Break Ups Are Better Than Relationships

About Joey Kidney: Hi, my name is Joey and I have a pretty crazy life. I go through the ups and downs, just like anyone, but I share them with the world. Join me on my journey, let's make this life as amazing as it can be. Live to be happy and be happy to live!

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[fergusonimagery]

The hardest thing is to give up the urge to fight for them, and to start fighting for yourself instead.

[mirandaalexis]

I actually became who I wanted after my break up

[morganveller]

I’m one of the odd people that got to experience real love very early in life. I was with one person from the time I was 13 until almost 22. There were many MANY ups and downs during our almost 10 years together, extreme highs and extreme lows, but I felt that I had the person I was going to be with forever, because we were able to work through almost anything life through at us and we fought through… until one day he didn’t want to anymore. He left saying he needed to “work on himself” and 2 months later was with someone new. I was devastated. I truly had never experienced such dark emotions and heartache. The first year after it happened I was lost and had no idea who I was or what my life was supposed to look like without him. It wasn’t until year 2 post break up that I put in the work to find myself and truly become happy, just by myself. I learned SO much throughout the process and at the end of year 2 I was genuinely happy. I’m in year 3, still single, just turned 25 and I can honestly say I have never been more content. In these past 3 years I got an Aussie named Miller who is my absolute best friend 🥰, bought my first car, live in a beautiful apartment and live my life to the fullest daily. I take care of my body and mind and even on the days when I’m down, I know I have so much to be grateful for in this life. Yes, I get lonely sometimes but I’ve learned how to sit with those emotions and I know those feelings are not forever. When God is willing to allow me to meet the right person I know it will work out because I’ve invested the time in myself to make a relationship the best it can be. So if anyone is in the heartbreak boat right now just hold tight, it does get better!! Just focus on loving you and everything else will fall into place ❤️

[saraluisa]

Yes. Getting over my last break up, that now happend 3.5 months ago, I found myself. I learned to love and care for myself, to rely on myself. I learned to be kind to myself and always put my needs first. I learned that in the end I am the only person I can truly depend on. I became my own best friend. I am not completely over it yet, but I found so much strength inside of me that I am forever greatful for. I know that whatever life throws at me, I will be able to handle it. If I can survive being blindsided by the woman I wanted to marry, I can survive anything.

If you are reading this and currently heartbroken, just know that you will get through this and that you are much stronger than you think you are. I was so devastated at first, I felt like dying, but instead I found myself again. Know that in healing you will change and grow - and I think that is so beautiful. It is not the end of the world, even though it might seem like it is. If I got though it, so will you! <3

[brenbrenbrenbren]

Broke up yesterday, absolutely devastated. I feel lost and empty, I am in denial, and I don't know what to do. She's the love of my life

[brettmorrison]

I’m absolutely devastated right now, 3rd break up and never gets easier, 2nd long term relationship… but these videos on your channel truly are just helping calm me down, everything about it with your voice, music in the background, the intro, everything makes me just aspire to not BE like you, but just do what you do, you just look organized and self respected. Thank you, genuinely.

[ivychicken]

this was beautifully said. So true that heartbreak is one of the best catalysts for self-growth

[mafoodles]

I just lost the love of my life. She was my everything. She wasn’t perfect, but that was what made her perfect. She was so beautiful and her personality was too. I loved her for who she was and I loved her family. She broke things with me after a wonderful 1 year and 1 month. We planned our future together, she was my biggest emotional support. She was the woman of my dreams. Like sure we weren’t perfect, but that’s what made us perfect in my eyes. We were having a bit of a tough time near the end and she decided that she just couldn’t do it anymore. I wasn’t enough to make her stay. She said that it was the right person wrong time. But to me if it’s the right person then time doesn’t matter. I told her that I’d always love her, and she said the same back. I told her that maybe someday we could try again and she told me that I shouldn’t hope for it. That’s when I realised that I may have actually lost her. She told me she still wants to be friends, but idk how I can trust what she says anymore. The break up was today. I hope that one day I am able to do the things I love without the memory of her coming back to me.

[Stoltzy]

Wow man your videos are extremely helpful right now. Broke up with my ex a month ago and totally relapsed, wanted her back but she had already moved on from me and is seeing someone else now. I need to remember I ended it for a reason, and I wrote down so many valuable things from this video. Thanks so much

[aishwaryasinghhhh]

My 6 months relationship just ended yesterday and it sucks. I feel like dying, I feel suffocated. It was a healthy breakup but knowing that we won't be together anymore makes me feel so bad. It sucks.

[babybear]

You should look into the "anxious attachment style". I found that learning about this and realizing this in myself has really helped. Learning how to surrender it and take the best parts and say goodbye to the unhealthy parts. Then you won't lose yourself again :) They will see you, for you.

[spaceperson]

I recently got out of a pretty toxic long distance relationship, and the only reason I stayed with her (which I shouldn't have) was that she was the ONLY person I was talking to at the time. I was completely alone and clung to her companionship to feel better. After the breakup it just magnified how lonely and isolated I was in life. 2 months of feeling meloncholy and aimless later, I decided to treat myself as if I was my best friend! Like someone you wanted the best for and to see them go on and do great things. As shitty as the breakup was, im glad that it taught me that it's alright to love yourself amd be happy with what u have. Life's too short for me to let one breakup mess it all up.

[lythlock]

going through my first heartbreak right now bc he lost feelings and it’s the worst thing i’ve ever felt, but i’m trying day by day to get back to myself. it’s just painful bc we started as friends and he became even closer of one during the relationship so i feel i lost two people. though this time has opened my eyes to how i went into it hollowed out emotionally and couldn’t give everything i am, just sucks lol gonna work harder to find that again to do better next time.

[ferguspitcher]

About an hour ago I just watched the person I loved more than anything ever just walk out the door for the last time. I am in excruciating pain. I thought she was the one. I feel like I’m dreaming, soon to wake up. But it’s real and I can barely cope. I trust that things will work out, not gonna let this ruin me

[jamieazkah]

I am experiencing a major heartbreak and a break up now. But little do I know, it is the reason why I am finally moving out of my parents' place and getting a new job. It resulted to me being in a better place and I feel better about myself.

[Gspook]

I really needed to hear this, just lost myself for 5.5 years, i am sad and i love her, but i lost myself, gained 80lbs, and was never happy or contend, inoove this message you made me think more clear,

[cassidy]

Going through a break up for the first time and I've had my ups and downs and truthfully just want better for myself. I am trying to find my old self and bring out myself from that relationship too at the same time when I reality I think I just need to get out of the old and into a new and better self. ❤️

[KawaiiCat]

I feel like the same thing can work for all kinds of grief. Recently a friend of mine passed and I was heartbroken but in a different way. I didn’t do anything for 2 weeks but after his memorial service and grieving with friends that knew him later that day, a week later I started doing a new routine. I polished up my resume, started to look for new work…something I actually wanted to do, and got back into making art again. I started working on my self again. I realized life was too short to be miserable doing stuff I didn’t like and complaining about it from time to time. Then it dawned on me this is how I am after breakups too. It’s that grief that is awful but helps you be human in a way too.

[smileyme]

I've learned so much from my break up. It made me realise and learn to love, care and respect myself.

[Itsamyyyyyyy]

So happy for you☺️
As they say, time does heal everything!