Inner child work = integration ❤️🙌👏

[janedoe]

I'm just bingewatching you and other therapists so😂🤣🤣

[alphanotmale]

Wow! This sounds to me like nothing but me struggling with procrastination… I never thought that had to do with the inner child… but it does make sense, cuz all my life I’ve been tending to others’ “needs” without ever being able to have a break and relax, so when it was the stage in my life to have time to grow and relax, I couldn’t get any rest because I was taking care of the emotional parasites in my life a.k.a. “family”, then now that I’m free from them, I still can’t rest, nor relax cuz now I have to take care of my adult responsibilities and life won’t stop for me to take a break… what the hell am I going to do…?

[Gemmarose]

The relief that occurs once integration begins is profound. It took a long time but it’s worth it!

[witchdragonfly]

All of that made sense. The struggle is real.

[biancasadventure]

Holy shit I didn’t know this was like a response to my childhood trauma.
Growing up I was the oldest and I had to constantly watch my brothers, always had to be the responsible one and when I was old enough to work I had to help pay bills.
Now as an adult I struggle sometimes doing adult things bc I would rather sit on the couch and binge watch Netflix then feel so bad afterwards. Like I’ve been avoiding to renew my tags on car bc I just can’t deal w it and I didn’t realize those two things could be related.

[desertangelfish]

It's such a shame we spend so much of our life trying to recover from trauma in our childhood. Imagine if we didn't have that burden to deal with how much more accomplished and successful as a society we could be.

[rebeccacarlson]

Yeah, I try to do both at the same time! Watch YouTube videos while doing dishes, laundry, clean litter boxes, etc

[limitedtime]

Your shorts are great. They interrupt my doom scrolling in the best way😄

[WendyRed]

This is definitely an issue for me and that needs to be straightened out that would be great to even learn about this thank you so much Patrick looking forward to attending the webinar

[carijean]

I definitely align with a lot of the things you speak about. I just always get so distressed when you talk about inner child and inner adult because I don't "feel" it that way. Maybe I'm just not understanding yet though. Also, you're always giving advice on when you're doing something but what if you're trapped in your mind and constantly talking yourself out of doing things or distracting yourself. Kind of like what you touch on in this video? I am constantly impeding myself thinking about how I'll fail, how stupid I'll look and millions of other thoughts to keep from the embarrassment it COULD cause even though I KNOW for a fact I'm being unrealistic I can't pull myself out of it. I regret doing this/feeling this way every single day. Some days even playing with my daughter I freeze and just start worrying about every single move I make or thing I say that could MAYBE traumatize her and maybe she'll end up like me. Sorry, I'm rambling. I just don't know what to do if I'm always either freezing in fear of something that will likely not happen (no telling myself it won't happen doesn't work :/) or distracting myself with things that do nothing for me like shows or games etc. I KNOW I need tons of therapy and to work on my trauma from my childhood, teens, and early 20s being full of abuse of all kinds but unfortunately I don't have insurance and the free counseling I was able to get was an addiction based counselor who did help me realize I was this way because of trauma through lots of making me answer certain prompts in a notebook and read them to her later. Having someone ask about a happy childhood memory with your mom and realizing you have none is heart breaking. That was the first prompt and the rest didn't go well either. I didn't get allotted enough time by the state to get anywhere with that though and that was almost 2 yrs ago. Now I'm just stuck knowing I'm messed up and not knowing how to process it and just feeling stuck. I keep trying to force myself out of this trauma funk my late 20s and very early 30s are bringing me since I'm finally not being abused. I can think about it but I can't fix it. I'm just lost :/ and very aware of it.

[stailenknife]

@Patrick Teahan LISCSW This is one of my biggest stugles w CPTSD and would love to join but I don't have the money. Is there a way I can access the recording

[LOVEHEALING_]

Your such a big help - 1st is that you your self are doing the work that translates 🙏🏼
And that what your sharing is so clear and understandable
Thank you

[pockagin]

I have been waiting for the clarification. I had a pretty good idea, but wasn’t sure. I am a member on your website. This video confirmed that I am doing it right!! Yay me!

[damlabozoglu]

This morning I wanted to do some journaling but when I woke up I really wanted to have a muffin and watch some Youtube, so that’s what I did, and now I’m off to journal : )

[___LC___]

I guess my inner child has won…I am so broken that I have completely given into my disability. No matter what I do now, with my disabled body, I will never please my family, I will never have my own family, I will never be able to do my hobbies, I can’t fight the abuse anymore…I just gave up and took to my bed. Most days I would have some up time that I am out of bed, now, it’s gotten to the point where I don’t bother to eat most days. I can’t afford to eat and it causes so much anxiety that I make no effort to try to find food.

[rgwhiteywins]

My inner child comes up when I am being ripped off or harassed by a store or company that gets a lot of money from me on a regular basis because I do business with them. My inner adult gets overpowered by that IC self and I am not very professional. I try so hard but still fail.😭

[ConflictToCalm]

My inner child brought me to the couch to watch this. Dang.

[delsings]

I am hoping to be able to attend this webinar! I need it.

[marilynbrook]

Where is the link for 15th Oct please?

[patriciaallan]

I'm working on something similar with my therapist with the IFS model from Dick Schwartz. It's fascinating to look at your own behaviour through these different lenses! Thank you for your posts, you have the ability to say things in a way that makes it easier to understand.