Parenting Tips - What is Positive Discipline? | Parents

What is positive discipline? Watch as Parents Magazine defines different methods of discipline for some easy parenting tips to try. Discipline means "to teach," and through discipline, your child learns self-control. Positive discipline means you show respect, listen, reward good behavior, and remind your children that you love them when teaching them right from wrong. Negative discipline, such as spanking, leads to fear and low self-esteem. There are eight key points to positive child discipline -- be a good role model, be consistent, be calm and brief, be quick, pick your battles, be realistic, catch your child being good, and remind your child that you love him. Your child's behavior won't change immediately, but it's important to start utilizing these discipline techniques early on for effective parenting.

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[clickheretheunusualtipstoe]

_“I think it’s necessary to let kids get bored once in a while—that’s how they learn to be creative.”_

[jeffreyconner]

The problem with our society is a lot of people don't understand the difference between positive discipline and negative discipline. Some people just assume that discipline means abuse. That isn't true.

[gregorypdearth]

Brilliant and simple explanation. Now if only I can get my parents to stop with their medieval spanking technique. It doesn't work. Never has. I am the parent now and don't like spanking at all as I understand how this damages the trust and self esteem and basically demonstrates violence as a means to achieve a desired behavior or goal. It is just stupidly wrong.

I have a toddler just short of 2 years old with no language skills beyond incoherent babbling (complex, but nonetheless inconsistent and seemingly random). I had an issue at the supermarket today that resulted in a short tantrum. I took from him a toy (actually, a long handled car cleaning brush) I was unwilling to buy. He immediately started whining and stomping. I picked him up and just walked him back to the cart in silence after a single assertive 'no.' After just a couple minutes he stopped and was happy again. I did not try to talk to him or make too much eye contact as I don't want him doing bad things just to get attention. It worked out well. I ignored the tantrum itself and merely removed him from the situation (where the toy was left).

What was funny was that after walking him back to the front of the store, I set him down and he took off running. He does that a lot. The kid likes to run. Often, I let him. This time he ran through the maze of the store right back to the shelf where I left the brush. Good to know he has excellent space-perception and memory! He couldn't see the brush though (too high) and didn't get bent out of shape when I walked him back to the front again. I almost caved and bought that brush because I was so impressed with his memory. Glad I didn't though. Don't need another car cleaning brush and the lesson would have been lost.

I am a first time father and just starting to figure out how this game works. My wife is as clueless as I am sometimes and permit my parents to do their form of discipline sometimes. Lo and behold, the child is starting to swing back at us. Violence begets violence. Gotta kill that cycle right now before it becomes worse.. Videos like this are reassuring that I won't have to end up spanking my kid like my parents did my siblings and I. Now I just have to work harder on his language skills...

[parentingbeyondbehaviours]

Discipline is necessary and it’s not a bad thing. Thank you for this video

[morquelalove]

Yes I was really effected by cursing, yelling, hitting and spoken word curses like I'm not going to amount for anything, acting like my daddy folks, and mama say I make her shame.

[asmitathakur]

Finally got the rite answer!
Thank u doctor for that short n simple yet deep explanation

[whipcreamdemon]

