Narcissistic relationships and panic disorder

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[Alibrose]

I found your videos Dr Ramani at my lowest point. It was more like being in a ditch and you came and drew me out. You saved my life. I will be forever grateful🙏

[katararose]

My panic attacks ended when the narcissist went away.😅

[ellieramseyer]

A toxic boss will make your life a living hell - sleepless nights, gaslighting-...it's best to cut your losses and move on to another job.

[Kelly-Mauricio]

Anxiety, panic attacks, bouts of depression, moving through the day on auto pilot, this was coming and going starting at around the age of 11.
I tend to hide during all of these besides the auto pilot mode which occurs when I cannot hide ie work, errands etc
I was in therapy for ten years and nothing changed
I finally found out why about 3 years ago. Narcissistic Abuse.
I Began the process of identifying toxic ppl and situations, setting boundaries and slowly permanently separating myself from ppl and situations that weren’t good for me. I stopped people pleasing and rescuing and staying in situations that I felt was my duty ; as much of it was family or close relationships. I have much less panic and anxiety now, ( it occasionally resurfaces but rarely)and no depression at all, and for the most part have seen a huge improvement.

[kikataye]

I left my abusive husband last October, I am just finally able to breathe normally again! Between him and his grown verbally abusive daughter I just knew if I stayed that I would have had a heart attack or stroke. I’m so glad that my connection to him will be over soon! Blessings to everyone

[msPranksterPixie]

"panic attacks can also appear in covert narcissism .... [At times of vulnerability, shame etc]... Causing rage if anyone tried to support them as pointing out a vulnerability" (paraphrasing).
Yep. Spot on.

[dhanyaslifeventure]

Just two years and the panic still exits at times.They create a turmoil of all set of emotions in us.To all the survivors out there, if you have survived this panic, you will survive anything damn in this world.All the best.

[Livelife.HopeAlways]

So spot on. Never knew the pins and needles part, now that explains it. Panic attacks but 10 years later it still creeps up.

[mariabustillos]

Dr Ramani, PLEASE do a video breakdown on Narc. Abuse and night terrors. Need to know, Thank you! Love your work!

[louizad]

After getting out of my relationship with a narcissist, I started experiencing panic attacks randomly, and nightmares that had me waking up crying and terrified. I had panic attacks during the relationship and never recognized them as such. I thought I was losing my mind. It’s such a relief to hear this and know I am not alone. A year out, I still have anxiety, panic attacks and confusion but it is slowly getting better.

[sophiafreewoman]

I found out about narcissism, when I had a panic attac. I had one, infront of a narcissist. He knew, why I had it. He determindely said what would trigger me more and made himself look angry. When I mannaged to go to another room, he followed me. He grabbed my arm and pulled me back to the other room, , claiming, that he would try to calm me down. Than he immitated my fast breathing. When I asked him, not to do that, because it's exactly what I don't need at the moment, he didn' t stop. He said, that he had a hard childhood too. I hadn't talked about my childhood in detail infront of him. Than he changed. He brought me some tea. I guess, he tried to make it less obvious, what an evil person he turned out to be. When he was perching infront of me, determinedly saying, what would trigger me, I had a familiar feeling. It was a feeling I had felt in my past realtionship. This time I knew, why I had it. I finnaly realised, that there are people in this world, who aren't hurtful, because they don't understand. They are hurtful on purpose. They want to hurt me deeply. They want to bring me down on a psychological level, but without anyone realising, it, except maybe themselfs. It's their secret. Shortly after that I saw the Paris Hilton documentary. After that, you tube recommend a video from a therapist. After a while I found out about narcissism. I had heard about it before. But now I realised, that I had been with one. ... And that I know many of them.

[nuni]

It is nice to know that there are educated professionals out there that continue to learn. It is refreshing to know that there are professionals that are out there that observe the cause and effect. The willingness to dig deeper to find the cause instead of just "fixing" the effects.

[nicoledburns]

I was diagnosed with panic disorder, agorophobia where I didn't leave my house for 3 months, and generalized anxiety disorder shortly after my sister told me my kids would be better off if I were dead and I never put two and two together!

[christinecooper]

THANK YOU for sharing this info!! When I developed a panic disorder in '18, I thought I was losing it until I realized my partner was a malignant narc. Dumped him and my panic attacks immediately disappeared!

If you are in this situation, it's *not* you-- get out. You can do this.

[danielforlano]

So right on!
I grew up watching myself from the outside. And later, abusive social patterns (bullying, being forced) gave me panic attacks: controlled provocation followed by impending gaslighting.

I’d carry my backpack with me everywhere I go, with reading material and extra layers (overnight gear); and food shop, excessively.

But I’m convinced I was being drugged, too. Because I was eating less and couldn’t tell where the symptoms were coming from.

It’s easy to think the antagonism is evil, but it’s more like superficial materialism toward people.

I grew up feeling like an object. Then healed. The I was objectified again.

[jawnsolo]

I had panic disorder from 2009 to 2018. It took a long time for me to get over it. I had a lot of contributing factors. I had a covertly narcissistic father. My mother and sister had their own bouts of narcissistic behavior. I was the scapegoat. I didn’t eat well at all. I basically lived off carbs, sugar, caffeine, marijuana, alcohol, and nicotine.

The other factors were my personality dimensions. I’m very high in openness and moderately high in neuroticism and agreeableness. I learned from watching videos by Dr. Jordan Peterson that that combination is very destabilizing. After I learned that I felt like I found an answer that I didn’t even know I was looking for.

I basically let my narcissistic parent convince me I was burden to everyone around me. I’m sure I transmitted this to people around me and this is why I was also treated badly by others. It made me resentful. I dealt with this by being cynical about everything. I felt like I was robbed and nothing I did matter, so to balance the scales I did that to others.

Once I realize how I was contributing to my panic attacks, I changed my diet radically. I barely eat sugars and carbs now. I have one cup of coffee. I don’t smoke marijuana anymore. I don’t go out and party like I did. I’ve gone no contact with my father and I’m pursuing my calling with everything I have.

I haven’t had a panic attack in 2 years and my life is fulfilling with a loving fiancé and I finally stepped out on my dreams. I always regretted not going to college but last year I applied to Berklee College of Music and got accepted.

Beating panic disorder is absolutely possible!

[normagaunce]

Thank you❤ It is very scarey to constantly be stocked and controlled, humiliated, accused of doing things that you didn't do. (gaslighted)

[Anastasia-wpyn]

So interesting. I had panic attacks after a car accident when I was a student and because my Narcissistic family is very anti-therapy, they tried to coach me through the fear so I could "return to normal." That took almost two years and I was deeply ashamed of myself for my incompetence and cowardice and inability to "snap out of it." Ugh. It all makes sense now. Thank you!

[jamiepatton]

Omg...you described the feelings of panic disorder to perfection! It's a terrible disorder to have but nothing helped me more than the ketogenic diet and intermittent fasting.

[Auroradiluculum]

Wow! Everytime I think I know all about it, Dr. Ramani puts out another video. ☺