How we survived our Long Distance Relationship | Q&A

These are our experiences of being in a long distance relationship for more than 3 years. Hope it helps if you are in the same boat!

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Hi, I'm Uyen Ninh but please just call me Uyen!
I moved from Vietnam to Germany 3 years ago for studying. I make silly videos about how Germany looks like through the eyes of a Vietnamese student - on my way to be your favourite Ausländer! :D

[johnnytsunami]

"There are creeps out there. Be careful ladies. I was just lucky" I appreciate the note for your more impressionable audience. I also love your personality. Chào from a vietnamese American!

[KittyAndTheBooks]

Whenever you talk about your relationship, the most beautiful thing to me is that it sounds like your partner gave you a lot of confidence and helped you accept yourself the way you are. That is very special in my opinion.

[erikavaleries]

After being in toxic relationships, it is very healing to see a healthy couple who support each other, share their burdens, and respect their needs. And have fun together!

[fj]

It is a relief that your boyfriend turned out to be such a nice and sweet person. It is quite difficult to actually trust someone whom none of your friends or family know and who also lives miles and miles away. He's a keeper.

[calise]

Oh boy. I met my German boyfriend in 1994 while he was in the US. He moved back to Germany in 1996. So we were long distance until 2000 when I moved to Germany. There was no FaceTime, no real email…..we faxed each other letters.😮 It was so hard. We got married in 2000 and now have two children almost done with school. Life is crazy!

[mousafire]

Uyen, I just wanted to say how much my wife and I enjoy your content. I am American and my wife is Korean. 25 years ago we went through similar distance and cross cultural struggles. We love hearing your stories that remind us of the fun things that have happened in our past. Further more, last year we moved to Vietnam for my work, and your content explaining Vietnamese culture has really helped up settle in.

[Daxter]

as a german i can proudly and with confidence give your bf the seal of "proper german"! may others join his footsteps to make this world a happier place!

[willstew]

My wife and I survived our long distance relationship and it brings back a lot of memories hearing you talk about all the little details. Timezone differences (4-5hrs), sending each other gifts, sharing photos from our day. We both had android watches and could set the background of the others watch, I remember that feature being removed (classic Google) so being an engineer I just built that feature myself.

[tessfairbridge]

My parents met in South Africa over 50 years ago while my mom was visiting a friend there. They ended up doing long distance by snail mail before both moved to Canada, where my siblings, and I were born. I can't imagine doing it by letter only! But I admire their patience and perseverance. These stories are so magical 🥰

[jumpinjoint]

i love your content ❤

edit: i think it’s incredibly real and important that you mentioned how you felt like you had to keep your relationship secret due to the dynamic with your parents. people don’t understand what it’s like when your parent is from a rural village in a foreign country, things are so different. you cant just tell your mom “im an adult mind your own business” in that way. and when you’re a baby adult, it’s difficult and scary to manage the transition from dependent to independent. thank you for mentioning that.

also, i think german bf is completely correct about keeping your day to day lives involved despite the distance. that’s the first connection that’s severed when you’re LD, your daily lives are totally separate and many people begin drifting from there. but by making an effort in small
moments, even land and oceans cant separate love.

[CelerieArts]

I'm in a long distance relationship and this video not only cheered me up from seeing the two of you so happy together, but it also gave me hope that the relationship I'm in can also work out!
I'm from the northern part of Sweden and my boyfriend is from California in the US. We've been together for almost 1 and half years now and we met for the first time last summer.
Pretty much every single person I've talked to who's been in a long distance relationship has told me to break up and move on before I get to attached/involved... I can understand their point, they obviously care and they understand that this kind of relationship comes with a lot challenges and IT IS difficult.

My love language is all about cuddles, hugs, playing videogames on the couch together, reading a book on the bed while he programs, honestly anything that involves seeing the other person and being close to them. He's very much the same, some of our best times during out first time meeting last years was spent just cuddling or going out on walks with my dog(at the time puppy). Making food together and laughing our asses of when I was trying to have him pronounce different groceries in Swedish. Little things, everyday things, those are the moments that me and him talk about the most when we're apart.

He's coming back to Sweden this summer, in almost 10 weeks exactly and I can't wait to experience all of those things all over again.
Thank you once again for the super sweet video and I wish the two of you the absolute best <3

[amylynn]

This is absolutely couples goals. You two really seem like soulmates. It just shows that when you meet the right person, no obstacle is too great.

[taralafferty]

I had a long distance relationship with my hubby too! He was in USA and I was in China. We spent 3 yrs of long distance before I permanently move to the US. We did pretty much the same like what both of you did! And I would never changed this long distance relationship to anything else. It's such a rewarding testament! We wish both of you lifetime of happiness together 💕

[Phaagraphic]

My husband and I have a similar long distance love story, but ours was Scotland - USA. The things you’re saying about others being worried about him staying faithful or seeing couples walking around, I can really sympathize with that. Spending tons of time on our phone schedule, it’s lovely to see the similarities. I’m happy for you guys and that you managed to combine your lives too❤

[stefanies.]

Our 1 year long distance relationship was long enough for me. It was a very emotional time. You cry while being appart because you miss each other, and you cry when together because you don't want to leave each other again. I am German and he is a Kiwi. In the end it was worth it, LDR really strenghtened our relationship. Now we live together in New Zealand since 2018 and we are so so happy and greatful that we met. But it is hard to live far away from family, and it probably will get harder the older my family gets.

[IntriguedLioness]

I discovered and subscribed to your shorts a few months ago and as a British/European who married a German European who has also lived on 3 continents I had to admit every single one of your shorts is spot on! Viva la Difference!!

[saralatiff]

You might miss this comment but let me say that I’ve always stumble across your shorts on youtube and I find it is refreshing to see someone that is proud of being themselves in a natural raw way. You just gain a new subscriber and a fan! And I adore your love story! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Love from Malaysia

[JenIsHungry]

My husband and I are both from the US but we lived in different states when we first started dating. We were 1600 miles away from each other and you are SO spot on when you said that the pain of separating after a visit gets worse! I ended up moving out to his state and it was nerve wracking. As you said, there is no guarantee it will work out but it was worth the risk! Happily married for 4 year this autumn ❤️

[lillithdv]

My sister had a long distance relationship with her now husband. He lived in Georgia USA and she lived in Brussels Belgium, they'd met once at a party and instantly clicked, love at first sight. Then they reconnected online and talked to each other for 5 years! He started projects of returning to Central America where he's from, where he built a house. He proposed to her and their entire engagement was spent online. In the end my dad and my other sister went to her wedding and it's now been 10 years of marriage, they have a little girl who is bright like the sun. I'm so happy stories like yours and hers happen!

[ichdieLivi]

you just made me realize: "you just have to find the right guy."

I have done so many of these things - sending someone long distance nice presents, trying to stay in contact every day and involve them in your everyday life, try to meet up - but if the other person is not putting in the effort/ is not 100% honest about what this is for him/ is just avoidant/cheating/lying, then really there's nothing I could have done differently. Thanks for showing me that there really is nothing wrong with me, but rather I just *have to find the right guy to give all of my love to* .

I once heard "imagine you could give that much love to the wrong guy - imagine how much more you can give to the right guy and how great that will be". Seeing you together just verifies that.

Love that you've found each other and German boyfriend really is a keeper!! Glad for you two!

Kind regards from Austria