When should you Break up with an addict or alcoholic?

There’s no more frustrating relationship than the one with an addict and alcoholic because it's like you're with two people: the person you know that exists inside of the person you love and the person they're showing up as today.

Are you asking yourself “Should I stay or should I go? How do you know when is it time to leave the relationship?

Likely, you have put what you want on the back burner in hopes of getting your loved one better. Most of the time you're so busy figuring out what's going to help them or get them sober or stop them from hurting themselves or others that all of your focus and energy is on them instead of on what you really want.
Here, we are going to look at 5 key indicators that it’s time to consider leaving the relationship. That may also mean taking some time away to work on yourself because here's what I know for sure~ you need to get better whether they get better or not.

Being in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic hurts you in ways you may not yet recognize. It impacts the entire family. Understanding this impact is the key to your healing.

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[HeidiRain]

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[bretp]

You leave, you end up feeling guilty, you stay you feel miserable and hopeless

[RedwoodEden]

It’s been ten months since I broke up with my ex alcoholic. In therapy for trauma and PTSD. The relationship cost me a lot; financially, psychologically, emotionally. If you’re thinking about committing to an addict or alcoholic, DON’T! It’s a fruitless relationship that will cost you dearly.

[TeaRose]

From my personal experience never get into a relationship with an addict, never.

[monarene]

“You’re not a halfway house”. That hit hard.

[allisonwilliams]

How I knew the relationship was over is when I couldn’t even enjoy the “good” sober moments because I knew there was a bad moment soon to come. I stopped wanting to watch movies with him, cuddle with him, etc.

[booshting]

My GF went from promising to address her issue to just going silent. Thats when i knew she was over pretending to want help. I had to disconnect. I read articles about addiction over the years, she wouldnt read anything or watch a video. It was a full time job worrying about her.

[Jazmin_Flores]

This video hits home. I am currently divorcing my husband of 13 years. I did everything, from creating the plans to recovery, reading the books, talking to therapist, doing the rehab thing, going to Al-Anon, being involved with church, making excuses after excuses.

I was not living, I lost myself, I became angry and bitter. The last straw when was he shot himself in the leg after a night of binge drinking. My kids could be taken away. This is how far addiction and the roller coaster takes us.

My kids and my sanity come first.

[angeliamaloney]

What hurts the most is the fact that he knows he hurts me and it doesn't bother him at all. Sometimes I think he even likes it.

[agoodgurlk]

It's lonely...with or without them.

[dawncrawford]

You nailed it ~ hard to leave when you’re an Empath

[tanyasc]

I chose not to reenter my relationship with him when given the chance but I rely on these videos to help me move forward when I start to look back. Missing the great times. You reminded me of how bad the bad times got. I am thankful for the great memories. I am even more thankful I NEVER have to live through a relapse again. NEVER.

[iang]

Just ended a 5 year relationship with an alcoholic. I'm an introspective person and I've identified that my grief isn't really about the break up. My grief is really about her never showing up as the person I loved. No matter how many "talks" or fights. Nothing can get past the great wall alcoholics put around their addiction.

Complete disconnect between what they feel and think, and who they are to others, or how they affect those around them. 0 responsibility. Addicts blame ANYTHING else before looking at their behavior. May she hit bottom and wake up one day.

I know I'm better off. But I need to do real work to not pick another addict. It's a pattern now. In hindsight I was trying to force church girl principles on a tattooed cocktail waitress who had a drug problem. So it's not exactly her fault she couldn't be what I needed. She wasn't that when I met her. Trauma bond.

[clareking]

My ex was the love of my life so I thought. I was always bottom of his list and he was always the top of mine.
I’m in recovery from being with an addict.
He still doesn’t think he has a problem even now. He told his family that I was lying and they believe him. I feel more sorry for them and their bank accounts now. It’s one day at a time at the moment.

[GigiDelaRua]

Wow the last So true I’m so frustrated dealing with my fiancé’s addiction, all the things he has done, I resent him so much for everything stealing money, wrecking my car & he keeps using ! I find myself being so judgemental & angry at him I think it’s time to walk away

[MoShugah]

I asked my partner to work on alcohol consumption, and suddenly, I was single again.

[Cookiesbychris]

I am so happy I found you 😭 just started my “exit” journey. I didn’t realize how common it is to have this guilt. Thank you for building this platform and being so straightforward ❤️

[heatherdollarhide]

Currently living this. Getting my heart to do what my mind is already telling me to do is the problem. 😢

[rebeccajones]

I just started a relationship with a guy I have discovered is an alcoholic. I need to keep away. He needs to go to AA.

[thezanarose]

When people are intoxicated they can be abusive. Sometimes the addiction starts AFTER several years together.