The narcissist: the empty vessel that makes much noise

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[cairosilver]

“A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company.”

― Oscar Wilde

[lynngreen]

I’ve noticed narcissists also think they are being interrupted a lot. The grandiose ones don’t want to hear what others have to say and the covert ones criticize others’ voices.

[moniquejackson]

Sometimes they're just physically noisy most of the time. They can't walk into a room without loudly dropping something on the counter or slamming a cabinet door. They demand your attention with this noise.

[indigovj]

The worst part was that when I found someone whom I could converse about interesting topics, the narc would jump right in and say certain annoying things or just change the subject to something of their interest. They can’t let a healthy conversation happen around them.

[jasmin]

“That’s enough of me talking about myself.. let’s hear you talk about me” ― (Anonymous)

[sophiafreewoman]

"A wise man once said nothing."

[reallifepsych]

Yes, so full of life, promises, and love bombing when you first meet them. Then you start to notice they care more about first impressions with other people than they care about you daily!

[NarcSurvivor]

They’re like an empty void that can never be filled.

[roseannecurtis]

The Chinese have a saying: “Beware the man who stirs the water to make it appear deep.”

[marianbobian]

So very true “noisy isn’t listening”. And what I’ve found with experiencing “the loudest person in the room” is that people seem to gravitate towards them because they are just that...loud. But they tend to lack substance and not be the most knowledgeable person in the room. In fact, they are extremely intimidated by extremely thoughtful, creative and intelligent people, so the over-talking comes from an empty and insecure place. For years, I would be triggered by people like this until I understood the reason behind the noise.

[CharmainO]

I have a theory about this:
The loud, constantly talking, and noise making narcissist does this to gain control over, and manipulate their outer world. Especially when it's just the two of you. The more talkative and noisy they are, the less you are able to gather and hear your own thoughts. When you can't think, because of this ongoing irritating flow of sound, you become susceptible to their controlling and manipulative behaviour, which could lead to you doing things you don't want to do and maybe even becoming unhinged. And when you express your feelings about this, the automatically become the victim. Score for the narcissist!

[suzannehenderson]

When you finally get a perspective of that ‘centre of the crowd ‘ person who seemed so charismatic, confident, amusing, highly opinionated, relatable, it’s a shock to see it was all a cover for criticism, judgement, doing down and contempt for others.

[dellto]

Attributed to Abraham Lincoln:

Better to remain silent and thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt.

[teal]

"...the most shallow, superficial and empty people are the ones that make the most noise!"

[BirdShutterbug]

I don't know if my ex is a narc but my good friend said that he definitely is. I do know that when he's in a group of people, he has to be in the center of the conversation. He also never stops moving around and having to be busy doing something. He just can't stand still. Add to it that he has no empathy and no filter when he says things. I'm grateful that after 35 years of marriage, I finally found the strength and courage to leave. I'm exhausted but I know with time that will go away. I'm so grateful to have found Dr. Ramani and her videos. It is helping to explain a lot.

[ghuyakalika]

I wonder why narcissistic people are always repeating what they say over and over again.
Is that a thing!?
All the narcissists I know repeat themselves over and over again
I remember once my father explained directions to me but he repeated it so many times that I just stopped listening. When I arrived at the intersection I just couldn't remember what he said. It's always so much repeating.


If I were singing and everyone in the family was listening my father would come into the room and loudly start talking and I would stop. I thought he was just absent minded and just wasn't listening.
He always needs to be the center of attention.
In my experience the narcissist constantly cycles between silent stonewalling and empty loudness. Even making any kind of sound.

[LyndieLouWho]

They know what empathy, love and sympathy look like by watching others but have no idea what these things actually feel like.
I cannot imagine being THAT empty.

[LaViedeRed]

About being alone, we are not made to be alone for too long, not only narcissists.
But I'd rather be alone than being with people who devalue me consistently

[unconversantcallowincandes]

I like the proverb:

"A fool speaks because he has to say something;
A wise man speaks because he has something to say"

I would much rather to have something to offer and contribute vs blathering about nonsense to fill in the silence.

[urhetartj]

One time he was talking to a complete stranger for 3 hours and I was standing next to them, he did not acknowledge or tried to involve me into the conversation at all.