How to be confident without success: be your own prophet

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If people need success in order to feel confident, and if confidence makes success much more likely, then how does anyone get confident to begin with? We all have to start somewhere, and the world doesn't wait until we're ready. In this episode, I share a mental hack to facilitate confident action before you have "a stack of proof." @AlexHormozi

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #confidence #success

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If people need success in order to feel confident, and if confidence makes success much more likely, then how does anyone get confident to begin with? We all have to start somewhere, and the world doesn't wait until we're ready. In this episode, I share a mental hack to facilitate confident action before you have "a stack of proof." @AlexHormozi

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #confidence #success

[nflscarlzyy]

It reminds me of a joke about how to host a party without spending a dime on food: just call everyone we're hosting a party but all we're missing is just one food item

[terraflow__bryanburdo]

"I might as well do it now before someone even stupider beats me to it" 😊

[mshekleton]

I'm a 40 year old entrepreneur and engineer. I cannot stress how correct he is here. Fantastic advice for young adults. Listen and take to heart.

[wenhanzhou]

I am mindblown of the idea that it is possible to create value by essentially borrowing other people's expectations. This makes me rethink that value must not objectively exist, but can transcend space and time within the realm of psychology.

[billb]

As Colonel George Clooney said to a young private asking how the Colonel became so confident (in Three Kings):
"First you do the thing that scares you. The confidence comes later."

[MrJaviYuyi]

I got out of bed today and successfully managed to walk to the bathroom, so I guess I'm on my way to becoming a marathon runner.

[strategic]

Confidence is being ok with yourself no matter the result. It is not knowing that you will succeed, it is knowing that even if you don’t, no matter the outcome, life will continue and everything will be fine.

[derekboyt]

This reminds me of a timeless and enigmatic quote that EVERYONE KNOWS! “Fake it till ya make it.”

[RealJandi]

You don’t need the confidence to do the thing, you just need courage to do it and look like a fool - because you will.

The paradox is that; when you do something out of your comfort zone and fail: you will still feel confident for putting yourself through it.

The more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations, the more confident you will become

[Theviewerdude]

I desperately need this right now. My job and career aren't going well. I'm in love with a woman who wants nothing to do with me. I feel like I don't have many friends, I'm struggling to make more, and my future prospects in that regard are probably just going downhill.

The solution to many of my problems are to take it in stride and be charismatic, in a good mood, convey confidence... but holy fuck am I struggling when I'm faced with failure and rejection in every direction. I just want to break down.

[bigheadrhino]

I found that instead of thinking in terms of confidence, it’s more effective to think in terms of duty. It doesn’t matter what you think you can or can’t do, focus on doing what you’re “supposed” to do, and doing the “right” thing. If you lack the skills to do something properly, then what you’re supposed to do is learn how to do it properly. Confidence is not something you should even be thinking about. True confidence is not worrying about confidence.

[karenoyama]

My take on confidence is this. By doing the right thing in life, according to your moral guidance builds confidence. Little by little these acts, as you review your life, prove to you the correct choice was made. This provides peace, and confidence is a natural byproduct

[Guildofarcanelore]

As my Father often told me as a youth, "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."
You learn as much from failure as you do from success.. sometimes more.

[xandercorp]

Aspirational confidence is not a lie. It's seeing a potential future and believing you can get there.

[jeanmichelsarr]

I feel that there is a similarity between courage and confidence. And I couldn't agree more with this quote from Mandela: "The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear".
In the end, whatever you feel doesn't matter, what counts is the action. As long as you act, people around you are going to perceive you as confident.

[spontaneousbootay]

it starts with belief. its not just that you are delusional, its more that you simply believe it to be so. the story that we tell ourselves is everything

[armorbearer]

We must be the seer of our own future and ensure our prophecies become reality.

[eSKAone-]

Define success.

Exactly. I'm 40 years old and live in the center of beautiful Heidelberg Germany. I inhabit a flat with 2 students, to save money. I can walk to work (ICU nurse), but I have an old used bike for less then 200 bucks. I don't need to travel. Heidelberg is paradise. No car, no kids. I only work part time so I have enough money for my hobbies: Bouldering, Running, Gaming on Sony PlayStation and Nintendo Switch (if our house burns down, I can't lose those games, I own them in the cloud). Life is beautiful nowadays, why would I waste it at work. I only buy cloths when I really need them, mostly cheap.

You can eat healthy for 5 bucks a day (coffee included). It's easy: stick to things that have only 1 ingredient, but no isolates like sugars and oils (you can throw them together obviously for a meal)

I consider whole grain pasta to be healthy, but you should have them split up in to maximum 2 meals a day. Other than that I eat oats, nuts and vegetables. Only drink water, coffee, and tea without additives. If you're vegan have your vit.B12 and a good source of omega-3 fatty acids (chia seeds, walnuts), maybe vit.D if you're a nightshift worker or not out in the sun much, and you're good. Once in a while if you have an easier day try to eat nothing for that day. I'm 40 years old, athletic, everyone thinks I'm much younger. Take good care of your bodies folks 💟🌌☮️

[danielvarela]

You’re amazing man, I’m a 20 yr old male and am so happy to be building myself up with content like yours, thank you Orion