How Narcissists Use Trauma to Control You

[Tormekia]

Whether it's narcissism or something else, anyone who makes you feel that you need a recording device to prove reality is best avoided.

[cagii]

I was a victim of a narcissist. I nearly lost my mind and my life.

[jdmarr]

I read somewhere
that to a narcissist:
Your joy is their pain,
your pain is their joy.

[debbiefreeman]

They’re always making jabs at you, trying to hurt you or get an emotional reaction from you. They enjoy telling you bad news, especially if it hurts you.

[mlou]

BEST BEST explanation I’ve heard! They slowly remove your boundaries and push your norms to where you’re in total confusion. They treat you like they hate you but they tell you how much they love you. They make you do more and more as they do less and less for the relationship/family. To the point where you can’t depend on them on a regular basis for anything and you’re stuck doing everything while they disappear. They dys-regulate YOU and your CHILDREN to accept unhealthy boundaries, setting you up for a lifetime of abuse and disappointment

[ganymeade]

The scary thing is that narcissists also prey on good people who are successful. That is why people need to know how to defend themselves from bad people.

[RealEYESAnalyze]

They also take EVERYTHING personal because it's all about them.
You can't ever have an objective conversation with differing views with them.
They get SO ANGRY when your views don't line up with theirs because they see it as an attack to their ego and their self-righteousness, and they will get mad at you over it, which of course is an overreaction.
They are never "wrong."

[Sarahyoutubeaddict]

They take pleasure from your pain, it makes them feel powerful

[MG-otyr]

They thrive on chaos, its not just for the cycle of manipulation but they are highly entertained by it. They don't see boundaries, they are just challenges for them to bypass.

[Jervdbur]

Keep it easy for yourself. Don't stay to long in your head. It's a DISORDER. Leave that with them. Know your morals, you've tried to communicate. Done is done. Walk away!

[shannongilmourpeersupport]

They try to get us to normalize confusion

[adelalaird]

God please don’t forget about me. Please protect me and my family from this horrible energy.🌟

[rtgl]

Best way to conquer them is to never surrender. Never give them stability. Don't react to the temper tantrums, if they say they're leaving you, let them. Become unavailable. Block them. Find someone else and move on because I can tell you they will never give you what you desire most on purpose and that isn't love.

[haliec]

It took me 2 years to regroup and regulate after leaving, and another year to feel somewhat normal. Year 4, I'm beginning to trust my judgement again. It's an awful abuse. Stay safe 🙏

[ruthparks]

Yeah he thinks he's the good guy and then takes a righteous honest woman and considers HER to be the bad one.

[Mebingototo]

This is the typical way for them to hunt, Narcissists sneak into the trauma, that is why we call them as the evil.
They smell the trauma in human.

[HappyBeader]

Yes. Offended by little things normal people aren’t offended by and they expect constant admiration. If you give them constructive criticism they go into a complete meltdown or rage. I distanced myself from someone I suspected was a narcissist and they confirmed my suspicions by going into a complete rage when they asked me why I was distancing myself from them. Now they continue to gossip about me and want to make me the villain in their story. I am just fine with that. I have no space for demons and I won’t let her disturb my peace. As far as I’m concerned, she doesn’t exist.

[SzilviaFarkas-dgzr]

They don’t just destroy you but even destroy the capability to recover.

[Mrs.BeAKindHumanFries]

I love that you said therapists need to recognize it…. Too often the “therapist” community is completely untrained and unaware of narcissistic abuse and its impact! Which can cause more harm!!!

[MaxsonOdeal]

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