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[barbaraannscarlet]

Trust your gut and NEVER rationalize their behaviors because of their backstory! As Adults we are All responsible for our own behaviors! Respect is a two way street.

[vickyl]

Two words: Be yourself. That will get rid of the narcissist. The second they lose power and control over you, they will be gone in a heartbeat.

[evelynhamlin]

If you cannot be you, that's a red flag! If your kind and your shamed, that's a red flag! If you always feel guilty, that's a red flag!

[sleepycalico]

Yes, I listened to the end. I'm 73 and there are no longer narcissists in my life. I just wish you had been around in my earlier life. I'm glad people today will find your survival techniques early on.

[lilianfowler]

This is why I have decided to refrain from being in a relationship. Excusing others and allowing them to treat me poorly is a waste of my empathy.

[elizabethbettencourt]

A word of knowledge. Taking a narcissit to therapy only compounds the abuse. I tried for years, not understanding what was happening at the time. Once I continued on my own, it started to expose the truth of the matter. Thank you for your work Dr.!

[E.K.]

I get rid of controlling toxic narcissists by literally ghosting them. It let's them know I'm actually the one in control and secondly, they aren't getting any fuel.

[jillijewel]

Dr. Ramani always has the answer to the questions in my head that always tend to blame myself because of what everyone is telling me everyday.

[crystalH]

Wow … For years I’ve ignored the internal anxiety I felt throughout the marriage. I brushed it off as I just have anxiety, I know now that I am in a narcissistic, abusive relationship. My body is telling me that something is wrong. My body is in physical pain. I have awaken to the abuse that I for years didn’t want to look at because I was in fear.

[ginnywalker]

While my mother was alive (she passed in February 2017) she would tell terrible lies about me so I distanced myself for quite some time then would relent and see her again, each time with no better results than before. I finally started only going to see her (she was in a nursing home the last years of her life) if someone went with me because I realized I had someone who could verify our encounter and she could not tell my sisters lies about me. I was thankful I had a brother who would go with me when he wasn't traveling for his job and that was the "magic key" to locking that door of vicious lies my mother told about me. When she passed I really didn't feel much of anything because I had already lost her when I was only 4-5 years old and realized then that she did not love me. I learned to survive and I intend to continue doing so.

[maxsupernova]

"An explanation is not an excuse."

Louder for those in the back! I've seen too many people say they're just explaining abusive behavior, while in reality they're explaining abusive *away*. That's when they become enablers, and threats to your well-being.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

The narcissistic sister in law verbally assaulted me and emotionally abused me for keeping boundaries with her as she’s very toxic, and yet not only did she not take responsibility nor apologize for it, she lied to my brother about what happened turning him against me and lies to my nephews about me, so it’s severely damaged my family. I have no interest in having a relationship with her, yet my family pressures me to forgive and forget like nothing happened. Super messed up and stressful. I don’t care what they think anymore, prioritizing my life safety and well being. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[karenwinstanley]

No matter what past abuse they have suffered doesn’t excuse them for their own behaviour.. it’s who they are themselves and they are brilliant at deflecting blame for themselves it’s never their fault 💯

[Summer_Harvest]

True! Narcissism isn't an excuse for abuse.

[catherinebogdon]

Early in our relationship, whenever my ex narc would lie to me, I would have this knot in my stomach. Each time I caught him in a new lie, a new justification, or a new way to blame me for his bad behavior, this feeling became a constant in my life. When I began feeling this knot in my stomach, paired with nausea 24/7, it was time for me to make a plan to get out. Took months, but I made it. Now he’s out and I’m on the road to healing. That knot and nausea are still with me, but fading.

[heather]

Agree, abuse is unacceptable there are far too many excuses these days for bad behaviour,

[michaelholtzman]

As an empath ( made, child abuse) most of my life my gut and my brain had a very complicated relationship. After years of putting in the work, I’m listening to my gut more.

[eniconico]

I have seen someone who was narcissistic and very kind and sweet to me being really mean and hurtful to someone else. I feel it’s enough to downgrade such a person immediately to D. It has then nothing to do with this person hurting me, but to witness the sheer ability to behave like that was enough to see through that person. Still, it was sad to wake up to the truth when I was being treated no nicely.

[kristinmeyer]

Abuse destroys lives, ruins families, and doesn't build character or make people stronger. If you're lucky, and have support, you can learn to avoid those kinds of people, but to glorify abuse as something that improves people is wrong. That gives abusers an excuse to make what they do seem noble.

[dianabailey]

Every time I have trouble breathing or feel confused and slightly disturbed around a person, I know they need to be looked at more closely for a problem. My body has never lied to me.