Ways to Support your ADHD Partner

Ways to support your ADHD partner: Buffer Time! It is SO relaxing to be ready before you actually have to leave!

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[porsh]

I ALWAYS FORGET ABOUT THE TRAVEL PART OMG. I feel included

[danischi]

My best friend does this for me. She really hates not being on time, but when we go somewhere together, I'm never ready when she picks me up.
So now, she just tells me a time when she picks me up, but actually only gets on her ways 10 minutes later. That gives me the time that I need.

I asked her if she could do this a while ago, but didn't think she would actually commit to it so much and kinda forgot about it. She's a really supportive friend, I love her <3

[zottelhuehs]

I'm usually okay with travel time, but i always forget the walk to and from the car as well es the parking spot search

[abrohamproductions]

I literally asked my parents for the same help in highschool before I found out I had adhd. My dad, who also has it, said it was stupid and that the world doesn't work like that. However, now with some people doing that over the past year, I've already gotten a ton better at scheduling in that buffer time for myself for work and college.

[jst]

I personally work backwards on the timing.
What time I need to be there, time it takes to park and pay, how long the drive will be, how long it will take me to get ready (shower, dressed, smoke, make sure I have keys, cell, ID etc) and what time to wake up.

Unfortunately, when it comes to going to work that's a big stressor and it takes me about 4 hours to prepare. Since I work overnight and my husband during the day we do eat dinner together and chat before I have to leave.

Thank you for sharing this type of video, it's hard to explain to my husband how he can help/support me. I'm not diagnosed yet with ADHD and my current doctor hasn't been much help to me but Im doing my best.

Sending everyone good karma and hope you all have a wonderful day 😊💕🇨🇦

[lulumn]

I used to genuinely set the oven clock and the clock in the car ahead by an odd number - like 7 or 13 minutes. Helped a lot. Panic leaving for work and actually being on time.

[andilemyeza]

I agree with the last part. The last thing I want is to feel manipulated into doing something I probably was too anxious to do in the first place I will pick up on it.

[MovieHats]

Wild. I’m the ADHD type that can’t be late. I will get ready for things hours early and get to places so early and just sit in my car until it’s time.

[thelonelypigeon]

I've yet to diagnosed myself with a doctor about ADHD but I do my best to be 1 hour early at work. Yet somehow only 10-15 mins early to work. If I did things like going out 1 hour before work rather than 2 hours. There's a good chance I'm 1 hour late instead.

Perfectly well balanced I swear. 😬

[Thomas_Winters]

I remember stressing about getting to school events because my mom always left late. Without fail. She left on her own time.

[sir-rocks-alot]

I've learned the "be ready at least an hour before you leave" rule. Love your examples. Makes me think about my ADHD

[samanthap.]

Thank you for posting this. My husband has ADHD and I tend to get frustrated with him about being on time and this helps me to understand him and have compassion.

[rousselalex]

I do that for myself. I convince myself that stuff is farther away that it actually is and I need to leave earlier

[karenprice]

I actually told my husband to lie about the time we had to leave. YES it worked for us!❤

[thajocoth]

My entire extended family tends to be late for everything. My mom has 5 siblings. My dad has 6 siblings. There's an average of 2 cousins for each sibling my parents have.

So my mom told everyone that a party started 2 hours before it actually started so people would show up closer to on time.

One uncle decided for the first time ever to show up to an event on time, so my mom had him help set up for the party. He will not be making that mistake again, nor will my mom.

Whether the person has ADHD or not, discussing buffer time (or any other mental hacks) before using them to help somebody is absolutely necessary! (The video already says to discuss it first, but it's worth reiterating.)

[greenhouse]

Love the disclaimer. But so helpful! I only remember travel time if I write everything out. So if i MUST be on time for something, I write a phone note that starts with when I need to be there. Then, how long I need to give myself to find parking, then actual GPS drive time, then in-car finding music etc time, then getting ready, etc. I have to work backwards like this in detail or else I'm always late

[rumy_noam]

Im the kind of person that needs to be early to everything but also my ADHD makes me late so it is a pretty vicious cycle

[labelle]

I be honest, if I know about the buffer time...I will totally exploit that and expand into it.

[evie]

Yeah I have adhd but I also get extreme anxiety when I’m late or I make someone else late

[thomasjeffersonofficial]

It's the opposite for me, I see the time as the time you will start doing things so I'm always early