WHAT DO NARCISSISTS FEEL INSIDE?

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse How do narcissists feel inside? What are narcissists thinking when they go off on nonsensical tirades or when they lash out at people that haven't done anything to them? Narcissists have volatile, unpredictable emotions, but what is behind this? In this video, I explain how narcissists feel in day to day to life and why their behavior can be so irrational.

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[theraven]

Bitter, resentful, angry, depressed, spiteful, delicate, twisted and desperate.

[Lucy-jzsg]

They feel empty, lonely - you will feel like they do if you’re unfortunate to be in a relationship or related to one.
You smiling incites rage, you crying incites rage, you brushing your teeth incites a rage, they are hollow raging behind the flakey mask.

[soliel]

"The wicked flee when no man pursues."

[vilistoyanov]

One of the best videos about narcissism I've ever watched. Thank you .

[gabrielamartiniuc]

That dark inner wolf is themselves. Their own evil behavior is what they’re projecting onto others. The answer to this narcissism is to start treating others how THEY would want to be treated. They know how they want to be treated !! They need to stop hurting others, that’s why they feel so terrible!

[lozziepoppy]

He’s so desparate to be me, that’s why he stalks and tries to hack.

[allisonbaxter]

My narcissist ex explained his inside to me as "soulless" "exposed" "I don't exist" "i was sacrificed" "I lost the house to my mind"
Lots of compassionate for him. But it was the most unhealthy thing I have been through.

[chrisgorski]

What an amazing job you did in this video! Every person who thinks they can love a Narcissist should watch this. My narc did not even get peace in her sleep. Frequent angry fight outbursts most nights with twitches, kicks and angry “F you!” Shouts.

[concernedcitizen]

Spot on - I am an aware narcisist 66 years old, my condition has improved over time and also from studying the subject over some years now to find out how this condition arises. Both my parents were BPD and my father had regular psychotic rage episodes towards me from I was 5 years, I had to flee into my fantasy world to survive and compensate for the deep shame, and my behavior until late in life has been like you describe. It is living in a nightmare.

[executiveassistantkettleshiner]

I'm a vulnerable narcissist, sort of. Not diagnosed, but I have enough traits to qualify, I identify a lot with how many narcs speak about themselves (when they're being candid and vulnerable about it anyway) and it explains things that, until I found out about it, weren't explained at all.

Now, I'm also a schizoid (not as strange an overlap as it seems), so I live in my head a lot, and I have a lot of time to introspect very deeply, so I'm very self-aware. A few comments I wanna make (because I feel seen and I wanna share stuff, and yes of course it's going to be all about me) :

What I mean by all that is, that's a good video and it feels...fairly accurate ? Fairly accurate, and I want to explain how I relate to it.

-Shame :

I feel mine, a lot. I'm excruciatingly aware of it. I'm ashamed of myself basically 24/7. I can feel shame about literally anything I do. My body language alone communicates how much I cringe away from others just for being perceived, and how uncomfortable I am just existing. On a bad day being outside just makes me feel withered and upset.

-Paranoia :

I'm paranoid of what others think and most importantly feel about me. Less than I used to be, because I've done a lot of work on it, but god is it scary not knowing other people's minds. I gather information pathologically because I need to know their opinions of me are not secretly turning.

-Black hole :

That's close to how I describe myself. I'm a ring of fragments orbiting a...nothing. Just a core of nothing. I have so little going on inside me, and other people are my life support. In a bad way ! In a pretty bad way. I cling onto others all day, trying to borrow their sense of meaning and esteem and appreciation for life. On my own I feel so little. Don't have a Wolf though.

- "Can't ever sit and relax"

Yeah...totally. Always on edge in some way. If I'm not feeling threatened, or jealous, then I'm wanting, lacking, I'm hungry and I need to go latch onto somebody for sustenance. It's a rare moment that I feel content with myself. As I get better I feel it a little more often, though.

