6 Things You Should Never Say To An INTJ

The INTJ Myers-Brigg personality type is the third rarest personality type in the population, making up only 1 to 4 percent of all people. Known for being analytical, logical, and independent, they are often pioneers of original ideas and thoughts.

Today on ‘How to Charisma’ we’re going to look at the 6 Things You Should Never Say to an INTJ.

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[SlimThrull]

"Rules are there for a reason."
"Great. What's the reason?"
"Uh...'
"Exactly."

[AraYuannn]

"I don't think you can do it" and i take that as a personal challenge

[tgs]

How dare you jump scare me with that "Surprise!" in the beginning.

[jenniferhanses]

1) I'd say the introversion and the planning aren't the real problems. Heck, at this point in my life, I'd love a surprise. It would give my problem solving something to do. The issue is the Fi. If you throw a surprise birthday party, for example, 1) I'm probably not going to react very much visually because I'm being confronted with all this new information, so you're not going to have much fun, and 2) the emotional processing as I figure out what I feel about the whole experience could take quite a while, and since I can't go be alone to process because now I'm in the middle of a party, it can throw off my reactions to everything else in terms of emotions.

Just basically image a computer screen with the little windows circle where your cursor used to be, and you can't do anything with your cursor until it's done. That's your INTJ processing emotions related to a surprise. And all the people involved in the surprise are downloads that keep interrupting the processing.

2) Yeah, we're not real impressed by lying. We can get involved in grand manipulative bluffs with certain people and consider that fun. But that's special. Average garden variety lying ... well, I can do more by telling the truth than you can with a lie.

3) Yep. If the rule is there for a good reason, we will follow it, and instruct other people in the rule and why it exists so that they follow it. If there's no good reason for the rule, we'll ignore it.

4) Really, the accusation of lacking knowledge is insulting because the person speaking doesn't know what I know. If you think an INTJ has made an error of fact, you're better off just asking "How does XYZ fit in to what you just said" or similar. The INTJ will then either tell you, or will ask questions and adapt thinking to include XYZ.

5) Oh, yay! Someone admitted we can be playful when we want to be. Especially as we don't care about societal expectations.

As to being serious I think other types maybe don't understand appreciating things on multiple levels at once. Sometimes people will tell me a joke, and it's an okay joke, nothing special, so I don't have any particularly humor reaction. Instead I start taking the premise of the joke as a "what if X joke were true." and will extrapolate a world where X joke is true, and then tell people about it. And they tell me it was a joke. And all I can say is I know it was, now back to the world where X joke is true.

6) Small talk is bad. But you also have to break the ice somehow. Weather is a pretty good one. Weather impacts plans (either yours or mine), and so information about the weather may be important.

Basically, just because I like deep conversation doesn't mean I want to start out my interactions by talking about deep topics like my dad dying last month. I do understand that people need to verbally sidle up to each other. Personally, i prefer meeting people at a hobby club so that then we can talk about the hobby. Barring that, though, try the weather. I live on this planet, so I've got at least a passing interest in that.

[prezhenz]

#4 is a HUGE trigger for me. People know that I’m quiet (sometimes to a fault). So why don’t they understand that I only speak on what I know?

[BlackHatTy]

There are some things that are so obvious I point them out immediately, yet no one ever seems to see it. I make the "prediction" and then everyone is bewildered when it actually happens. I hate that.

[nonjaninja]

I'm INTJ-T supposedly and I actually like surprises, but only good ones. Lol. I get bored with routine every now and then. These things are nuanced. Also, humor is something I value quite a bit. We're just sort of quiet and reserved, but not necessarily buzzkills. Just a data point.

[untitled]

Yes. I do find myself agreeing with a lot of these.

[dillonpercy]

I'm an INTJ, someone called me stupid, I'm no longer happy.

[jimmywoolever]

As an INTJ who had a surprise party thrown for them and several other times someone admitted trying to throw a surprise party for them but dropped the idea, let me tell you why you shouldn't try to throw a surprise party:
It won't be a surprise. People act differently when they throw a surprise party. We'll pick up on these breaks in "the pattern of life" and know something is coming. Save yourself a lot of effort and just don't do it.
The other reason, and the reason for the abandoned plans for a surprise party: the people wanting to throw the party realized they had no idea who they should contact to join in on the party.

[Ingisen]

I'd like to add a point:
NEVER tell an INTJ that they are Autistic, having Asperger and/or having any other diagnosis.
Not only do you not have the knowledge and insight to establish this as a fact, it is also EXTREMELY rude and inappropriate.

[cmymotion]

To be exact, we only hate surprise from human.

[jasonkrick]

I always what is honest. I will never try and walk on broken glass around anyone because it is impossible to know what a trigger is for someone. Almost all triggers I have encountered with people make no sense and are usually the result of some past trauma I am not aware of. Heck, sometimes, they’re not aware of it. So, if they don’t know. How am I suppose to.

I’m not interested in people’s personality designation. If you enjoy my company. Be with me and we’ll hang out. If you don’t like me. Why force the situation.

My personality type is aaaAAA—-123456789—zzzZZZ.
I think that covers it.

[nekotoru]

Actually I'm okay with small talks if I have nothing to do. I know that some topics are popular among most people so to communicate with these people and keep connection when I have nothing to say I can speak about a weather or something that interesting to my mates (and not me). Sometimes it turns to an interesting conversations. In my 37 I don't expect my fellow janitor would talk about quantum physics with me. But I can talk about politics and life around and have a nice time in the process.

[stephanvillavicencio]

infjs also dont like to be told "that's how we always do things" AND "you dont know what you are talking about."

[kennethliebel]

I hate bad surprises. By all means, if you can surprise me with a birthday party do so!!!! Lol

[alexr]

I strongly disagree that INTJs do not engage in light conversations. While we may prefer to have intense complex investigations of some aspect of science or literature or history, there is a time and a place for both conversations. When shopping at a grocery store, Target or checking out books at the library, acknowledging that the clerk is a human being by mentioning the weather is typically appreciated by most individuals who are tired of being treated as if they are no different than the cash register or the computer system that records which books you checked out.

[gnomeschmaltzky]

Elon Musk, Elon Musk, Elon Musk!!! Enough already!!!!

[Brevicauda]

I don't know or care what others said about me. May I not the smartest person on earth, but I never doubt my intelligence.
I maybe wrong and I don't mind to admit my mistake and learn from it, but I knew stupid is never be a word to describe me. 😊

[blueneom]

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