He's Moving Slow? 5 Signs He's Into You (#4 Is Most Important)

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[kayschmidt]

1) Intention; states very clearly from the start he is seeking a long term relationship/exclusive relationship
2) You rarely go 48 hours without hearing from him/checking in with you ( and it's reciprocal )
3) He makes time for you taking your schedule into consideration
4) He genuinely appreciates talking and being with you, feels good/happy when he's together with you
5) He includes you in his outside life; work, hobbies, family, friends, home

[wagendorf]

Love bombing is going to try and move you fast to a relationship. It also includes gifts, words, and taking up a lot of your time. These are done very early, even before you know anything about each other. It will feel way too good, so beware of these things.

[lizzierose]

My bf loves to talk with me... If I'm tired and a bit quiet, he'll ask "Baby, why aren't you talking? Talk to me" 🙂

[MollyPoole]

these signs really make sense! recognizing his interest when he's taking things slow is important for a lasting connection. speaking of connections, have you ever heard of Spanish Fly Pro? my partner and i have been experimenting with ways to bring more passion to our relationship, and it's been quite the journey. trying something new can truly ignite the spark!

[evahstewart]

I'm terribly sorry for your loss of your son.. I literally teared up 😭 my heart goes out to you 💖 and I wouldn't want anyone to go through that.. Please know you have people behind you 100%.

[bettyluis]

Some men are shy because they don't want to devour you with passion too quickly as they feel as that might be disrespectful

[HatersSuck]

I like that you allow people to ask personal questions. I used to watch your videos when I was in my roller coaster relationship. I’m out of it now and so much has changed. It’s nice to watch you with fresh eyes.

[karendonnelly]

I listen to Jonathan Aslay every day. His advice lifts me up, assures me that most of the time my relationship is on the right track. When I need direction, I listen to one of these videos. Subject matter on relationships is always valuable.

[heathergust]

Johnathon!!!!
Connection NOT Intensions!!!! WOW😲this so resinates with me! I’m so glad you have given it a name!!!
I’m going to be done ✅ standing back and being passive about my wants and needs. I feel I want to be ME loud and clear!
I was raised by a “Beaver Clever” Mother from the 50’s and have always thought when the man has intentions HE will show ME!
THIS doesn’t work!
Divorced past 8 years and it’s been a trip of on-line dating hell!
Thanks for mens side of view!!!

[Joy-mmcz]

I really liked the point that you brought up about having background checks done for “strangers “. My daughter helped me and did them for everyone I was having more serious phone calls with prior to me meeting them in person. So important & necessary today.

[patti]

I love it - we’re suckling on the nipple of dependency! So damn true. For goodness sakes - ppl have jobs, a home and yard to take care of. My kids are grown but I have 2 grandkids whose lives I’m very involved in. Men have similar responsibilities.

[smores]

Response to the woman who had sex on the third date and he said he just wants to go with the flow: YES, that is absolutely a bad sign and a huge 🚩 !! without a doubt! I made the same mistake, had sex on third date and assumed we were in a relationship since we started regularly having sex (once a week) thereafter, only later to find out after 13 weeks, he was still on dating apps. His response: “I enjoy your company and was just going with the flow”That was a huge lesson learned! I will never be this naive again. Like Jonathon said, if the man doesn’t specifically mention exclusivity BEFORE trying to have sex with you (and you naively let him), he will simply continue on coasting. Therefore, you’ll have to be the one to bring it up and get clarity from the man.

[lauracordoba]

Thank you so much Jonathon for continuing to post these videos. I got myself into a terrible situation. I got involved with a narcissistic man in a loveless relationship with a woman 10 years older than him. He kept telling me that he would leave her. I stayed with him a year and 4 months, and he wouldn’t end it with her. I did fall hard for him unfortunately, I feel so incredibly stupid. I blocked him and I have really been trying to move on with my life the last 3 months. It’s been very hard, and my desperation and loneliness played a part in me getting involved in this. I am taking responsibility for my actions and learning to chase men no more. Thank you Jonathon

[liz]

I believe your comments... The person who cares less is the one who has the control in the relationship & one person in the relationship will love the other more than they are loved. I think this is the deep feeling of love. I have been on both ends of this spectrum, neither are great. Thank you for your wonderful work! I am soon to be 60 & in a new relationship for 3 months now & it seems to be going well. I'm giving it another 30 days = 120 days then decide if it's worth any more investment.

[Diabeteslovewithdee]

Jonathon,
I have learned to practice Compassionate Curiosity.
For Example, I ask my close friend (male) :
What are your Fears? How can I support you?
I believe in asking deeper questions just like you...
Thank You for being real, authentic and vulnerable with us. Thank You for sharing your insights.

[Linda-eotc]

Politics is a vetting conversation...you can learn a lot VERY fast.

[sally-annllewellynartist]

Oh god, I'm going to be 51 in November, this is all too much work.... I really think that I'm going to have to bow out gracefully. I've too many other important things to do these days. I've spent decades trying to figure this shit out. I'm done.... I'M DONE!
Freedom....at last! ....just not in the way I expected it.
New business launch next week, my focus is on that. Just upset that I wasted my best years on awful people. So I've alot of making up to do.
Jonathan, your advice is sound, and your book (and recommendations) are spot on.
But I am done 🙂

[glamazn]

Ha! I am going to name my next sailboat “Situationship”.

[doctorrenee]

You are so fun to watch Jonathan and cast such great wisdom! Thank you!

[JKNat]

As someone who has many male cousins and a brother, I've always been conscious of trying not to be "a clingy girlfriend." With my most recent ex that was often a misunderstanding.
I've seen that movie and even then thought, yep. The one who can get along more easily without the other is the one in control of the relationship.