- "That they don't even understand the fullness of your existence"

It's funny, but not only do I feel other people as objects, I feel myself as an object, too. And on top of that, I also love fusion, dis-individuation ? Because I'm alienated and, deep down, I feel like everyone belongs to me, is a part of me, or like we're actually one being, and it hurts sometimes to think about how we're all separate individuals. I hate it, really, it feels very lonely. I wish humanity was just a perfect hive mind, so I could just be a permanent part of everyone else.

[wendalljohnson]

The analogy about the supermarket made perfect sense in reference to narcs persistent anger.

[gloriadonahue]

The impression I got from your story about the person who felt there was a wolf after them. The impression I got was that the wolf represents narcissism itself. And that they recognized had this problem but they didn't understand what narcissism is or was not able to admit to that part of it.

[jmfs]

I sense a frenetic, angry insecurity from my narcissistic manager. A desperate sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) that anyone gets any attention without their permission. They seek constant outside stimulus to drown out their own inner monologue, clutching at others lives to keep themselves from falling into their own void. Words are like puzzles in an escape room to them, and they will piece together phrases that trigger different responses that make them feel like they have some sort of control... that if they can just manipulate the situation perfectly they can stand upon the mangled bodies of those they chaotically throw under them... but there is never a finish line. I began Gray Rocking, and went from the scapegoat, to noticing other people in our organization voice frustration and confusion with the narcissist's new pursuit of supply.

[marciahammond]

My friend called his 'internal creature ' a bear.
He also spoke about the "abyss inside' as well as saying to me "my mind is as deep as the deepest ocean and no one can swim. It broke my heart and I had to distance myself from him before I got hurt.
He said that he is a rock that I may shelter against but that I must "not dive in deeper or you will break yourself" his exact words.😢

[tathe]

This wolf analogy is real! The one said I need my lonesome Wolfes days. And He needs this days the hole summer long… (And in his status is a hole🕳️and the commend off! )
I think he feels like he musst chase people that will love them… he needs this energy to survive! And in the summer( he is in my opinion a somatic one) he attracts with his body and gets supply with it! He told me he has to stay thin and have to have worked out body to be adorable!!! That’s the Funktion of his body!
For me that all was tracique!!! His rage I often got, when I told him my truth, was so immens he literally destroyed so much stuff in this raging times, that he had to quit the relationship cause he felt like he would harm me or himselfes when he stayed in it. And I can understand this, cause I feel he is right with his beleave!!! This dark hole and this attention hungry never satisfied wolf inside him pushes him to go on and on. And someone like me who tried to fix him to make him calm and loving, is like a wall that he has to beak trough, cause he couldn’t stop doing what he did… casing around and collecting love energy. This rage of trying to stop this wolf inside is so immens, it’s power is absolut unstopable! That’s how I feel about it!!!!
Inside me there is a big big resonance to this explanation how they work!!! 🎉wow

[soliel]

"The belly of the wicked shall want."

[denisemangan]

Such a well explained video on the perspective of the narcissist. My sister has a lot of these hallmarks. She is paranoid about her grandchildren & gets offensive & defensive with them for minor reasons. She was a very angry & paranoid child. If things don’t go her way she bursts forth with anger & rage. Her rage is tied up with her feeling lack of control. I think she has deep shame because she was not the golden child & sexually abused. However I was abused too.
My mother was a narcissist & she would rage, punch & slap.

My sister didn’t even bat an eyelid when she told me I couldn’t go to her wedding- she lost my trust and loyalty. Now her grown children have issue with her, so I try to give my niece & her children love & support🇦🇺

[RickyRodriguez-wgpp]

they are awful evil people with little respect to the closest people in their lives. I want to feel bad for her, but man did she torture me for a whole year and discared me on anniversary .... purposely tried to pick fights all day ... i finally exposed her and havent spoken since.

[soniashukla]

I love your example of the grocery store. That really helped to put myself in their shoes...and not just dismiss them as crazy. You're doing a great job here btw. 🙌

[vanessa]

my narc ex share with me that he feel that inside he have someone living, like other he but evil, that’s make me laugh at that time but now I can understand