What to do when you're not a 'priority' @SusanWinter

Realizing you’re no longer a priority is excruciating. Here are the steps to take that’ll reboot your confidence and create a new desire within your partner.

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[s.jensen]

If we're not a priority to someone, then we should respect ourselves enough to leave them alone and prioritize ourselves. Being alone can be even more fulfilling than being in a sad excuse of a relationship.

[chempanda]

Putting them on a pedestal is a recipe for a disaster.

[BritBrat]

Solution: make them less of a priority

[raymundofantastico]

"There's no reason we have to lose ourselves in order to love somebody else."
- Susan Winter

[surviveit]

Im not a priority just a convenience. I stopped making myself avaliable and backed away. If he wants me he will come if he doesnt so be it.

[bluefavorites]

What's the point of being in a relationship if you're having to compensate for their absence? Sure, you shouldn't rely on them for happiness but they should be able to recognize your needs and meet those needs, or at least make a compromise. I guess bottom line, both partners need to be at the same level in terms of prioritizing each other.

[ytfeverguy]

This is why I don't even want to get into relationships in the first place. I don't need anybody. When I try to bond I come off needy. Can't win.

[kevphillips]

Some people are takers and they will always take no doubt.

[gina]

Realizing that I was clearly not a priority in my person's life, but not wanting to end the relationship, I decided to give him the space he apparently needed. I went back to enjoying and getting on with the other aspects of my life without totally disconnecting from him. Turns out, he didn't like that very much.

[catlady]

Yeah, it hurts to realize someone you really care about and thought cared about you really never did. Exactly....waiting by the phone for him to call is a waste of time. He's out and about enjoying his life not giving me a second thought.

[erikgification]

Some people are so lonely, desperate and lost their priority is to let toxic people run their lives and rule their emotions. It is a choice, you choose who you associate with and invest in.

[ChildrenofthelivingGod]

I’m dumping him! I’m dumping him! I’m dumping him! No need for rebuilding this relationship! Excuse after excuse. I see him only on weekends but he can’t create time.

[michaelkern]

I had to learn this the hard way. My recent engagement failed and I needed help post-surgery from a torn Achilles’ tendon. People’s true colors come out in times of need and I was treated like a second class citizen.

[kirkv]

This is how I was feeling. Always worried about not getting a good morning or good night text, what if I have to do it first all the time. How come she can go on Facebook and post something but not text me the whole day. Too much anxiety and insecurity. This video definitely helps my situation. Kirk

[claudettee.]

So true, is so refreshing and comforting being busy, takes my mind off thinking about a guy who's just too busy to acknowledge your presence in his life.

[sarahmendez]

I feel like I am not a priority, and it took me a while to figure this out.. he has a busier schedule than me, i understand he can’t give me time and attention all the time. But when he is free, he makes excuses that he is tired, “oh sorry I was busy hanging out with my family or “I could only call you when I’m about to sleep”, “sorry I didn’t text you back”. Then it starts with the no good morning/ goodnight texts. Then it turns to him not even Apologizing and turns it around on me saying I’m selfish for wanting attention. When I have been nothing but patient.. it’s excuses after excuses especially when we plan things and ‘then something comes up’ then why can’t they break up with you? Why can’t these types of people just end it..???

[VirgoDluxe]

Great advice! Doing this will either make your partner give you more of their time OR make you realize that you deserve to be with someone who can give you more of their time and exit the relationship. In my case the latter happened. After months of talking it over with my partner, and being patient and ‘doing me’, the situation did not improve. I was constantly bending to fit into his world. Even though he made a couple of improvements it simply was not enough for what I wanted at this time in my life. First I thought I was being clingy or needy, but thank goodness for good friends who told me that it’s ok to want to be with someone who has time to give. I was becoming anxious and insecure as a result of not having my needs met. This just made matters worse. Be true to yourself! There’s someone out there for everyone ❤️

[nyimasalma]

1. do what things make u happy, which make u happy. go back to the things you love take time.
dont be afraid making boundaries!
2. edify ur life, refuel ourselves

[simplymarilyn]

Exactly! We can't expect someone to prioritize us just because we have made them the center of our lives. So now we have to back up, get a grip and start taking care of ourselves! I definitely learned something valuable today, Miss Susan. Thank-you!

[mystiquelou]

Just accept you've been used and lied to cruelly by a coward that cannot confront his actions and reverts his actions on to you in his defense that is so low