Gut feelings: Truth, or insecurity?

Alex writes, “How to tell if your gut feeling speaks the truth or if it’s insecurity? I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. We love each other & all is great. But I feel that something is wrong. I don’t know if my gut is signaling that she's cheating or if she's not in it for the long-term. Or if this feeling is insecurity. I've been insecure in the past, but my gut feeling has also been right in the past.”

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[bygracethroughfaith]

Stayed with a guy far too long because I was telling myself "I'm just overreacting" and "my anxiety comes from my childhood wounds". Nope, the dude was actually still in love with his ex, and my gut feeling picked it up. Wish, wish, wish I had acted on my gut feeling earlier. If you feel "anxious for no reason" - you're not crazy. There is a reason, it just needs to be understood correctly ♥ hope this helps somebody

[Annie-qpiu]

It gets louder and louder the more you ignore it. I always imagine it as someone knocking on a door in my mind and yelling louder and louder until I listen.

[padegra]

One piece of advice: if you have to keep convincing yourself that everything is fine and you can't shake off the feeling that something is wrong and anxiety comes out of nowhere just leave. Stop trying to be politically correct and give people a chance. They might be great but if you are not feeling it you are just not feeling it. That doesn't make you a bad person. At the beggining you should be calm and excited. Feeling should be growing slowly but steadily. If there are not and anxiety keeps peeking out it's for a reason. Trust yourself.

[walaamagic]

that cobalt blue looks stunning on you susan! 💙

[mrjjthor]

I started detecting some changes in my partner. My gut feeling said she was cheating and even though she denied it in the beginning, she confessed later after she was caught. Always trust your gut.

[deadislander]

Be careful sharing this kind of gut feeling information if you suspect your partner is a cover narcissist. They will use that against you and Gaslight you, telling you you're crazy and need help or even therapy to deal with your insecurities when they're the ones not in it fully and your gut feeling is nothing but correct at the fact they have one foot out the door and don't want you to know

[lifesymphony]

Don't underestimate the power of a woman instinct. My instinct is never wrong.

[biba]

I will never go against my gut again ever before i meet him i had gut feeling not too go their didn't listen most of the relationship has been toxic mind games and the rest 😔

[lindybright]

It absolutely speaks the truth. Your gut feeling just reaffirms that there’s something wrong with the relationship. It may not necessarily confirm that the other person is cheating, but it does confirm that you don’t feel right in the relationship. You’re in denial if you think all is great and you want to sweep your gut under the rug.

[thewatcher]

My partner has accused me of cheating and I have always been loyal and faithful. It is so hurtful to be falsely accused and watching your love and relationship be ripped apart over it. My partner claims he feels it in his gut and intuition, this is so hard to wrap my head around, when I know my innocence 😢

[wanderer]

After narcissistic abuse, I will always go by my intuition.
Love your top❣

[ALABRASILIANA]

I love this. And very rarely are insecurities unwarranted, it's usually behavior which doesn't align with safety/security in a relationship manifesting itself. If people care about the relationship and cultivating it properly, the right actions are taken and exhibited. So if someone's not all in or just there for less committed reasons, you'll be able to tell.

[fil_britbunnyboi]

I never knew how to differentiate between insecurity and gut instincts before I found out my ex cheated on me. Now I know never to second guess my gut again!

[Areyoukiddingme]

I had a gut feeling after 1 month he wasn't for me. He love bombed me (big red flag) and became very needy and clingy. I felt so smothered! I told him I needed space. He guilt tripped me to keep trying. Saying "I'm going to miss you so much". 4 years later and countless accusations of cheating when I wasn't doing anything! Things would be ok then out of the blue he would blow up and accuse me. I am almost 100% sure now he was the one cheating with this woman he always claimed was just a "friend". It was hell on earth! I am healing now but wish I had followed my intuition. Ladies we have a strong sense of intuition. NEVER ignore your GUT FEELINGS!!

[lanikinlywalker]

Your gut is always right. You know when something is off or wrong. Don’t be fooled by their words. Trust their actions

[hersheykisseys]

Everytime i didn't listen to my gut, i will regret it shortly after. Now i do not fear it but always rely on it

[pavicaradovic]

I love the way you teach us how to communicate in relationship.

[nmitrading]

Gut instinct is there to guide you I always say give the benefit of the doubt once then notice behavior patterns

[amyj.]

Everything you said is what saved me from my last abusive relationship

[jamarri]

When you are with someone and everything is great, the relationship is great, you spend good moments and heartfelt moments with them, but all of a sudden you feel this gut feeling that you are not happy, that’s your gut speaking. Even though things are good, your gut is protecting you. Listen to it. You need to make sure what it is you need to be clear, but listen to it when you are happy or not. It can’t fail you!