Stop Abandoning Yourself in Relationships! Detox Your Dating Life

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Childhood PTSD can disrupt and distort the way we fall in love. It can lead us to sabotage ourselves, ruining the things we really want in life, wasting years pining away for love and getting hurt instead. In this video I respond to a letter from a 41-year-old woman, who's searching for the reason she goes for the wrong guys again and again, and I teach how to STOP abandoning yourself in relationships.
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[AllanBrunoPetersen]

I recently made a friend, who truly loves me, for who I am -which is something I have never felt and didn't think even could exist. I feel so much stronger and finally can stop suppressing my self. Despite attempting to apply hundreds of self help videos, really feeling real love for just being me, is the one thing that really helped, and really fast too.

[anneorioni]

We were abandoned as children. Let us not do that to ourselves. Let's keep ourselves safe and in this new and good road. Let's hold our little kid's hand. It's time to grow up.

[Rareprune]

“Sitting on a throne, not chasing a wild animal” - that just hit home for me. That’s exactly what I have been doing with the OBVIOUSLY avoidant man I have been seeing. All the red flags were there from the very beginning but I just kept lying to myself saying I was just being paranoid and even though my body has been blaring the alarms! Debilitating anxiety, panic attacks, depression. That’s not love! It’s trauma. Nope. ENOUGH!
Thank you, fairy. I’m getting back on my throne. I am worthy of love.

[rsamuels]

I realized that not only was I picking men incorrectly, I had no boundaries or standards and Picked toxic female friends. I never learned as a child how to pick people that are safe. I am 36 and am learning now- it has been such an incredible journey. I look forward to dating now with this new awareness. While I don’t have many female friends I am now making sure the relationships I cultivate are healthy.

[annicks]

This applies in friendships as well!
When I realize that someone is unavailable and using me as a part time filler when they are bored, I remove myself from the situationship . I’m not going to be on the back burner until people feel bored and want to pop up.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I actually like the lack of drama being single ..

[dianadeane]

I think hearing the phrase “eroticised longing” might turn out to be really important to me. Thank you xx

[buckwheatINtheCity]

Selfish parents don't even consider how they damage their kids in the long run while they put themselves and their interests first.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I have learned from experience that it usually is not a good thing to put someone on a It leads to massive disappointment...

[zebrastripes]

At least Amelia is just 41, I’m turning 50 next month and wasted my whole adult life with men like these. Last one just dumped me 2 weeks ago and I’m going through the withdrawal symptoms from trauma bond..so painful.

[DEEPCYCLEGARAGE]

That time alone after a relationship can be tough but necessary. Mine was nothing less than multi dark nights of the soul but because of that alone time I am doing much better. One year later and I'm just starting to consider a healthy date, from my throne. THANKS CCF!

[bettywinberry]

Unrequited love is the worst. My dad committed suicide when I was two. I began " yearning" for the 5 year old boy across the street when I was three. I would sit and feel so sad that he didnt notice me. I have been yearning for the wrong people ever since. I am 65 and going through a divorce from a mean hot tempered man that constantly accused me of doing things I never did. I am still yearning for him though. Thank you so much for your videos.

[withrowchelsinormanfzwicke]

Please be careful of people who will take advantage of you at peer support groups.Some people attend peer support groups to use "damaged " people like us.
I know by experience

[courtneybrubaker]

Two books, “Mother Hunger” and “Healing the Mother Wound” explained how the lack of mothering creates a deep emotional hunger and shows in how we look for love in all the wrong places. This mother wound is the first heart break.

[tinydanceryoutube]

I related so much to "Amelia's" story. Only my mom emotionally checked out yet was physically there and super neglectful. Dad escaped to the reck room with a 5th every night and couldn't be bothered with me. Once he paid me $100 to "just go upstairs", he said I was interrupting his tv show.
I was 11.
I, too, fantasized of having this living family where I felt loved too.
Thanks for your advice.
I'm not near where a lot of these people commenting here are growth wise but I have learned to love myself more and I'm crossing the bridge of learning how to be there for myself.
Co-dependency is a huge issue for me.
I wish you'd speak on that too, Ann.
Thank you.

[jenniferlynn]

I literally just connected the abandonment wound to my relationship with my mother
I thought the same thing, that my wound was tied to my father. The little girl in me was screaming for attention and I hold her close and butterfly hug her, and I tell her she is safe to heal, she is loved, she is divinely protected. So much of this was spot on for me.
I realized how much I abandoned myself over the years, however I did not know I was doing that. As I continue to heal, I see much more clearly. ❤️🦋❤️

[jillsalkin]

Anna and readers, it is amazing how I am already opening my heart to a man who does not fit the profile of men I've been with before. He is so very kind and warm, and I deserve that!!

[randiwin]

I’ve gone NC but I cry everyday. Its been 1 1/2 months. I will stop talking about him. Thanks.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I'm actually ok without a relationship especially with all of the bad dating experiences I have had...

[elenigalani]

Thank you for being so honest in explaining how difficult being alone following trauma bond can feel. This video resonated with me. I totally understand. I wish you the best of luck, Amelia. Ultimately we choose ourselves. Ultimate we choose (real) life