What Is My Ex Feeling During No Contact?

In this video, Coach Lee discusses what your ex feels while you are using the no contact rule.

As Lee points out in this video, what your ex is feeling during no contact is usually the polar opposite to what you are feeling after being dumped by them.

The reason for that is because the breakup was a decision for your ex which put them in control of the situation.

Your ex felt that they were able to dictate what would happen because they were the one who informed you of what was going to happen.

You, on the other hand, felt helpless and at the mercy of your ex. In this way, the two of you were on polar opposites in terms of the feelings of power and control.

The person being dumped felt at the mercy of the one initiating the breakup. That is the reason that so many people who have been dumped tend to beg. They are basically begging for mercy because they feel they have no power or influence over the situation.

Coach Lee will explain further what an ex is feeling during no contact and how it can help to turn the tables in terms of the sense of who is at the mercy of the other person's decisions and desires. This change is often due to the No Contact Rule allowing the person who initiated the breakup to feel loss instead of control. This extremely important realization is key to re-attracting an ex after a breakup or separation.

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[nim]

Lee your observations in this subject and calming advice is a blessing for Humanity to flourish peace ✌

[centrumlex]

No contact makes 2 wise ways:
- soon ex will come back to you and you could be together again,
- soon you forget about ex and you will not care ex will come back or not :)

[sameichang]

for those who in no contact, be strong, it works for me the table has turned, he's chasing me now!

[seanrooney]

Its going to be amazing when my ex starts to feel guilty. Ik it makes me sound like an asshole but people that have been dumped will know where I'm coming from.

[Azizajewelry]

My feelings of love are slowly dwindling but he is still on my mind everyday.

[paulasanchez]

I can say from my own experience that 'No Contact' works. After 2 months of strict no contact, my ex contacted me, showing obvious signs of regret and remorse. We talked thoroughly, and now we're working on fixing what was wrong on the relationship. I know is hard not to contact, but it works. These videos from Coach Lee really helped and encouraged me through that time. Don't lose hope.

[PaganMinn]

No contact is to get yourself back (: getting your ex back is only the byproduct of the process of you regaining who you were. I'm still in that process. Almost on 2 months of no contact. Anyone else struggling dont feel alone. There are many of us right in that boat with you. Much love everyone. Remember you are worthy dont let one person define that worth we all have and are capable of increasing.

[en]

The no contact rule does work.he broke up with me 3 months ago.recently he phones and asks to meet, eventually i agreed.when we met he told me he misses us and is considering his decision.i realised that i do not feel the same about him anymore.i am actually enjoying my life without him.

[DominiqueSpeaks]

Main points:
1.Relief stage= you’re hurting the most
2.Don’t make your ex your dictator= you lose power and became a slave.
3. Focus on yourself and give yourself more credit.
4. They feel control because they know they can come back whenever they want
5. Everybody likes to be chased.
6. Give them an opportunity to miss u.
7. It’s a dangerous thing to give them control. Don’t give in so quickly b/c they don’t value you in the future.
8. Getting you back easy is unattractive
9. You should have caution because they severed a tie.
10. Keep moving forward with your other relationships.
11. Jealousy is not the route to go; it will help them move on & backfire.

[emilyjujmjjujmj]

Omg a month ago I was here watching this video after being dumped and didn't believe Coach Lee. But I still went on one month no contact. One month later my boyfriend comes back. This is just magical.

[NaomiMarie]

I feel like you're talking to me personally...anytime I get the urge to break NC and reach out to my ex, I come here and watch your videos and you set me straight. Thanks coach! lol

[Nomad-ynpv]

No contact worked for me. Two months and my wife came back. Things are better than ever now.

[marilynthomas]

Coach Lee is very insightful and I watch all his videos. After six months of breaking up. My ex came back and I rejected him! I moved on and met someone much better than him. Stay strong everyone and stick out with NC. This is too shall pass!

[RaffaelaCCC]

Trust me. The no contact rule works wonders. But the thing might realize youre not in love with him anymore... like in my case. I've realized i want a man that loves me and that wants me and not someone that doesn't know what he wants. You are worth so much more. And someone will see that and cherish that.

[joeblow]

I regret SO DAMN MUCH not going into 100% no contact from the second she dumped me. I should have had more faith in the process and in me being able to move on. She is the one who's losing the most. After 12 years, she doesn't deserve me or my daughters who loved her like a second mom. Her loss.

[ygsbyme]

Day 15 into NC. its real hard. Been crying everyday and praying and praising. But still determined. I know he will come back soon.

[capturedmoments]

1. Relief Stage
2. At first, your ex feels "Control"
3. Curiosity
4. They will start Chasing YOU

[Maha_qatar]

No one will be back unless there is feelings and emotions from their side not ur side only !!!

[nihal_ony]

It’s 8 months past the breakup. And I changed my number even 2 times because I don’t care anymore.

My life changed in so many ways since then. No contact saved my dignity and helped me love myself. Thank you for the positive vibes ✨

[peachesncreamy]

I don't want my ex back. I feel good knowing he wants me and I'm done with him. I'm engaged and getting married to a man who values me. Thank God.