Is LOVE enough? @SusanWinter

We often hear the saying, “love is enough” to make a romance work. But is it? The underlying message shouldn’t be ignored. You’re asking for less:

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[E_Tea]

The biggest lesson I've learnt from my last relationship is that love absolutely isn't enough. When you start realising over time that actually you and your partner aren't compatible - may it be values that changed or come to light later in the relationship or goals that change - because those things can be fluid. Its truly heartbreaking, we both suffered in this relationship and I'm still mourning him 10 months later. It was the closest I ever got to someone solid and I still miss him. So yes, love is not enough - unfortunately.

[fatcatontario]

I think it depends on how one defines love. If you truly love someone you are committed to stay with them through thick and thin...you never let go of the one you truly love.

[sherriflemming]

Love is not enough. Indeed relationships must be functional. Choose someone with none of the dealbreakers and youll have peace and stability.

[teripersson]

Needed to hear this Susan. This is me!! Definitely. I loved my ex but had to walk away. He was a player and our lifestyles were just not a good enough match. He was also an avoidant so despite letting slip on the odd occasion that he loved me, when it came to the crunch he couldn't bring himself to say it. Square peg, round hole comes to mind x

[Himdownstairs]

I'd have to disagree. I've been married 15 years. And there were points that love was the only thing that brought us through and guided us to make change. Based off what you are saying, love means you are always happy...

That's just unrealistic overall! I love my mother, and many other people in my life that I'm never going to walk away from. In the same breath I have never always been happy with those people. It however was my love and bond with them that helped me weather the storm and find solutions. Sometimes love is all we have! And to be without it would truly be unfortunate!

[BasedBrothers]

Recently had this happen. It’s very tough to accept. There was strong attraction, lots of fun and laughter, and interesting conversations. I always thought that those qualities would be enough to build a wonderful relationship upon. I was, and she was initially, infatuated. What I realized though is that your partner must have emotional maturity/maturity in general. Her emotions would swing depending if I agreed with her or not, and if I did not she would get cold and distant/withdraw physically. That’s not how a mature person who can communicate handles discussions/different opinions. Maturity means being able to accept a partners differences in opinions and still love them, and work to understand them, see their good qualities even when there is disagreement etc. She lacked that skill, and ended it. We had very different opinions (she was ”woke” and I’m conservative) and she could not handle that with maturity, respect and understanding for me. Thanks for your work Susan you have helped me so much on my love journey

[mlantieri]

Hi lovely Susan…To truly love someone, you have to enjoy being with and around them FIRST ! Big hugs to Nika 👍🐶🐶🐶

[desertrose]

Well said! I’d also add that so many people seek love externally before they healed themselves internal to avoid that hard work. The example is so many people in online dating are looking for validation of egos, instant gratification, someone to fix their wounds, or people who wants to avoid healing their past relationships. People who can’t prove that they are able to be alone and need to be in constant relationships are very unattractive. Hard pass.

[MacAutoDiag]

Wow your channel has blown up. I remember when you only had like 100 subscribers years ago

[ronalddoucette]

People are so fickle these days it's best not to get married nor to live common law. It's definitely to the man's advantage. Too many people focus on themselves instead of working harder on itself.

[catherinegardener]

I needed to hear that ❤ most definitely love does not conquer all❤

[Matilda_]

It's so soothing to watch Susan's clothes and the thumbnail are always in matching colors in every video😭

[blackdiamond]

Wow, this right here, opened more than i realized, i thank you and i appreciate so much

[fishstickbio]

Definitely NOT .For a marriage to be successful both parties need to have the same exact skills .Men do not want to get married from the fear of divorce and the pension money .

[onelove]

Omg..!! I always kept asking myself .. isn’t love enough? But now I get it. Thank you so much Susan. U are a blessed soul.. love you loads.. stay safe ❤

[kamran.i]

Hi Susan I hope you read my comment and respond, Susan I was approached by someone and they indicated that they wanted something long term eventually we started talking on and off over texts, to mention this is sort of a long distance thing we are both far from each other having not met each other physically, we don't get to talk alot or communicate but only at there feasable time so far there have been no emotional exchanges between us they are sort of guarded and they cleared to me that we will be friends untill we have known each other to proceed with things and that this not a relationship they stated that due to past experiences they want to give things time and it made sense but I feel anxious all the time they are very open and bring out topics from the past about there exz and intimacy between them and it kind of hurts me ...I have told them to not bring past into the present and clearly shown them that it triggers my anxiety. I am not seeing much effort on there part and it's been 2 months now I don't feel that we are emotionally connected however I do make efforts but they sort of are all about them self and there goals . I am not sure where I stand with this I see all sort of red flags like the distance between us, not being emotionaly invested or trying to and there ex hanging around them as friends. I am not sure if I am overthinking things...a word of advice would help.The reason I got involved is beacause of the long term thing I have always wanted something long term as a gay guy it is hard to find other men who are willing for a future together and in the hopes of that I was willing to give this a try I was previously in a relationship with a narcissist for about 4 years untill I was dumped and cheated on and I guess it was the same reason I stayed in that situation too...I would really appreciate some insight.

[SaraH-hocp]

What if you are the bad partner?😅😂😢 How to change?