of bad boys are those who didn't get enough attention from their parents. The type of affection a girl wants from her father isn't the same as what she wants from a potential boyfriend. I know girls who received enough attention from their parents but always chose the wrong type of men.

[eg]

"Always attracted to people in a certain phase in their life"!!!! Light bulb moment!!! This is so true and describes me very accurately, without me being aware!!! Matt! You are a genius!!!!

[testing.]

Man, advice from Hussey when he's in a healthy relationship is so good.

[dimplesherlly]

The title of the video immediately caught my attention, because it’s what I’m currently facing. Thanks for the great and informative content ❤️

[neogbfe]

I’ve noticed the changes in todays relationship dynamics. I feel that we have to be okay with the time spent in relationships. Nothing is certain in today’s world. With the increase use of technology or social media platforms, who wouldn’t get bored or seek other opportunities. We never have to settle down when someone or something else is a click away. We can also manipulate any situation in a breakup, by keeping everyone on idol as friends within media. No one truly moves on, fully recovers or grows when we have easy access to the past.

[ImJesseTrevino]

I WAS that bad boy. I was immature as one can be. I’ve learned and grown and no longer that guy. The issue at hand? The woman who wanted me when I was a bad boy is now in a relationship with someone else. Can’t believe I was so stupid to not give her a chance 😔 she, to this day, is an amazing person. Sometimes, we have to learn the hard way to appreciate the good when we have it in that moment.

[Evolutioninthestars]

This is so good! We chase what feels familiar and we run away from what feels unfamiliar. Ain’t that some shit?

There’s this saying that we attract our parents in our relationships.

[dreamiedips]

Our subconscious mind plays a huge role
@1:43 Actually it all started in childhood whether your parents divorced or not, but the singles who are attracted to wrong person has had great deep emotional wounds from emotionally unavailable parents.
@3:19 Great demonstration!
Absolutely one of your best videos.
Thanks Mr. Matthew for sharing. 💙💫✨

[cql]

"you are the person who isn't ready"...that shocked me.