How does your baby compare? (What every parent needs to hear about milestones)

Developmental milestones are a valuable tool. When used properly. But often they are misused, and it just adds unnecessary stress and anxiety that no parent needs to experience.

This video walks you through what I wish all parents new about developmental milestones - why they're important, when they're useful (and when they're not), and how to use them in a way that's actually helpful.

Hopefully after watching this one it helps you look at developmental milestones a little differently, and more importantly, helps alleviate some of that unnecessary concern if it's something you've experienced.

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[YappieKitchen]

My sister is a nurse and she said sometimes when a baby is so loved…families tend to carry them and do things for them more so they take longer to walk.

[MyKabukiGirl]

I keep telling myself “milestones don’t exist”, otherwise it would be too painful. My baby has Kabuki syndrome, had her first open heart surgery at 8 days old; she’s hypotonic, tube fed, has hospital visits with half a dozen departments, waiting for her second heart surgery and doing weekly therapies (physio, OT, speech for feeding). I don’t care if she’s 9 months old with the milestones of a 5 months old.
To me she’s a hero.
She’s been through literal hell since birth and yet she’s curious and keeps enjoying life.
Whatever she’ll achieve developmentally, it will be because we worked really hard for it and, to me, this means way more than any comparison to any other kid.

[mommybreakdown]

Moms are in charge of worrying 😆
One thing that helped me was to look at multiple areas of development. Some kiddos develop quickly with mobility, but not language. Even in school now my 10 year old excels in math, but struggles in reading. We all have strengths so we celebrate those often. ❤ Thanks for another great video!

[_Becx]

My daughter is 15 months -14 months corrected. She has a rare chromosone deletiom with hypotonia and has just in the last few weeks shes fully crawling and sitting up unasisted! So proud of how far she has come, her language was limited as she had a cleft pallete, she can now bable 5 words since her repair 4 weeks ago, her physio has always told us to always comprare our daughter to herself to really see her progress. Thanks for bringing this topic up :)

[ChickenPermission]

Sometimes I think some parents get caught up in the comparison games even with all of their own kiddos. So something to keep in mind too as parents is your firstborn may hit milestones at certain points while your second and on will hit them at a completely different point. The best way I heard this described is “you’re a first time parent with each kid”. This was a great video to be reminded that milestones are ranges, not pin point marks. Thanks for uploading!

[janinem]

My three are all adults now, but they all walked "late" - between 13 and 15 months. All the moms bragged about their babies walking at their first birthday. By 18 months all the "toddlers" could run, including mine. It made zero difference. Watching them run, you could not in any way pick out who might have walked early or "late." I got stressed over nothing with the first. By my middle and youngest I knew better!

[TimiSterr]

this is so important! my daughter is really cautious, so she started walking without support a bit later than I thought she'd be ready to, but when she finally started, she was just so good at it already. Some kiddos fall 20 times over the span of 5 mins, and they're fine, mine falls once, and won't walk for the next week lol 😂but on the other side, she's really good at communicating and she gets along with others quite well for her age, and she's really good at activities where she needs to sit still and concentrate. kids are just different, just as adults are. not all adults are scientists, or athletes, etc.

[sofiale]

One of my cousin started to make her first words when she was at 2 years old which is pretty late compared to others. But now she is a very successful Doctor :)

[rosec]

I find pediatricians are the worst at making you feel your child is behind.

[Ninjaflyingpinkducks]

Babysitter/nanny here! I love milestones. I would watch a large range of babies and children and they were so helpful in finding new ideas of ways to play with them. Not in a "omg you don't know how to do this yet?!" kind of way but more like "oh, I bet you're going to like this game now!"

I can easily see how parents will start to compare and feel bad, but if you use the tool the right way it can give you new and fun ideas of ways to interact with your little ones.

