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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[Cruzerman]

My 16-year relationship ended when I started learning to love myself and healing my childhood trauma.

[letstalkwithwarren]

That’s absolutely true. As soon as my fiancé received a promotion and started making equal money to me she became distant and left

[YukonJack]

The best definition I've heard for what marriage is supposed to be is "marriage is just two people that refuse to give up on one another." I must say I agree entirely.

[levikirkland]

Yep. When I went to therapy to learn how to communicate better and listen to her emotional needs i found out real quick it was all manipulative bullshit.

[robertroth]

Relationships end when someone else offers her what she feels is a better deal.

[randombandit]

This extends beyond romantic relationships. Pay attention to those who don’t clap for your success, you may be surprised to find it could be those “closest” to you

[ryandgarland]

When she starts making (or inherits) more money than you...start the clock. Have kids? Put the clock on double speed.

[unluckyneighbor]

There is a book I read a long time ago called the Dance of Anger. I think…the premise was when one person starts to get healthy, the other resists because a healthy way of relating is uncomfortable, they want to stay with the old familiar toxic way of relating.

[lepiota]

Agree. When I started improving and my partner didn't want to make that effort, It All burnt down in months.

[MarkPlace-wbxg]

I was a personal trainer in college: saw it from both sides. Any time someone made successful progress their relationship was almost always the first casualty

[kellygreenii]

Yep. The “balance of dysfunction” that kept them together gets destabilized.

In short, therapy starts “rocking the boat”

[ras_wheat]

I broke up with my x because of this. I was the partner who had a set back and couldn't recover. She was there for me too and she was willing to help/ wait for me to get better. I got comfortably numb and broke up with her bc I knew I wasn't going to get better. She deserved better than me and I was right.

[rejectwokeness]

Dr Orion really wanted to say relationships fail when women do better, but he stopped short of that. At least in my country it's the #1 cause or divorce. When men do better the wife looks up to him more, so it can only be one way

[stopcensoringmen]

It takes two for a relationship to fail.
Blame her and her mother.

[thatsnotmyname-tz]

I agree. The same thing happens in life/business, when you start doing better, most people can't make the transition, and would rather see you held back

[gretchencline]

Yep that’s why striving to be the best version of yourself is always smart. Because when you meet someone and you’re at your best (therapy and all) you will attract others who are also on that same path and who understand the ebbs and flows of life and that you grow through hardship not get weaker

[carlosenriquecastanedaguti]

Its true, thanks to my therapist I started to realized I was on a toxic relationship. Learning self-respect and self-love is key to deteriorate relationships, toxic in particular

[frogwogy]

It’s all about the money, money, money…!

[etoineschrdlu]

True. When I finally got a decent job with prospects for advancement, it seemed as though my wife did everything she could to sabotage me. I lost weight - she tried to fatten me up. I went back to school to finish my degree - she started fights with our kids to keep me from studying. I had to leave the house to study and complete assignments. She then set up an appointment with a Family Councilor and scheduled the first session so I was not able to attend. When I showed up at the second session I saw that my wife had already described me as "the problem." After three more sessions the Councilor said she saw no need for the entire family to continue and invited my wife to continue on her own. She refused to.

[jeannievail]

Most UNHEALTHY relationships end when one partner, “REFUSES to overcome a setback, ” while the other gets therapy and outgrows them.

Healthy relationships grow together because they are committed to making it work. It takes two to make it work but only one to destroy it all.