You Can't Heal Yourself Out of a Desire!

Is it wrong to desire? Can you heal yourself out of a desire through meditation, personal work or Shadow Work? We often have desires within ourselves that we feel are wrong to have or that will cause us pain. Perhaps the question is not whether the desire is good or bad but WHY we have it. Following this line of thinking, Teal Swan explains how you can find your true desire and begin to meet this need directly instead of through unconscious manipulation.

Video References:

Incompatibility, A Harsh Reality in Relationships: 5:43

Overlay (What prevents you from having real relationship): 8:40

How to be Authentic: 15:34

What is Healing?: 16:17

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👉 Who Is Teal Swan?

Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering.

Today, she’s also become an International Speaker, having facilitated retreats and life changing workshops in large venues worldwide. Teal was ranked 15th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2023.

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[camilla]

having an authentic desire is gonna scream inside you, when you fight it. When you embrace this desire with total acceptance and non-judging space holding for it, it begins to soften its voice and it doesn't matter truly if this desire will manifest the dream behind it, or not... I understand that by acknowledging this desire and purify it from false judgments about it and stop creating all kinds of worse case scenarios around it, space starts to open up to the benefit of the healing process. Not erasing the trauma on purpose, but as a side effect of adapting to a new mindset about original desires, post ( past ) traumatic stress will dissolve.

[AuthenticSelfGrowth]

I believe certain desires can come from truth and others come from trauma and ego. As we transcend we can move towards authentic desires 🔥 Great topic!!

[nothingnobody]

YES!! That's the Truth! Slam all the passive, flowery, spiritual mamby-pamby, tryna be spiritual, hurry up with your ascension crap...you gotta live your life honestly. That's what leads you to a better you.

[DNCRable]

Honestly my biggest question is where the hell you're getting all of these amazingly precise stock photos & videos, and who collects them 😂😂

[dust]

Being a mother and a good one does not stop you from doing something else Grand and epic, but take responsibility for the life you created

[MochaxMatcha]

I suppose a better question would be, if I know my real desire is to be loved, admired, and appreciated by people whom I hold in high esteem, then what would I do to figure out the best route? Its one thing to realize your going about it wrong, but its another to figure out how best to do it. My mind goes blank

[dwzm]

10:20 Yes, precisely. My desire is mixed for both actually helping people And the selfish one of making the world a safer place for me to live in.

I value safety, and ironically, it helps me heal.

[LearningTheLanguage]

Experience of something wanted is all thats needed to heal

[marygracesmith]

I'm going though this exact problem right now. I just ended a relationship and it's really just...…… killing me. But thank the universe for Teal and this video, don't know what I'd do without you! <3

[arcaneschool]

I healed the emotions first with EMDR and then started working on the inferiority complex caused by the trauma. Oh and the so called shadow. I'm embracing some of my shadow now that I wouldn't accept before because they are stronger qualities than the qualities that came from the lense of emotional perceptions. Awesome topic Teal.

[macoeur]

Great, GREAT advice...to keep asking ourselves what we want and why we want it....all the way down the line until we've reached that core desire. I've been doing this for so long it's become automatic...and even enjoyable.... and I find it's the most useful tool, by far, for self-awareness....and for gaining true focus....and for identifying the "leaks" in our energy and time that can "drain" the stream of energy directed toward what we desire.

[nira]

Although I can't fulfill my simple basic desires, i don't feel much guilty about myself. Thank you Teal, you nailed it ❤

[nimuyreemu]

I have been ignoring having some of the desires I have ..
To write
To change my eating and health lifestyle
To own a beautiful pair of shoes..
I judge my desires so much.
I have problems with deservedness..

[jazlanahn]

This really nails it!  Wow!  My desire to be something that was true is not what I could have been but now it's real.  This makes so much sense now.  Thank you!

[LisaS]

My sister thought she knew what was best for me, not understanding that I knew (know) what is best for me and healthiest for me.

[briannab]

I want to eventually find a man who I can be with all the time. I flourish when I have the safety net of being encapsulated by a man who loves me and I'm tired of feeling like I'm wrong for having this.

I'm not lonely, nor am I codependent. I'm happy by myself and I love being single. I spend almost all my life alone and I am not lonely. I am not seeking a man to fill this desperately empty void in myself. I just feel happy and fulfilled when I have a loving man as my counterpart who is always there and never far. I'm weary of feeling like some sort of freak or people making me feel like I'm some hopeless clinger for this.

My brother and his boyfriend are together 24 hours a day and it's just so natural and what they prefer. Sometimes I feel like I'll never find that because I've only ever found that desire in either homosexual men or very traumatized and needy men. I am able to find men who want to be with me all the time, but they are suffocating and it doesn't feel like they pursue me because they want me, but they pursue me because they NEED me.

Does anyone else have a similar experience?

[taracorsi]

After all my spiritual awakenings depression and enlightenment. You nailed it on the head! Thank you!!

[haideen]

This was the video of Teal that made the biggest change in my life

[johnmahon]

To desire not to desire is still a desire.

[MrMagikBananas]

THIS VIDEO IS TOOOO MUCH.. DROPPING TOO MANY GEMS AT ONCE. MIND BLOWN