How do I forgive someone who refuses to say sorry?

"How do I forgive someone who refuses to say sorry?"
Dr. Jeremy Pierre answers in Honest Answers | Episode 21

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[MaiAngelTv]

Thank you very much for this video. It has given me clarity.

[Kelly-slvz]

I don’t have a hard time forgiving people, so much as I have a hard time with them not seeing how they’ve hurt me and not caring. It’s never their fault.

[angelique]

Yes. Im in that situation for 20 years. My bullying sister has remained in denial. Thrown my forgiveness in my face. Refused to apologise. Pretends it never happened. I stopped all contact. She is toxic to me. Yet. I forgive her.

[DRamos-vqtb]

Forgiveness is the act of letting go of
resentment, anger, or negative feelings towards someone who has wronged or hurt you. It is a decision to release the desire for revenge and to move on from the pain caused by the offending party.
Forgiveness does not mean that you forget what has happened or that you condone the actions of the person who hurt you. Rather, it is a choice to free yourself from the burden of anger and bitterness, and to find peace and healing.
Forgiveness can be a difficult and long process, but it can lead to a sense of closure and emotional well-being. It can also help to restore relationships understanding and empathy between people so your wrong forgiveness is for you not for them

[kthoskins]

Yep, forgiveness v. reconciliation. Different things entirely.

[zandeosaddles]

The inability to say sorry is directly proportional to the inability to take responsibility for your actions. I can forgive someone bit may be unable to live with them if they cannot take responsibility.

[TASconfidential]

Give yourself the freedom to let it go and move on...

Then leave the person who wronged you in the past where they belong.

Keep it moving.

People are selfish and when they don’t atone for they’re wrong doings, they don’t deserve the blessing of your presence, loyalty, friendship, or love.

Don’t hold any animosity, but release that person with the animosity too.

[flower]

Forgiveness needs to be given w/ full consent of the victim of any kind w/o expecting anything from the one who wrong them. Otherwise your going to put yourself through a vicious cycle. If the person who wrongs you never apologizes to you of course it hurts but at that point that’s between them and God. It’s hard. The person wrongs you, we get no sorry, and then Jesus asks us to pray for them. It’s tough, but that’s what it is to carry your cross.

[truthseekerlana]

With people who can’t look inside themselves and accept an apology from someone who is truly sorry is committing the sin of unforgiveness

[OldDominionEDC]

Very helpful. Thank you from someone who's listening 7 years after this was posted

[jewishbride]

In accordance with this word and mark 11:25, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I loosen myself of every unequal yoke and common share of reconciliation with those who are not sorry of their deeds while being forgiven by me, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

[jtrose]

its not just them refusing to say sorry! its they dont care if they were wrong or hurt you.

[curtistinemiller]

Some people parents dont believe they have to ever apologize it makes you see them. As they really are full of disdain and pride.forgive them for yourself and watch.out later not to get that involved in Personal matters ...people that wont apologize aint worth the Intimacy of being close to you and most of the time they could. Care

[ericrosales-odgm]

Forgiveness is for you, not the abuser. You first give before your receive.

[BB.halo_heir]

How can you tell the difference between unforgiveness and setting boundaries?

[EPWORTHPRODUCTIONS]

That is an amazing way to see God in your life, when you feel sadness for someone who has sinned against you but doesn't want forgiveness.

[stevecoley]

I have friends that find it difficult to ask for forgiveness with words, so they over compensate with beautiful actions.

[questionsonchristianity]

Wow this information was amazing. There is so much information about forgiving our enemies but absolutely NOTHING about any insight to when the person you want to forgive will NOT accept your forgiveness. Thank you so much for your insights. God bless you.

[achillesBC]

thank u. It clears my head. I am a victim of toxic, abusive relationship. I was abused, raped and being cheated on. I just want an apology from my abuser. Never received one. But the abuser till this day constantly send me text saying how their lives are better now, what they are doing now etc. I made me gone crazy and I haven't slept in days due to recent episode. Thank u for this video :). I am not a Christian but may god bless everyone

[wk]

It isn't just that they refuse to say sorry, or ask forgiveness in return, it is also a matter of ownership of the offence and working on not reoffending. If that person repeatedly refuses to acknowledge what they did, puts the blame on you/others for their sin or outright denies/justifies/minimizes their sin, you still forgive them but must also sever contact with them. I stayed in an abusive relationship for 20+ years because of the faulty/dangerous advice of my pastor "you can't have true forgiveness w/out reconciliation" according to Matt. 5:21-24. I forgave, I reconciled, and I continually suffered abuse because my abuser didn't believe she was ever in the wrong!
I just recently (4 weeks ago)completely severed ties with her and feel such a strong peace and joy in my life! God is good. I saw her once since then but that old guilt and fear didn't rise up in me. God is so very good!!
I don't know if she is genuinely saved, that is not my call to make, but I do pray for her to humble herself before God and confess and repent of her sins.
So, yes, forgive, but sometimes you have to end the relationship too.