The Arrogant Narcissist: And They Think It's Confidence

Dr. Les Carter explains how narcissists desperately want to portray themselves as confident. In fact, they are deeply insecure, and what they think is confidence is really arrogance...and there is a tremendous difference between the two traits.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted more than 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[l.]

All narcs are arrogant. Even their humility comes across as arrogant. The Humble-Brag....

[nanctttjensen]

Confident people don't have to put down others to be secure.

[LostHorizon]

Arrogance is loud and aggressive, Confidence is quiet and has no need to make it's presence known ..

[wifferstess]

Arrogance is really ego and ignorance. You'd be amazed at how little an arrogant person knows about the bigger picture of a matter but feel that the small sliver that they know is the absolute truth. Confidence is a quiet belief in your own abilities whereas arrogance is a need to show others that you're superior.

[Axess-svnq]

It's more delusion than anything else. They're never at fault. They don't take the blame for anything. It's always someone else's fault - even if they do something bad themselves. And they ENJOY the pain they cause people. There's just no reason at all to stay with a narcissist.

[jamnoise]

They want to impress strangers ONLY because the stranger does not know them.... yet!!! 🤣 Give it time...🤣🤣

[dakoderii]

My dad is the greatest rockstar ever though having never played an instrument or done any singing. He is the greatest MLB player ever, despite never spending one day in the majors or the minors. He is also the greatest general ever, despite never spending 1 second in any military. He is a child in an adult's body.

[judysangregorio]

Narcissists are “fake nice” and have distorted creepy and gets old fast. Thanks for another great video Dr Carter! (Hi to Gus)

[ljackson]

A confident person life is not a competition, it just is. You don't have anything to prove to anyone, you're just confident, & secure in your skin.

[izawaniek]

Let us be people of peace and dignity❤❤❤

[dailydoseofmedicinee]

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.👍

[VanessaLKing]

Sheesh.. these poor souls are everywhere& the pandemic is truly revealing their vicious antics..be aware, be careful&get away from them quickly-survive!!

[libbybaker]

One thing a confident person can do is recognize it when someone else has a better way to do something, or more information on a particular subject than they do, and are able, and willing, to be taught by them. A narcissist becomes very agitated when their plan, project or discourse doesn't work well, because they won't admit that they were wrong or incompetent . Expect attacks both in anger over minutia and in covert actions designed to make yourself and/ or others doubt your own skills and knowledge if you are the one to point out or witness a failure on their part. Listening to your videos has helped me put so many pieces together, and leave so many damaging memories safely behind. Thank you so much, Dr. Carter

[RobShuttleworth]

These people would be killing each other in a lawless land. They seem to be only focused on dominating and they are not talented enough to create useful things.

Thank you Dr. Carter.

[Jackie-dmye]

What I’ve experienced time time again is that they dish it out, but can’t take it. Ever.

[funlovinbloke]

Any type of narcissist is arrogant.
It is just the 'way they perform and show it' that can be different.

[UlitheUnruly]

...and when you open up and show them, that YOU are vulnerable, they pounce all over you, try to destroy you...robs your breath

[Hopeinhim]

Looking back (recent retiree) narcissism has become epidemic. It wasn't when I was younger. Most people were genuinely kinder then but

[rickydale]

People who are confident do not need additional support and are happy and fair. Good people. People who can’t be still in a seat are bothered people.

[rebeccablalock]

I hate arrogance..and narcs r the worse.and so mean .thy thk they r all tht and gods gift to the world.poor lost souls. They mk me sick.but yet i pray.for myself and them.omg haughty yes.