Why are people so CRITICAL & RUDE? The psychology behind Judgemental People & how to deal with them

The TRUTH about rude and critical people: understanding the root causes of critical behavior & how to deal with critical people: Ever found yourself on the receiving end of hurtful criticism or judgment from others? It's a common experience that can leave us feeling hurt, insecure, and even angry. But why do people criticize? And how can we effectively deal with those who seem to have a knack for constantly putting us down? In today's video, we delve into the psychology of criticism, exploring the underlying motivations and behaviors that drive people to judge and criticize others. We'll uncover the reasons why people criticize, ranging from insecurities and self-projection to a desire for control or power. In addition to this understanding, we'll talk about practical strategies for navigating interactions with rude, critical individuals, set effective boundaries, and protect your emotional well-being. Whether you're dealing with a critical family member, a demanding boss, or a judgmental friend, these tips will empower you to take control of your interactions and maintain your self-worth.I hope you find it helpful and insightful!

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[chikochiringa]

It's hard to deal such people because they feel they are always right.

[islandprincess]

I have a cousin who is like this. It’s not worth it to confront someone like this because they will just take it as a win that they hit under your skin. My cousin is a miserable person to be around because she loves to pick at people and ask everyone questions to make them feel uncomfortable. I try to avoid being around her. She is not well liked and I know other family members that try to avoid her too. She will ask you a question and whatever your answer is then she will take the position that it’s stupid and try to put you down about your decision. For example she asked me if I went to the gym. I told her that I like to work out at home. Then she went in on me saying why don’t you like to go to the gym? She asked me if I had a New Years resolution, , and what was it. I told her that I make goals that I’m working on. Then she said that she thinks that New Years resolutions are stupid. I’m think to myself if you think they are stupid then why did you ask me if I have one? Talking to her is like being trapped in a dog cage while being poked at with a stick by someone. I find that with people like this the less that you say to them the better. If they don’t know what you are up to or your plans, goals, and accomplishment then they can’t criticize you about anything. The less you say to people like this the better. It’s like going gray rock with a narcissist. You should be bland like a gray rock don’t react to them and keep using filler words like yeah, um hum and act like you are so bored talking to them and you don’t have a reaction. She doesn’t genuinely care about others and that she is coming from a place of putting others down. My goal in life is to make the people that I come in contact with feel good and enjoy talking to me.

[jRex]

Talking to family and friends is a frustrating experience for me. I feel like they are always trying to find ways to get angry at me and put me down and make me feel like an idiot. Everybody seems to be so pissed off nowadays. Why is everybody so toxic and mean?

[PoisonelleMisty]

The person who brings out others' flaws in this manner is often referred to as a faultfinder or a critic. Their behavior may stem from feelings of insecurity, jealousy, or a desire to feel superior to others. They may also engage in this behavior as a way to deflect attention away from their own insecurities or flaws. It is possible that this person may not fully realize the impact of their words and actions on others' feelings. They may be seeking validation or attention through negative behavior, unaware of the hurt they are causing. It is important for individuals like this to practice empathy and self-awareness in order to understand the consequences of their behavior and work towards treating others with kindness and respect.

[ThousandMask]

Often I found people that are not very open minded, egocentric n not very conscientious, tempt to project their reality. You can read so much into them through their accusations / criticism
And they probably don’t even realize it

[jaysilva]

This is a modern day conundrum! It's becoming more common with social media. I just ignore them? They have no life but to over analyse everything!

[nightingaledruid]

i have a cousin who developed with fault finder/overly critical habit. He won't admit of his past faults, asking me to teach me how to cook but always criticising what i did, he critic my artworks, crochet projects, and my recipes.

That the fact he was take the picture of my own painting and claimed of his own. I well aware when he (probably impressed) he seems insecure, remain silent and start criticising and call my works weird (zero constructive criticism) (i will take it if his skills above me/more skillful to me, but no)

His behavior is inherited from his parents, talk trash about what people do, lack of emphaty and surprisingly they always asked for help about living to my family anyway, Wow!

The best thing i can do is to cut off their connection and block them forever from my life. These people draining my energy

[MS-nski]

In my profession, I’ve been put down so much that it’s taking such a toll on self-esteem. I am hopefully leaving it. I just don’t know how I’m going to make it financially I can’t be abused anymore.

[tonybrown]

The worst thing is that they don't own up to what they do and say. I'm going through it at work and had it for 3 years and I just had enough of it I'm starting to fight back by telling them how it is. And not only that I had it all my life. That's why I don't do people

[jcsharp]

Thanks for the interesting perspective here on being critical. I'm that guy by the way. After the pandemic, I noticed a huge sense of let downs and bad service levels that has never recovered as far as I can tell. So I'm resentful that people are not trying to improve to get back to good service levels. I offer feedback that seems critical to the person, but it's justified, because I feel they've either lost the will to improve or are just not aware that they can do better. We all need to improve to make our lives better, please. I'll try to do my part as well. :)

[elwynelvy]

Thanks Nena. It seems to me that the ones who criticise me have a completely different perspective to life than I do.

[shaunhall]

I don't listen to critiques about my art. They are welcome to not like it but I'm not going to stop doing it. ;)

[lfuentes]

My children say I always criticize them. Which is sad because I do love them dearly and want what’s best for them. Do you have information on how to change that behavior? Because I obviously don’t realize I’m doing it until it’s done. Thanks.

[dinahnicest]

I was an amateur musician for 30 years. Some of those I worked with had master's degrees and 30 years previous experience, while others had next to no credentials. I noticed very early in my career that without exception, ALL of the criticism came from the very least skilled and educated. The most competent gave suggestions instead. I later observed that maxim applies to just about all criticism everywhere.

[nikitadaisy]

Very and thanks so much for sharing this video!! Love it. It makes so much sense for what you said is true.

[endboss]

Thank you for this video, this and peoples comments makes me not feel so alone and makes it feel less personal. The reality is that there’s just going to be these people in our lives and we have to learn how to deal with it where we don’t let them affect us. I avoid people so much because I just can’t take any more criticism, I mean who wants to be around others to makes you feel bad? I know it’s not healthy to be isolated so I guess I have to figure out how to be stronger

[emily]

One thing I haven't been able to understand is always being someone whose taken accountability for something, apologize or proving that I'm working on a certain emotional issue and still having been told that I justify or guilt trip. I noticed that even when we express words as a way to say hey I'm feeling hurt by these harsh assumptions and not feeling as what I have to say is being heard, I notice that even by doing that, they still find that as something to criticize. so then you're left with not knowing what to say anymore because every attempt in their eyes is wrong, but what they say is right.

[BenitaCharlesMusic]

Thanks so much for sharing this video! It's right on point, like all of your videos. I basically had to distance myself from my mom because she is so critical of me. Even when I've brought it to her attention, she constantly does it. It's caused me to always doubt and second guess myself. At this point, I have to love her from a distance. Your video is so helpful in giving tools and strategies to deal with these types of people. You have a kind spirit that I love. Keep shining your light in the world! 😍

[EccentricNature]

Totally agree with these reasons. It is always from them avoid pain or fear, unless they have been really twisted, I don't see anyone who truly enjoys tearing others down all the time.