INTJ Fears

[Arlyon]

I need to mentally prepare myself to go outside or even talk to someone.

[saph]

"I don't get it, I thought about everthing! Where did I mess up"
Quote from an INTJ friend

[SekRanger]

"I don't want to do the chores. They waste my brain energy.", INTJ friend.

[luxpivc]

One of my fears as an INTJ is losing my life at the hands of an idiot who wouldn’t have accidentally killed me if they had taken my advice

[shawdo_yt]

INTJ here, practice stoicism. It helps you accept that shit happens and thats okay.

[KalemStLouis]

My greatest fear is going nuts or losing control of my brain like epilepsy, Alzheimer’s etc.

[huanliu]

this video should've been played to me right after I came out of the womb

[fortuneh]

As INTJ — I don’t trust any pilot or any driver; I only trust myself to do things safely and properly.

[katelynjahnke]

I snorted when you said "if I just stay up all night and build my master plan, then it should totally work out great. And if it's not working out great, then I obviously just need more master-planning!"

I'm literally listening to this video as I stay up late master-planning my schedule for the entire semester. Scary accurate.

[Hereticked]

As an INTJ I can confirm that I've always hated the little "maintenance" tasks in life more than anything. In my 20s, I was already making good money, but I wasn't exercising, I wasn't grocery shopping regularly (I might make one trip a month and load up on bullshit), didn't brush my teeth often enough, didn't do my laundry properly, etc. It wasn't a fear so much as all that stuff felt unimportant and beneath me. How I present myself is important? Fuck you, I'm making bank from my home office. I was succeeding and the world was my oyster.

It isn't until you have more experience with Te and Se that you begin to realize "oh, how I present myself actually IS important. It could open or close doors in the future." And it isn't until you get diagnosed with high blood pressure or you're in a dentist chair getting another cavity filled that you think "yeah, I need to spend more time on my health."

I think the best thing you can tell an INTJ to get them to focus on the sensory more is "once you get all that annoying Se stuff knocked out, your mind and your environment will be free of worry and chaos, and you can focus all your mental energy on what you really want to do." In that frame, it can be perceived as important to take care of Se concerns first whenever possible. Also that the Se stuff, while boring and draining, is really important to your quality of life over time.

[ericek]

Quote from an INTJ: "I fear getting sick the most".

[arfelt]

Me : *talk in conversation*
People : *want to change the subject"
Me : hey, stick to the script that i already foresee it before. 😠

[shawdo_yt]

Once an INTJ can say "ahh cool so this is what i've been missing or what i'm weak on, lets try again"
INTJ can evolve into an ultimate shiny awakened INTJ.
by accepting the fact that they're not the perfect ultimate thinkers that they are.
they increase their potential and effectiveness to the next level.
because they are not constrained by their own ego.

[meechipeachi]

Yes, I am staying up late doing research because that's when the rest of the world is quieter and not interrupting me. Ya caught me!

[epistte]

I agree with the chaos fear. I also fear stupid people in any position of power. Id love to be able to reprogram people so that they were all logical but I can't find a USB port and they certainly aren't wifi enabled.

[lightworkerunderconstructi]

Oh man... as an INTJ, I learned a ton from this video. Overindulgence of the Ni and paying too little attention to the Se bullshit. Now I see why I hate doing mundane, boring stuff like laundry, dishes or scooping the cat boxes. I'd rather read about MBTI types, ancient Egypt or just about anything else but do Se crap. [ Paradigm shift] So... I'd better attend to them or they will smack me in the head. Seems obvious but I never viewed it that way. Thanks for this video Dave!

[vmizzell]

This is an incredibly helpfull insight. I think one of the things that makes paying attention to your Demons difficult is the fact that as a child and young adult an INTJ gets shamed for being lazy, a dreamer, no common sense, "Einstein", and so forth. So the core of an INTJ's pyschological resistence gets formed around those kinds of tasks and activities that involve Se. It is so much harder to accept advice from a percieved enemy. If only I had more quiet and solitude, if only I had the time and space for reflective thought, then I could achieve! But I can't get started because I feel ashamed about the dishes in the sink that I forget to wash because they were not a priority.

[bryantrejo]

Not gonna lie. I literally laughed out loud when I saw that schedule. I always title my menial tasks and schedules as "shit to do"

[ccs]

As an INxJ I love being a teacher. I have a scheme of work for the year, a weekly schedule, lesson plans and a time table for every day of the week. So all planned. It's all good.

Until I actually go into the classroom.

And all hell breaks lose.

[whowillyoucallonthen]

So, what I hear you saying is:
"Hope for the best. Plan for the worst. Let the FUBAR flow. Step back. Process.. Jump back in & own it." Got it. Thanks, Tim!