5 Ways to Respond When She Starts to Pull Away

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Harry talks about 3 reasons why a woman who's highly interested may start to pull away from you, and 5 ways to respond so you'll be able to keep her!

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0:00 Intro
0:14 What is the "Pull Away" Test?
1:23 Why They Pull Away
1:41 Reason #1
3:52 Reason #2
5:38 Reason #3
6:55 Is Her Pulling Away a BAD Thing?
8:09 Intro - 5 Ways to Pass Her Test
8:15 Solution #1
9:36 Solution #2
11:15 Solution #3
13:05 Solution #4
14:12 Solution #5
17:41 Outro

[nathanmahoney]

You dump a girl who's testing you and playing games. If she doesn't make you feel good and has you watching videos like this, you're not a good match.

[abilityup]

You forgot #4: She has other guys she's interested in, possibly more than you. Especially with online dating the average looking woman has more options than she ever did. Either way the solution like you mention remains the same: Have things going on in your own life, work on yourself and as a positive it helps remain indifferent to the random "ghosting". The other thing men forget is she also needs to prove she's worth your time, but there's no need to ever call her out. Your time is valuable, it's literally a waste of time to try to call her out and argue. If you try to setup for a date more than once and she dodged without offering anything then you know she's not that into you, and you move on. Stay on your path kings.

[MoltarTheGreat]

Comes down to it is: Remain detached.

At the top of the honeymoon phase, they pull away and deliberately, subconsciously, do something to hurt you at the peak of your vulnerability just to see how you react. Funny enough, this can cause you discover some important things about yourself you had no idea about and identify areas you need to improve on.

If you act needy and clingy, you need to look deep inside of yourself and wonder why you are so overly invested in this person? Do you have a life outside of this person? Do you have a void in your life that you wish to fill? If you have problems, work on yourself.

If you get angry and indignant? Seriously assess your expectations for the relationship. You resent her because of your unrealistic expectations to the point that you're becoming obsessed and possessive.

If you are pretty cool about it, it means you aren't very attached to her, and so _you_ can decide if you want her or not.

Human relationships are very much so push and pull, and so you have to accept that. People come and go, remember that! Focus on yourself and your own best interests. If you feel yourself falling to hard, set some boundaries.

It may feel contradictory because you want to be with someone who wants you as much as you want them, but that isn't healthy if how much you want them isn't healthy. Be present and in the moment.

[blkjzz]

Pulling back without warning after building an emotional attachment is a form of abuse. If anyone wants to test, get back to their life, or what ever their reason is, the polite thing to do is to let the interested party know by communicating. It is ok to evaluate, but it is not ok to hurt people by playing mind games.

[BAKER-lu]

There's ONLY ONE way to pass the test, and that's to TOTALLY IGNORE her! SIMPLE

[ronson]

Here’s a lesson to be drawn.
Don’t compromise your sanity for someone else’s insanity.

[ratdaddee]

Keep in mind that many women who came from dysfunctional families (no father present) have some type of personality disorder (BPD is one). These women are not testing you, they are emotionally immature and are simply unable to reciprocate love. If you run into one of these women, run as fast and as far away as possible. They are emotionally dead and will drain you emotionally and financially. Trust me, I was married to one. You've been warned.

[jacl]

As a woman, I can tell you that I absolutely hate these games. Tell me how you feel and I’ll be straight with you about my feelings. If a guy withdraws from me, I assume he’s not interested and move on. No point in crying if someone is not into me. I’ve got plenty to offer for someone who does.

[yf]

Guys, be chill. Happy with any outcome!

[TheBigOxUchia]

No. If a person begins to flake on you after so long, she is being disrespectful. Don't emotionally break down (I agree with you on that), but move on and don't look back. If she stops respecting your time, sooner or later it will translate into everything else.

[jonneygreen]

The answer to all this is 1) Don't stop working on yourself 2) Be on your purpose and 4) Have abundance mindset. Bro when you have all these 3 keys, you won't even realise when she's playing mind games or pulling away.

[atulkrjha]

If she pulls away and you say nothing. She will do it again. It is a waste of time to invest in her. Play stupid games to win stupid prizes. Dating is supposed to be fun and transparent not competitive and flaking

[joeweider]

I think the most difficult but most important thing to do is to remain unemotional, stoic. Any other thing is useless. Let her do what she does, respond with shotr delayed messages, dont force anything, dont show emotions, dont talk about any emotion. Nice and easy. This is difficult but this way you maintain your value.

[yowhatitlooklike]

Our phones have ruined genuine human connection. There was a brief wonderful time before cellphones where you just called her, if she picked up you talked, you make a date. If she didn't you left a message and waited. I was in 7th grade and it was the easiest relationship I ever had.

Now it's like, you get read receipts, you get the little green dot next to their profile telling you they're online, you get this "stories" bullshit where both of you have to peacock and pretend you're living your best life for validation. It's not healthy, it turns us into narcissistic babies, hijacks our reward systems, AND makes everyone feel entitled to constant communication and contact. And then we pretend it's always been this way, that it SHOULD be this way, that we as individuals are the problem. No wonder so many people are lonely

[seanc]

The fact this shit goes on is ridiculous. Thank God we have people like this making men aware of this craziness and how to handle it.

[shapeshifter]

That's why you have to pull away first. Bring Choas!

[thomasconnors]

Had this happened last year with a woman. The games started after 6 months. I'm 55 years old. No time to waste. No foolish games. Now I'm with a woman that plays no games, so far. 🙏

[afranklin]

I needed this so much sir, thank you! As a recovering "needy/clingy" I'm getting better at having my own life and not getting hurt by women doing this.
Dating a woman right now that I want to be my gf, started off very active and now I'm just being patient and building the attraction by waiting and mirroring her energy. Your tips about letting her know its okay too is solid. Thank you again!

[mrsimo]

I've been through this hot/ cold pull away test pain in my arse every other day. She's a DA and she's now just a memory. RIP you dodgy woman. Thanks for the upload.
Also, women play games they don't even know they're doing...

[giovannij]

I definitely agree with you, and not many people explain the difference between pulling away and breaking up. I see a lot of comments on this subject. Guys will say something like "if she pulls away, leave her" but they seem to forget that, not only women but men (humans) pull away from people all the time.

It's healthy to have space from time to time. You notice if you're texting your girlfriend for example a couple days consistently, even if you don't admit it, you start to feel less enthusiastic when texting back. Not cos you don't want to be around her but because there's not a lot to talk about . But notice if she pulls away, for a couple days maybe, and you guys don't talk. Maybe she MSG's you and the energy is back because, you both feel good about texting/talking or seeing each other again.

Please try not to take it offensively. It's good for your relationship. Even if she's the one who pulls away each time, as long as you leave her alone during that time, things will be fine tbh