Breaking Free: 4 Things Narcissists Do When Powerless

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[TNewsh]

"At their deepest core, narcissistic people know that they are not nice people." I love this comment.

[KS-dxln]

They are jealous of others who are their true self. They can't compete with us.

[carolynjaynes]

The only way to win the narcissist's game is to not play. Walk out and leave them alone with their icky victim/bully self.

[KDubberley]

I was gaslit during discarding. He would tell me “I’m giving you the space you need” and I would say “but I’m not asking for space, I’m asking you for quality time and support” - it was like he didn’t hear me at all. Now I know what was happening

[kim_possible]

Shame- rage spiral is so legit. Covert narcs are so scary because their revenge is so secretive it’s hard to know when or where it’s coming.

[RaiderDeepBall]

Narcissistic people take all the credit, none of the blame.

[MrRobot-jbtI]

when they know, they have no more control over you, some narcissist will go as far as to go after your loved ones, just to get to you. That’s how low some will go.

[dalidzucheredi]

Sincerely I can't go to therapy and these videos have literally saved my life

[deannamahone]

Thank you for helping me end my 34 year abusive marriage. My psychologist told me that my husband is a narcissist, but I had no idea what that meant. Ive been watching your informative videos since my husband spent time in jail for DV, but because I am handicapped and unable to work, I was afraid to leave. How would I support myself and our 4 kids? When my parents passed away a year ago, they left me money so I would feel capable of leaving. I started the process last summer, but he keeps "hoovering" me back in. That is until the moment I watched this entire video!! You have given me strength to never let him pull me in again! You have been an amazing giver of faith and belief in myself. I could never thank you enough!!!

[NatzTalk]

This explains why most domestic violence men/women are Narcissists. Their rage/shame leads to the abusive cycle.

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

Self-compassion is like kryptonie to the narcisist. Once you start loving and respecting yourself, you become able to start leaving the abusive environment and the abusers.

[TimetoWonder]

I got rid of the narc and all of their monkeys (mutual friends) since the narc called a zoom meeting to try to convince the friends that I was crazy. None of them bothered to talk to me. No one considered that he was emotionally abusive for years so I got rid of all of them.

[donovangray]

When a empathetic person loses their temper with a narcissist, the narcissist will turn it around and become the victim. Then the empathetic person feels they were wrong in their judgement and gives the narcissist a "break". I would also argue that if you are like an "empath" you will be so empathetic that you often become a doormat for the narcissist. Part of the reason I never stood my ground was because I as an empathetic person who never wanted to be seen as "the bad guy" in these situations. I felt that other people's vison of my character would be destroyed if I did not give people the "compassion" that everyone deserves. It took a lot of work on myself to realize that I was not giving myself compassion and allowing myself to be hurt to spare others' feelings. Self preservation can get distorted by being raised in this kind of environment.

[MaryGonzales-oz]

I just left him
I'm not with him anymore. I don't have any feelings for that crazy person the Narcissist, he only comes to steal . He only Comes to take all that you have.I thank God because he removed me from that Demonic Spirit.

[HeidiDunning-xz]

Dr. Ramani, your videos have helped me so much. My relationship with a narcissist was a complete roller coaster ride and I constantly felt confused by his behaviors. I didn’t even realize I was dealing with a narcissist until I found your videos . What an eye opener for me! Everything started making sense after that😮. I’m in the process of divorcing him now and of course he is playing the victim because I left HIM. I also know he’s pissed because I refuse to be bullied anymore. Thank goodness I have a great support system ❤️

[HeliaAkbari]

Narcissist rage while being scary and dangerous, is really childish and pathetic

[janedoh]

It’s like they are actually irritated with us trying to make the relationship work 😂 well. I solved that problem by putting my energy into fixing myself and letting him hate me from a distance

[LadyLaylaC]

Being Single is such a protection and better use of life energy. My goodness.

[wendyrussell]

The vulnerable narcissist mirrors his inadequacies on you. Ex: Not saying thank you and not noticing what they have done. Showing disinterest. They become lazy, blaming and very dull in their rage

[anitaholst]

Believe that the truth will set you free. That goes for the narcissist as well - a very broken human being who needs Truth. Amen.