How To Spot A Toxic Narcissist, featuring Dr. Kerry McAvoy

Dr. C recently recorded an interview with Dr. Kerry McAvoy, author of Love You More, and she shared a keen understanding of the telltale signs of narcissistic toxicity. That interview is uploaded here for you to learn.

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a psychologist and writer, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured on Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. She offers trauma-related advice on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and the Breaking Free with Kerry & Tara podcast.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[rg-mihh]

Narcissistic neighbors is extremely tricky to be around. Practicing ahead of the situation is so helpful. They are predictable and stupid.

[rahrahrobbbieee]

The toxicity of a narcissist is really harmful to anyone it touches.

[chelleb]

One of the first things I look out for now is the "too nice" new neighbor, coworker, etc. who seems like a really genuine caring individual but invariably turns into the narcissist. They will be the first one to show up, all smiles, bringing gifts, saying all the right things, inviting you into their inner circle, and of course letting you in on the "inside info" of everyone and everything. When dating it's the one who likes to humble brag. In a toxic family it's the one who leaves your stomach in knots and then wanting to throttle them within minutes of being near them. 😄

[russwj]

That sense that we “ are all human “, my empathy, has kept me in the relationship. I’ve tolerated too much.

[blasme]

Finding out I wasn't alone, gave me some light at the end of the tunnel.

[sararichardson]

Being co-operative, caring and conscientious is an Achilles heel in this society.

[Bootchie]

The narcissistic person exudes nothing but negativity. They know they aren't wanted, but refuses to leave.

[csn]

This is so validating. As a licensed mental health professional, it was really hard to accept how I ended up with a narcissist, it was like “how did I not see it?” They are very good deceivers…

[chrismsteele]

Leaving a 27yr marriage with a Narcaccist, and I finally know what I've been dealing with. Thank you🙏

[jacquelineglitter]

They will tell you what a great person they are. They'll tell you they don't ever lie and thats the first lie. Everything bad that ever happened was everyone else's fault. Then they start telling you how you should act, feel and what to do. Later everything you do is wrong.

[Esther-tzte]

A person I know always has a problem with everyone, they just have to put the person in their place before they get out of hand. Their friendships and relationships are never lasting and they are always angry. So long as you don’t challenge them they’re somewhat calm or silent. It’s scared and it’s a difficult situation for all especially you live together.

[angelasavinelli]

To me a toxic person makes you feel awful after being in their company. They say mean things totally out of context and insulting you.

[christinewagner]

Yes, my ex-husband once told me that as a kid, he used to stir up trouble between younger boys, and then wound stand back to watch them “duke it out”! How sadistic! I was shocked, and have never forgotten that.

[rebeccawoolfolk]

Dr. Carter always finds the best people to interview.

[TiffanyPRS]

Having a child with a narcissist is the worst. This podcast was exactly my kids father. I keep everything private so that he doesn’t know how happy I am in my life. This kind of situation grows you spiritually, emotionally and mentally. So, there is a beautiful side of going through the pain. You become the strongest person you always knew you could be. Regardless of the daily harassment, blame, etc. I’ve found that ignoring them works the best. Don’t stand up for yourself. There is no need.

[miriamful]

it's amazing, but the more I immerse myself in the topic of narcissism and how to recognise it, I am able to spot narcissism more easily, even without meeting them, but just hearing about the characteristics they display. They truly are demons, no empathy, no conscience, liars, and in some cases capable of murder.

[tjfSIM]

Wow. I think I really needed to see this. The fact that a clinical psychologist could fall victim to this is validating and speaks volumes. Narcissists are clever, and cunning. And when your whole life revolves around manipulating people to survive, you get really good at it.

[kathyadair]

Well put. That's exactly what they are! + They're Bad for you!
VERY BAD.

[snowbear]

A toxic person can only have power because people let them. Usually people side with the more powerful, dynamic person.
If you are targeted by that person and the group doesn't defend you, you don't stand a chance. It happened to me in my family, my foster family, at school and university, and the workplace. Fighting it has only made it worse. People sense of you are a bit soft and vulnerable. And generally, bystanders don't defend you.

[betsysorrell]

So true. Narcissists do all the talking!