You eat what I make or you don’t eat anything 😭

[HatsuneMidori]

That's how I was raised too, but my dad also added in something like "Oh, the hungry children in Africa would love this" to guilt me into eating and also not letting me do anything else until I ate everything. It honestly only gave me a bad relationship with food for a long time.

[Astronatcreates]

I’m so so grateful for my mother, I was a picky eater as a kid and she was a single mother but she never let me go hungry. However, because she was a single mother I went to daycare for a good amount of my childhood - and those people were very adamant on the “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit” mindset. My favorite story regarding this is the one time they forced me to eat fish. It was a tuna sandwich with fruit mixed in (apples or oranges or something else I don’t remember) and they made me eat it. By the time I had finished and was on my way to put my dishes in the dirty dish tub I threw up all over everything, including the dishes. Not only did I get to go home that day, but they had to clean puke off of every. single. dish. ☺️

[GoingBrokeinTokyo]

I was raised that way but I hate it. That, and EAT EVERYTHING ON YOUR PLATE OR NO LEAVING THE TABLE. I think it gave me such a bad relationship with food. Now, with my niece and nephew I try to 1. Include them in the food making process so we make something we all want and 2. If they want something separate who cares I’ll just make a small thing for them. I just want them fed with good food.

[internetperson.]

I think it's important to let children decide for themselves what their diet is like, as long as they're eating their fruits and vegetables and getting the nutrients they need. It's important to do what we can to introduce them to all cuisine so they can feed themselves well later on. Y'know, be respectful but also know when to tell them there's more to life than french fries. 😋

[niesamowiterayson]

YEEEESS I had a similar issue growing up but luckily I've managed to learn how to cook with things I actually like and experiment and push my boundaries !! (When it's me doing the cooking at least lmao)

[bethanyc]

My grandma was like that and my parents enforced it anytime we had Sunday dinner at hers. However my mom was pretty kind with me. I am the opposite of you, I don't do seafood besides shellfish, so when she made tuna sandwiches for my brother's she made egg salad for me. My sweet kind mother went out of her way to make different lunch for her only daughter. However in my early adulthood I went through a period of extreme poverty and houselessness. Anytime someone provided me with a meal I ate it with gratitude. Even tuna. Even asparagus!

[YayaSweetie]

My Mom was the same way. My Palestinian Grandmother still says things like, "We get it, you've made your point, just eat the meat already.". My mom has been vegetarian for 40 years. 😮‍💨😅
I'm glad your Mom eventually made different dishes for you. 😊💕

[macaronnotmacadamia]

Personally wasnt raised like this because I would get insanely sick but my parents did. It was just reheated for breakfast the next day for them (liver, cow tounge, etc)

[KaijuKim]

Yep. If I didn’t eat what my mom gave me I was forced to stand in the corner for 10 minutes or so. One time I looked at my meal, knew I wasn’t going to eat it and just got up and stood in the corner without being told 😂

[AprilRainMayFlowers]

Yes but she didn't force us to eat it. My mother always said, "If you don't want what I made, there's the peanut butter. There's the jam. Make yourself a sandwich" 😊

[sagesufferswell]

Thankfully I wasn't in a family like that. Unfortunately we were in extreme poverty and my Dad was always working so I often ended up having to make my own dinner and feed my brother too. I once goy burned really badly trying to make him mac and cheese.

[roxcyn]

That cake looks so cool! I hope the birthday person loved it.

Usually my parents would make different dishes if we didn't like certain things. Some relatives were like that, though. You eat what I made or nothing at all then. Kind of hard if you dislike it. 😢

[isabellamaria]

I also have some dislikes with certain foods and what I do is just get leftovers, or some other kind of food from the fridge. I’ve never understood the “or you don’t eat at all”, thing like I’m not going to punish a child for having an opinion.

[spoonfulofsalt]

My mom had a "you have to have one bite of everything" rule which I still don't agree with but was certainly better than the all or nothing rules some of my friends had. If I ever have kids, I think I will at least start with "if you don't like what I make, you're welcome to make something for yourself." This could of course need adaptations, but I'm of the opinion that no one should be forced to eat what they don't like (or even think they won't like).

[neon]

My mom used to that. Then I did actually almost throw up one easter. She never made me eat stuff I didn't like again.

[hideyable]

Interesting perspective. I'm the opposite, I think everything from the sea smells disgusting - for example, walking past a sushi counter makes me nauseous. Fortunately, we rarely had a fish based meal & if we did, I'd just eat the accompanying vegetables.

[MadMvskoke]

I was raised like this as an autistic child in the south which SUCKS when one of the foods you hate the most is venison. I am literally incapable of eating it I hate it sm. I will just retch and spit it up. I can NOT eat it. And my family didn’t believe me, said I either ate it or went hungry OR just tried to hide it in my food.

Suffice to say I went to bed without dinner a lot.

[Bonnies-Lasses]

My Mom can't eat stewed tomatoes. Her grandmother was of the same mindset of eat whatever I put in front of you, but did try to not give them to her. Until the cousins got upset and whined about "Why doesn't Gracie have to eat them?!?" So she told Mom she had to eat them and as soon as they hit her tongue she was out the back door puking. Thankfully Mom and Dad were more of a, "You have to try a bite and if you don't like it fine." And Mom reamed my bio Dad a new one when she found out he forced me to eat an entire meal of liver and onions during a visit.

[reinaitoga]

See I was the kid that took option b and just didn't eat. To me, the discomfort of having to taste a food I disliked was less than the pain and dizziness of going hungry. I was a very stubborn child that resented being forced into a choice so I would choose the option that secured, in my mind, my own autonomy.

[clownbag]

I was raised this way too. My fiance has ARFID (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) so whilst I eat everything I am given, I also understand the importance of consent when it comes to food. I learnt a lot from him. Every pot has its lid.