Unknown ADHD Behaviors Part 6

Can you relate?💡💙 - part 6

ADHD Behaviours You Didn’t Know About - part 6

In arguments, instead of just accepting other people’s behaviours, you often don’t have patience for people who refuse to take accountability and own up to their mistakes because you’ve been told to take responsibility for your behaviours your entire life. This has led you to become a lot more self-reflected and honest, which is why you tend to have a strong sensitivity for justice, get angry and ultimately withdraw from people who don’t behave the same.

Disclaimer: All my content is based on my own experience and/or research/observations from licensed professionals. Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. ADHD behaviours are not exclusive to ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.

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[adhdvision]

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[toothfairy]

That makes so much sense. I think that's also why other people think that it's just important for me to "win" or "be right" in an argument. But it's not that. I just don't allow people to move on in an argument when they don't take accountability. I often even express this during the argument. So the whole "can we just move on and get over it" is not really an option in my life when I work so hard to own up to all my little and large mistakes alike.

[justrachel]

It’s so frustrating being constantly demanded to grovel over even harmless mistakes you can’t control, only to realize others aren’t expected to do the same even when they’re being deliberately cruel. The double standard is very hard to live with.

[SanGreal-Hanna]

And the worst is to attempt to gaslight me. That will send me into orbit. I am done the second that happens.
One thing that has occurred in my growth is acceptance. I accept who you are and I get to choose if I want to have you around.

[Hariol_]

The really fun part is when you finally give up on being accountable yourself, and suddenly, you're a rude, uncaring person because you're doing what everyone else does now. But they don't realize that you've always worked hard not to be like them, and it's just what you deal with daily.

[mmminno]

This is especially frustrating when their behaviors are actually abusive and they blame you because they think your ADHD means you're just "crazy"

[sparklemotion]

Exactly the double standards
The people who tell you to consider other people's feelings and how you say things, are the same people who tell you not to be sensitive and get over yourself. First I cried like a baby now I just get up and leave.

[theironstove]

Omg exactly. All my life everyone's been telling me I'm the only problem. For so many reasons I've just agreed and absorbed that and known the importance of keeping an open mind when it comes to questioning myself. When you have ADHD everyone *humiliates* you. For years i thought that badly affected my self esteem. These days, i know that humiliation leads to *humility* and that's a rare gift 🖤✨

[chickensandwich]

This is SOOOO true. I got out of a situation recently where I had a roommate who's communication style was inherently conflict oriented. That is bad enough. It was worse when the things he was trying to "hold me accountable for" would be things he would overlook. It's not just about justice it's about respect. If it was just being ignorant and willing to change, that is one thing. It's another thing when people want you to do things that are convenient for them but don't have the principle to reciprocate.

[xXLuckyJeroXx]

I also have this "strong sense of justice" and let me tell you makes it VERY hard to build relationships nowadays

[noumenonnoise]

I've lost friends who assumed I thought they we're guilty of something when all I expected was for them to take responsibility for their own behavior leading to misunderstandings. Even if it's not from their own ill intent I was tired of mediating folks unwilling to be honest with hard truths.

[Clovergirl]

THIS. I work very hard to be empathetic and caring and kind and take accountability when I make mistakes. It drives me up a wall when people just want you to forgive them over and over again while they put zero effort into fixing their behavior. I don't have patience for it anymore. Either own and fix your shit, or there's the door.

[TaroLoaf]

can relate alot to these frustrations lol. i often times put in an extra effort not to lash out to ppl when in a bad mood. meanwhile the ppl around me willingly lash out at me without hesitation and just tell me to get over it and that im being sensitive

[chillednotstirred]

This makes so much sense and describes me perfectly, I get so frustrated when people say "thats just who they are" but I have to change myself for others. So when other people don't change or understand the way I do I get so mad and withdraw and now.. I'm just alone.

[kariduran]

Honestly I love your content so much bc this includes inattentive types (ADD)!
Most adhd people on social media seem to have the hyperactive type, which is fine and expected, but our experiences don't really reflect as much as one might think.

[Lericah]

The most profound thing I learned, that is intuitive; I learned that alot of people have a different perspective than me and they literally have cultural barriers that prevent them from understanding other perspectives.

[KingDarkOne]

True. And most definitely an annoying thing to deal with. It drives me nuts and leaves me slowly becoming colder and less caring then I use to be.

[SquibToast]

This is so incredibly accurate for me, a thing I always had to explain to my family when I disagreed with them is that I couldn't understand doing something without a reason. I was never able to accept “because I said so” because it just didn't make sense

[ComfortingSoundsASMR]

Yup and this is a strong overlap with autism, the need for honesty and justice. Lovinggg your content

[catdust]

Yes. Accoutability. More people need it