It was also helpful to look back at the last milestones to see if any were missed, and then to look ahead to see if they were ready to try some harder challenges in different areas. Usually children will zoom through one area and lag in another. Give them time and don't rush it. ❤

[faizajafar]

Couldn't have asked for better timing ! My baby is 6.5 months now (5.5 months corrected) and he cant yet roll from back to tummy. He hates tummy time so he's a pro at rolling from tummy to back. Everyone who sees him calls him lazy and it really hurts. He was born premature and IUGR and he gained weight quite rapidly .. even his head control took a while to achieve though it is still a little wobbly.
I can't help but worry and it's causing sleepless nights haha

[InTheDadhood]

such an important video, Emma! Thanks so much. So many parents are nowadays almost forced to compare everything about their baby. Statistics are definitely helpful in certain cases, but people need to realize that every baby has its own pace.

[thinkersonly]

This is true, my baby walked at 18 months. Everyone we met, everyone we spoke to, all told stories about how their babies started at 9-12 months. We did everything from the start, nothing worked, she was taking a few steps but refusing to walk, until she saw a same age girl on a playdate walking, the next day she walked. I want to add that our baby is extremely curious, she wanted to try everything, see everything, but refused to walk. She is 2 years and 3 month and she is not talking, the only words she says is no (which she started a week ago) up, mama, dada, and her sisters nickname, but Her cognitive development, communication has been extremely advanced since she could understand everything around her, which was pretty early, even pediatrics were surprised. She understood and understands long sentences, instructions, we never used baby language or kid friendly language, she understood and did it, she speaks to us with her hands and sounds. I think that is why she is refusing to talk because we understand her lol we have no problem understanding her. We have been talking to her since she was born. When i used to tell the doctors she is communicating with us at the age of 4 months and we understand her and she understands us, they thought i was crazy. she also loves problem solving, challenge and learning new things. Refusing the potty though. she is still in diapers, we tried 3 times so far with potty, we have to wait again.

[sarahgoldberg]

The comment about personality rings true with my twins - the more cautious one is a bit slower than the bolder one to move around.

[innach]

Oh, I have this urge to write about walking. I got sick of questions "is he walking yet", "do you help him to learn to walk". I tried to explain couple of times that learning to walk is a process, that first a baby should stand with support, then begin to take a couple of steps with support, then cruise...and it's all walking! People just didn't understand, it's like everyone has this vision, as my friend joked, of a baby standing, shaking herself - and possibly going to look for work or something 😆 So when I said something like "yeah, he's cruising along furniture", people looked concerned, said something "oh, it's okay, he'll get there". And that were people with their own kids, they had an opportunity to watch them grow, they must know something, I guess... That was soooo frustrating. And, by the way, my son began to walk independently at around a year and a couple of weeks, so he's basically and uninterestingly normal 😆

[Crustenscharbap]

In Germany you have to go to check ups to your doctor. He will tell you if there is any problem. He is checking some special things for example is you baby knowing where is top and ground. But many parents are scared and stess their child. Your video is great because it tells there is no issue if you baby slower.

[trinivonie]

I see alot of parents on social media forcing their children to hit milestone before they naturally would at their age. I was born in the 80's and I am sure all of these milestones were not a thing back then and I turned out fine. My baby is 12 weeks old this week and I am ok with her taking her time with her milestones. I know she will get there eventually 😊.

[rayghartey]

Great insight..Every child has a unique style so comparing your child with others will just increase your stress level.
We need to relax but cautious when somethings don't add up.

[rachelle]

Great video! My daughter is 17 months old now, and I feel like it’s so much harder to know how she’s doing with language development compared to other milestones! It seems much more complicated.

She sometimes says ‘I got it’, recently started saying neigh, and jokingly says dada when I ask her to say mama lol. Of course some other random words, but it’s hard to keep track.But most of the time she’s just making noises in a conversational tone with me.

[stevegrimeszz]

6 months and he grunts as he tries to figure something out or crawl when he doesn’t know how to. lil shit is determined. Definitely smarter than most. He rather walk as well. Love it