6 THINGS ELEGANT PEOPLE NEVER SHARE 🤐 | HOW TO BE ELEGANT

Have you noticed how elegant and mysterious figures like Jessica Pearson from Suits or Lady Mary Crawley from Downton Abbey always seem to have an air of mystery? This is no accident. Keeping certain aspects of their private life hidden is one of the secrets to preserving that aura of sophistication and elegance. Today, let's explore 6 things you should keep private to maintain your mystery and protect your elegance.

Just imagine: the less people know about you, the less they can influence you. And the more control you have over your life, the more elegant and confident you will be. Just like in the series Gossip Girl, where secrets are revealed all the time, in real life, the more you share, the more vulnerable you become. And let’s be honest, most people don’t genuinely care about your personal details; they’re just curious.

But before we get into the details of these 6 things, if you want to be a sophisticated traveler and maintain your elegance even while away from home, check out my ebook "Be Elegant While Traveling | Global Etiquette for the Sophisticated Traveler." The link is in the first pinned comment.

Now, let's discover these 6 things that every elegant woman should keep private. Stay with me until the end and find out how little secrets can transform your life and ensure your physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual safety. Want to learn how to be a truly elegant woman? Subscribe to the channel, hit the bell icon, and leave a like. Let’s transform our elegance into something profitable together!

[libbyneves]

Don’t tell people your problems. Half of them don’t care, and the other half are glad.

[busyazn]

Thanks for the advice.

Keep these private:
1:35 Goals and achievements
3:50 Charity work
5:50 Financial status
8:35 Preserve your intimate relationships details
11:20 Arguments & conflicts
13:10 Keep your new ideas to yourself. Only share to somebody you trust and will support you.

[DianeW-gddl]

Don't complain, don't explain ....my motto.
Much of my life, no one's business but mine

[nancysayad]

Intelligent people always keep a comfortable distance from those around them without destroying the good relationships

[luluandmeow]

I once found this in a book: "The aftermath of confidences is embarrassment." I have tended to be more open in the past couple of years but when you overshare, people can take advantage, including those that you thought were friends

[maryl.]

I am frequently surprised by how much people overshare everything! I’m older (pre-social media days) and these rules were taught early. I’m happy I learned it long ago. Many people pretend to be your friend but don’t have your best interest at heart. Sad but true.

[iqbalzaidi]

Good presentation and nice tips. I am a senior citizen leading a happy & successful life in Canada. As per my experience, I would add that you must share with some dependable friends. Keep one point in mind that discuss with a person who is professionally or financially higher then you. Don't discuss with those who are lower then you as they will be jealous. This is a practical tip for success.

[gjd]

With the explosion of social media, I am astonished at how much people display of themselves to strangers. Privacy is already hard to obtain, don’t just give yourself away. We are all better off with a little mystery to others.

[MissBabalu]

I wish someone had told me this way back, maybe at 18. Then for a long time I followed all of this wisdom until people close to me suddenly passed away, boy was that a mistake to let my guard/privacy/elegance down. I was just lonely and then became a target, got even lonelier. Now OK, but I should listen to this everyday just to remind myself forever. Careful.

[patricesichon]

“Interest in what you have than who you are” “true elegance lies in being reserved and discreet”

[BabalwaMusekwa-bmoq]

My grandmother told me a long time ago that not everyone who walks with you has the best interest at heart for you. No matter how happy or hurt you are, you need to learn to know who to talk to. Most importantly, those who hate you do not stop projecting on you nonetheless. But keeping your goals private is paramount, and your charity work or any act of kindergarten should communicate to the universe - it surely reciprocates, not human beings, to gain praises. Even when they try to sabotage you, the universe knows your works - your goodness and, therefore, will protect and guide you❤❤❤

[mhopi]

Used to share problems with fam n friends. I stopped long time ago because ppl pretend to be on yr side n later manipulate u. I am stronger nw after learning this n love my privacy. Ty Carol ❤ for this reaffirmation

[gracesanity]

I am quite reserved. So am often shocked how people discuss their sexual lifes. As though that were normal. NO...its vulger and l dont want to know.

[jessyhokie]

Good summary! I enjoy solitaire while maintaining social harmony with people. That’s just out of my personality. I basically don’t rely on anyone in depth including family cuz they may not as wise as I thought. Truly, I feel lonely sometimes but why do I expect others really care about me as everyone is busy with their own business. Inner life journey is always on your own. Having company is nice but not always necessary. Need to share with someone? Find a professional, they never gossip or mislead.

[JenevieBrown]

I remember telling a girlfriend of the beautiful dress I saw in a shop window and that I was going to buy. The very next day she went and bought that same dress for herself.😡

[luluandmeow]

I have lived in the UK for 40 years and we used to be really reserved, but now we have become more "Americanised" and are more likely to share our life details, as if we were talking to a therapist (tip: go to a therapist instead). My lovely American neighbour told me very private details about being estranged from her parents the first time I met her. I would never gossip to others about this but I was a little bit shocked by her openness - others might take advantage of her sincerity and vulnerability

[coeurdaleneadventurecrew]

In my experience, elegant women aren't withholding and fearful of jealousy. They are generous, inclusive, encouraging and inspirational.

[delcinabuckle]

Thanks for sharing this. Unfortunately, a lot of people talk a lot. I am so great at keeping secrets that i kept my pregnancy a secret for 9 months. I only revealed this after he was born. I have found out that people are not genuinely happy for you.

[luluandmeow]

Unless you have a cause/business/charity to promote, I actually see no reason why someone should be on social media at all. You are publishing your personal information to the world - publishing - a lot of people seem blissfully unaware of the consequences. Employers, frenemies, neighbours, colleagues will find out more than you think about you. And you reveal yourself on social media, even when you boast/exaggerate/lie. Never ever put someone's photos/info/birthday details on social media without their permission, especially minors, e.g. your children.

[getchertified]

Social media has taken the elegance away from many people, and it can become more obvious that one is not even elegant when one keeps on flooding the newsfeed! There are many things that ought not to be shared...many things need to be kept...