How to Stop Being Manipulated by a Narcissist

The most hurtful part of being in a relationship with a narcissistic person is that they don't care about your feelings, needs, or boundaries. They don't care about your perspective, they don't value what you need to feel safe and loved and valued. Here's what we need to realize when we find ourselves in that terrible situation.

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[TinaMaddoxJones]

OMG the having to comfort them for the situations they created... 😮

[sumernoel]

If you’re someone going through the process of walking away, know that you’re the lucky ones. Some people never find the strength or clarity of mind to walk away. Forever living that life. Count your blessings if you are waking up. Do it. You’ll be glad you did. 🙏♥️

[ReSearcherSusie]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time! I wish I had followed this advice.

[danioss]

"You never have to abandon yourself in order to feel loved and accepted and valued in relationship" 🕊

[Sheisme]

It would be infinitely better to be single than to have to deal with a narcissist.💯

[Lyrielonwind]

Most people who find themselves in a narcissistic relationship had some neglectful or toxic person in their childhood.

[BigWindyVet]

“You will become physically sick” This hit home. I’m 52, getting divorced after 28 years of marriage. Last month my wife said she thinks I’m a narcissist so I came on YouTube to see if I could find ways to tell if I really was. Turns out she checks all the boxes for a female covert narcissist. Now that my eyes were open I can see that she has been manipulating me and tearing me down for a long time. It was very subtle at first, but the last few years have been hell. She had me convinced it was all my fault. For the last couple years I’ve been so constantly stressed and depressed that I start every day dry heaving. My weight fluctuates crazily, I have stress headaches all the time and joint and body aches.

But I go to work every day, put on my happy face, and grind on. Nobody knows what I’m dealing with inside.

I cannot wait to be free and start healing.

[karenschell]

My ex said, if you don’t like it, leave, so after hearing that over and over I finally did.

[oonaghmolyneux]

‘They are a walking double standard.’ I love that! Humour really helps to blast narcissist nonsense.

[mjbreitmeyer]

I stupidly went back to communicating again with my toxic 75 year old mother as a result of shame and guilt and because she said she regretted her behaviour and showed genuine signs that she had changed. 2 months in, the same abusive patterns started again (this time not just with me, but with other family members as well). It's like being retraumatised. The ultimate emotional rollercoaster. When she sends a text or calls, my whole body goes into PTSD mode. Why do we do these things to ourselves?

[JETTSTACHI]

I couldn't believe that people like this actually exist...until I was IN IT! The past four years of this treatment made me, now, NOT TRUST ANYONE. He's gone and NO MAS!

[sunshine]

You are correct. I was told by the Narc that I am married to that I was worthless to him and that he could have done so much better than me. I felt like someone had stabbed me thru my heart. And because I refused to sleep with other men so he could watch. I keep a beautiful home and cook and clean and try to please and make him happy. I never knew what a Narc was. I am learning. I feel so unwanted and unloved. It has taken me months to partially accept it. I am now saving my money, forca divorce (silently) so I can keep my home. Thank you for teaching me that wanting love was normal and that not everything is my fault. GOD Bless you sir for teaching me...

[FlowerShopGirl]

Listen to him when he says, 8:14 "...eventually you'll get sick...I mean like physically sick from being walked all over and trying trying to give the benefit of the doubt and continuing to love them even though your body is screaming they aren't safe and you deserve better and you can continue to war with your heart and mind..." It's real.

[ilonakay]

This is such and incredible video 😊. Wow! I can relate to pretty much everything. I just broke off a 4 year relationship because I was getting physically sick and just couldn't take it anymore.

That part when you said that you'll feel guilty for leaving and abandoning them resignated with me 100%

Thank you for your time and effort into making this video 🎉

[Skydropi]

to be honest - it feels completly weird to slowly disconnect from someone you love so unbelievable deeply. i have to activly remind myself of all those reasons why he is toxic and why, for the sake of my kids and my sanity, i should leave him and its HARD. Jimmys Videos always make me tear up and give me, at least over time, the strength to finally stick with my boundaries and stop letting him run them over and over again. so - thank you jimmy for giving us the hope for a better life and reminding us that we are worthy of receiving the same amount of love that we give out so freely.
♥

[AA-pzon]

I told my older daughter once that I was going to act like him for 1 week to see how he would be able to manage it. It lasted 3 days. He ended up in the back of a cop car after trying to murder me. Then he went and told everyone that I was purposefully trying to get him arrested by acting like a total biotch. No. Not at all. I was dismissive. Avoidant. Acted like I didn't care and walked out of the room while he was in mid sentence. I forgot to make him food or forgot to wake him up. He said I was treating him poorly to try and provoke him. Nope. Just acting like him.

[VGNaluri]

I really needed to hear this right now. I have to toughen my resolve, walk away and never turn back.

[jennifergianakos]

You’re anointed, Jimmy. Thank you for your wisdom. You’re right. The label doesn’t matter. My divorce takes place in less than two weeks.

[appsd]

The hard part for me is believing that people like this truly exist. It makes life so much more heartwrenching to know that people choose to hurt others on purpose. 💔

[agnieszkagrzesiak]

3 years with a narcissist. 6 months since I accepted his another 100 discard, was blamed for not loving him enough, not chasing him, not trying, all my fault. 6 months in trauma, so ill. Slowly getting there. Happier he's not in my life anymore. When I was with him, I was becoming him, angry, shouting, I wasn't recognising myself no more. Now I'm back to who I was before, kind, loving, sensitive, empathic and positive lady.