How To Be Confident

The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one’s dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is – of course – an idiot. We all are.

FURTHER READING

“The topic of confidence is too often neglected by serious people: we spend so much time acquiring technical skills, so little time practising the one virtue that will make those skills effective in the world...”

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[wesercole]

My father always told me "It's better to be stupid for a minute than to be stupid your whole life". So when there's something you don't know, you shall ask despite of your anxiety, rather than to remain ignorant forever.

[suyogkharel]

"Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you" - Tyrien Lannister

[ahmody]

when you risk nothing, you risk everything

[MarcoSanderCoaching]

Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

[andrewyang]

This video taught me that to be truly confident is not to act confident. Just accept and love who you really are, no matter how weird people may view you.

[fergorro]

No one has ever insulted me with such delicacy!

[calamari]

this was the video equivalent of getting a hug. It was so reassuring. I have never thought of it that way and this makes me so happy.

[fatherlouiswilliamssugaada]

I'm an idiot to think that everyone cares what I do 🌚

[DecodeChannel]

Great video! Thank you.
Here is summary:

1. We hold back from opportunities in which there is any risk of ending up looking ridiculous.
In a concerted bid never to look foolish, we don't venture very far from our cocoon.

2. Everyone, however important and learned they might be, is a fool.

3. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn't matter to us if we do one more thing that might make us look stupid.

[droppingnostopping]

my whole life I've tried to always avoid failures & be perfect, because I want to be respected. but this video is prefection itself, I'm coming out of the closet now, I'm an idiot 🤣.

[jeffryc.larson]

The fear of what other people think of us is one of the biggest barriers to success. But it can be overcome.

[alexanderschirmer]

"Life is far too important to be taken seriously."
— Oscar Wilde

[jackiehouse]

During a time in my life when I was kinda down, I was only able to get back on my feet and say, "screw this, I'm going to have fun". And I did. It was tough at first, but soon I was able to let myself go. I stopped caring about what others thought about me and began to enjoy life. Everything is fun now!

[shawnmamou]

Bro his voice....
So soothing








Can u read me a bedtime story

[nassimback]

When ever i can't sleep, the school of life is my destination

[KajsaBernhardina]

Embarrassed? Try to think like this:
1. If you are feeling down about something that makes you think “What will he/she/they think of me now?” try to calm yourself down and understand that you cannot know what others are thinking. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!! There is a good chance other people don’t think about you or what you said or did that you find embarrassing AT ALL - they have probably forgotten it already! So cheer up and move on :)
2. If you are in a situation where you are trying to prove yourself and it ends up showing your weakness instead, remember the message of the video: EVERYONE is like this! We are all both strong AND weak at times, and showing your weakness is nothing bad, it is a proof that you are human and not alien (which is a good thing, assuming you don’t want to be an alien of course)!
3. If you made people laugh at you for some reason, don’t feel sad about it. Think about how at least you made them happy! And if you hate these people that laughed at you, you shouldn’t even bother, because you don’t want their approval anyway. And I bet you can find lots of stuff about them to ROFL about!
4. If someone have spoken ill of you or one of your character traits, remember that either the person was right and you can learn from the critique OR the person wasn’t right and in that case, what the hell, there’s nothing to be sad about! You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about something that isn’t true! So stay strong and keep being brave <3

[TheCharismaAcademy]

"We don't venture very far from our cocoon" - perfect line.

[oliverdylan]

The quality of the content on this channel is extremely impressive. The editing, choice of words and humorous enthusiasm about serious topics is well beyond anything else I've seen on Youtube. The creator deserves credit for this.

[oncodeii]

I was an imbecile today, actually. I’m trying to learn a new language and failed at communicating at those fluent in it. It was embarrassing to realize they didn’t understand me, but I still will keep trying and learn from this mistake. I love the language too much to give up.

[SuryaSen]

The video essentially tells us that the key to being confident is to not fear failing. It is okay to fail, just don't be afraid to fail or get ridiculed. What is important is to back ourselves and keep trying.