How Narcissists Program You for Self Destruction

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[clairexxx]

After the end, I was told "No need for him to abuse you anymore!... you're doing a fantastic job of it all yourself 😔

[kellyyork]

After escaping an abusive relationship with any malignant narcissist, if you even survive, you are like a prisoner of war who is returning to civilization and civilization does not understand the trauma you’ve experienced. You’re on your face on the floor for several years after that level of abuse, even with a good psychologist. Few understand what you’re going through. It’s THAT BAD. Try to stay far away from these horrid people in the first place if you can so that you never have to go through it.

[kristinamelnichenko]

After working for a narcissistic boss you realize the only skill you built was managing their emotions.

[MaekcseN]

Self-destruction is a general reaction after being exposed to a severe trauma.

[kathleendinsmore]

Self sabotage is one of the outcomes of being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. Now imagine how bad it is when the narcissist is your parent!

[spacegirl]

My response around that time was pure, unadulterated, out-of- this-world anger that I could not control or stop no matter how much I tried. I didn't really do anything "important, " but I did leave some unpleasant jobs and self isolate to attempt to re-regulate.

I came to the realization about what my ex-husband had done to me that decade we were together, and I also learned the harsh reality about my parents and my lifetime of neglect and abuse from them. I have never been so angry in my entire life. I didn't know it was possible to reach the levels of anger I hit -- Mount Everest high and Mariana Trench low. Everything hit me at once, and I was drowning in fury and contempt. I can barely remember anything about that time because I was a bouncy ball of horror.

If any of you went through that or are currently going through it, my heart goes out to you. Eventually the anger fades a little if you allow yourself to feel and confront the heartache and pain.

Thank you, Richard.

[gatorssbm]

Im so glad I found out about attachment theory when that self destruction almost happened, I just got to the point where I was terrified to trust anyone ever again and it didnt help it finally hit me in my 20s just how lonely I actually felt now that my emotions werent being numbed. Hardest period of my life but having the tools to properly get through it and having my partner come into my life has helped immensely overcoming all that insecurity and self doubt that was conditioned into me.

[teralecole]

Accurate! They also try to swap their negative energy for your positive energy. Before the narc, I had good work ethic and could save money. My life post narc, an unfamiliar form of self destruction, back and hip pain due to trauma, so I couldn’t work often. Financially unstable, I don’t have a sense of internal safety that I always had even when times were tough. I always need alone time from the world because I feel to raw and vulnerable to interact. It’s crazy that I was only with the narc for a few months, yet the damage is so severe it’s unbelievable. I grew up in a big inner city and have experienced obstacles that had me questioning if I was going to survive. When I tell you that NOTHING could prepare me for a narcissist. I mean it. I can’t unsee it. I’ve lost any desire to be around humans. It’s been 2 years and I’m still a young beautiful woman, but I find solace in
Peace now.

[yolandaz]

Oh dear.. now I understand😏 It seems the narcissistic abuse has damaged EVERY area of my life...

[salty]

I refuse to self destruct over someone else who never valued me over his own self indulgent ego.

How much more of our lives are we willing to sacrifice for people who never loved us?

Refuse it, people. You got a clean break? Take advantage of the time and heal properly. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel, whether you see it now or not. Keep moving forward.
Find support, focus on your physical health and your diets, find new hobbies. Build a life you don’t have to run from.

[brightstar]

It’s like watching a train wreck from above and we’re the one on the train. 🚂

[winderofcoils]

Im in a narcissistic abusive relationship with our government.

[Lauren-wc]

These videos are just what I needed. For me its been alcohol. Very self destructive. I don't drink nearly as much as I used to. I want to give it up completely.

[lindadaheim]

Absolutely true. My ex and me separated 2 times. The first time I did not know about NPD and did not know what was going on. I completely lost myself and fell so ill I nearly died.
The second time I knew what was going on. It is still difficult, but I get slowly better from day one.

[shannonbrowe]

Absolutely 💯 it's one big mind f**k!! Thank you so feel relatable instead of just me going through it alone. God bless 🙏

[MissTsapovska]

Oh my God, that's why it is so difficult to finally start living your life according to your own better judgement and do what is best for yourself. The reason of self sabotage.

[candir]

This is life long if you have a malignant parent. I can say for sure I’m healing just by not being near, but they did the job in messing with your head so well that you have to work endlessly to see the changes in yourself that you must have to become the successful self you always deserved. Number one for me is the determination to rise above and heal, and sometimes on hard days my motivation is just to spite them.

[teresajsherrick]

THANK YOU!!! I'm dealing with this now... intellectually motivated... emotionally immobilized...

[exquisitebiscuit]

WOW. Light bulb moment. Every time I have made progress in my life, it has been met with an emotional cycle of despair, hopelessness, and intense sadness. Suffice it to say, I haven't really accomplished too much with my life except to keep from offing myself.

[lenaco]

This is so true. Leave quickly once you you know because the damage can not be undone.