Why I don't have friends (anymore)

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[nathanieldrew]

I feel lucky to have a dad who is introspective and willing to push back against an auto-pilot way of going through life. This matters infinitely more to me than how many friends you've got.

Also, looking good in that shirt!!

[midwestlakelife]

I’ve never been a person to have friends. I used to feel bad about it when I was a young girl, but as I got older I realized I wasn’t much interested in hanging out with people. It takes work and time to maintain relationships most that aren’t worth the investment. Some people in my life have told me I need to make friends and I’ve told them I’m just not interested. I am not married. I am single. So for those who claim that I’ll feel differently when my spouse dies, well that doesn’t apply to me since there is no spouse. I’m single and a dog mom and animal lover. I’m at peace and very content ❤

[auricgoldfinger]

I’m 68 and retired. No friends. No need to adapt to someone else’s whims. But rarely pass a neighbor or certainly a dog without saying hello

[randykoger]

A friend must both interested AND interesting. This is beyond the social abilities of about 75-85% of the population.

[sloanchessman]

I agree with you 100%. I’m 59-years-old, and don’t have any friends…by choice. I don’t like superficial relationships and meaningless chit chat that most people engage in. I’m very much an introvert and I really enjoy my own company so much.

[cherlgolja]

Friends are to much work ! I love people at a distance ❤

[tea]

Friends are like taking a train ride for your life's journey. Some people get on and sit with you for a while and some gets off. Good or bad, you learned from them and you are grateful. I am in my sixties now, Time is more precious now. So I only make efforts with my long time friends and friends that I feel a connection to.

The best way to deal with friendships is NOT to have any expectations. Do not put your own rules on others. Those of whom are meant to be in your life, they will stay with you till the end.

[ivi]

I myself don’t have many friends I just find that people are constantly busy. I’d like friends, who are spontaneous, adventurous, and most importantly genuine. Nowadays that’s hard to find. I don’t agree that friendship should always be deep, Sometimes it’s just nice to have friends who are fun too otherwise it will become like therapy sessions instead of a friendship

[Kwood]

I enjoy my peace now that I’m older . Simple things like gardening & walking my dog make me happy.

[Yasmine]

We also need to address this ridiculous notion that if you don't have friends or very many friends then something is wrong with you/you're inferior

[jamesstevens]

Absolutely brilliant! You’ve wonderfully articulated my thoughts on the subject completely. I used to think I was lacking in some important emotional component. Not the case anymore. You’ve confirmed that I’m not alone in this thinking. I’ve never heard anyone talk about such a sensitive subject with such clarity and brevity. Thank you.

[RJ-]

You're lucky to have Cecilia and your children. That changes the need/desire to find friends outside of family.

[parrotheadauthor]

In my opinion, it's not difficult at 57 to not have friends, especially if you have a spouse and children and many personal interests/hobbies. But to be 6, 16, 26 without friends is a whole different story; connecting with others, building relationships, being liked, being a friend to another teaches us so much. My heart breaks for people who go through life without having had a friend(s).

[kb]

I appreciate this. I used to have many friends who would share their lives with me. I would be there for them at their beck and call. Then I got sick, and no one checked in on they all fell away. Everyone whom I thought I was close to. Now, I choose to have no friends because it's a waste of my time. I now spend my days reading, doing my art, sleeping in and staying up late. Spending time with my dog who loves me as I am. Life is good and I am free.

[ashleymarie]

If you like yourself, you want to be mostly by yourself. There is peace in that

[AlmaVasquezjr]

The young cling together because of anxiety.
As you get older
Anxiety disappears
And you don't need so many friends

[macaccount]

If your spouse passes, you will view this VERY differently. I used to say exactly the same thing. I now see the world entirely differently.

[helencousins]

The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Thank you for a wonderful video.

[melvano]

I’ve lost my closest friends due to jealousy and politics. I realized after the fact that I was putting in all the effort to sustain those relationships.

[ciaobella]

My adult son and I agree that there's rarely a "friend" in life that is a deep relationship. For me, I see people come into my life for a reason, and then leave again. I think about them once in a while then remember that that season is over. I have no desire for a friend. I live alone and love it. I'm often called "strange" or weird" but it doesn't matter to me. In fact I like being weird if that's what I am, because I'm happy. Also, I enjoy meeting strangers knowing that most likely we will never meet again. There's a poignancy to that, a joy, and for me, that's meaning. I appreciate you and your videos. Thank you for sharing your honest realities and some of your inner truths. That's more than most would or can do. I send you blessings, from Italy.