Its called consistency, unconditional love, and explaining to them on their own developmental level when behaviors have to be addressed about cause and effect. or choices and consequences. My 5 yr old is stubborn and would rather go without dinner and sit in timeout for 4 hours instead of just apologizing and talking it out about why and what choices were made and what can be done next time to not have mommy have to flip shit AND JUST FOLD THE CLOTHES YOU TORE OUT. You know better you dont listen it cost you toys, privileges, and even basic necessities if it takes thaT. Sweets and toys stickers, candy, pop, ice cream are treats and privileges for children that listen the first time told and dont throw a tantrum, whine and make mommy have to get mad. My 5 year old kept getting in dresser tearing things out not putting back. I took all her clothes away but 3 pair of underwear, 3 pair of socks, 5 bottoms and 5 tops one coat and she was left with her old shoes. All the rest clothes and new shoes were bagged up, I told her she had a week to apologize, and explain what happened and why I took her things away or I was donating them to children that didnt have the luxury of being blessed like she is and will appreciate her clothes and Guess what three days later she finally came around by her own choice and realization from thinking about it and apologized, picked up, folded and put away all her clothes I took away, and could tell me at 5 where she went wrong, why mommy did that, and how to make a better decision next time which she decided was to not get everything out at once and just ask for help instead of refusing straight up and throwing a tantrum over nothing. Just got to stick to what you say and follow thru the moment they know your bullshitting your done forever not ever getting that child to alter their behavior. Teach them right from wrong from infancy and not start at school age, middle school, or high school and guess what they turn out to be some damn awesome people. My 5 year old is empathetic, has understanding and comprehension skills of a 10 year old, but she also has a childhood any kid would dream of. I play with my kids and give them experiences. She appreciates what she has because she knows shes more fortunate then others, and even has had etiquette since three using please, thank you, and sorry, excuse me. GET OFF YOUR PHONE AND COMPUTER AND PARENT, ENJOY THEM, EDUCATE THEM, GUIDE THEM, KNOW YOUR CHILD AND ITS NOT THAT HARD TO MAKE PARENTING THE GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT OF YOUR LIFE BY RAISING A GOOD, MORAL, COMPASSIONATE, TOLERANT, KNOWLEDGE ABLE, ADULT TO LEAD THE SHEEPLES OF the PROBLEM CHILDREN who were ignored as kids. My 5 year old knows I love her on her bad days and moments the same as when shes good and the same as her sister. Everyone is equably valuable to the family and as a family member gets responsibility to contribute. She plays with her sister for a lil bit to help so mommy can cook dinner, folds her own clothes puts them up, helps make sure her sissy has a sippy when we leave, empty the dishwasher twice a week, pick up after her self, and feeds and waters her dog everyday. Letting kids grow up with no responsibility, chores, developing those basic life skills, hygiene (on by their own free will and want) etc while giving them everything they want but time with you is why we have a generation of entitlement. Boy that rapes but gets off because hes a swimmer dont see no big deal about having sex with an unconscious girl he stumbles on, or one that drinks and drives and kills two people gets probation because hes only 15 and first time offender only to break probation and continue to drink and not see an issue with that behavior or have empathy or remorse, or value the lives of others.

[englishforece]

A great summary of positive discipline.

[adalindaanguiano]

wow thank u so much ...these are great tips that i needed to know

[zhadom]

I feel a little ashamed of my past discipline concepts. This is so much better.

[fionnualahoffmann]

The original 'Positive Discipline' series of parenting and classroom management books is based on Adlerian Psychology and does not endorse rewards or punishment nor recommend parents be 'quick' to discipline. It will of course always depend on the needs of the situation. Check out PositiveDiscipline.com for an accurate description.

[damienparker]

And make sure they dont watch dont hug me im scared :D

[myachilover]

She refers to his in it too. If you listen to the whole thing you will hear it

[BrianDonato]

I appreciate the message - Raising children to be optimistic is so important! I discuss this idea in the last video on my channel as well. I hope videos like mine & this one encourage people to really reflect on fostering positivity in others. I hope you keep on creating meaningful content.

[jeffreyconner]

The actual person who brought the kid in the world should be raising them. Not grandma, the media, and internet. In some ways I glad that I was a kid in the non-digital age.

[milipig]

youre not saying how to discipline...I have no idea!

[molsonds]

046 no it's not. just be nice to your kids and dont set limets.

[Amylovespinkful]

Ya know guys can use this Not just girls

[molsonds]

158 give them many chanses because my teacher did that and she got fired by my mom. and if you think im lieing then you have BIG trust probloms

[molsonds]

not to mention 058 my mom did that and i did not love her for 1 month + she allmost got sued btw im 12 not 8 so this video is bad for you