Adult Children in Blended Families

People are often surprised that adult children in blended families face the same emotional adjustment as younger kids. They may be more mature, but they still have to deal with loss and change.

Advice for parents and stepparents of adult children from bestselling author, license marriage & family therapist, podcaster and popular conference speaker Ron L. Deal.

[lizzie]

Finally someone writing about adult children steps! Thank you.

[richricogranada]

Almost all older men are controlled by their adult children who are very jealous to lose their inheritance in a father’s a new marriage. Now, I’m looking only for childless men because I can’t stand the drama, being childless myself.

[jdglass]

Is it possible for an entire book to be written on this subject?

[richricogranada]

After 18 children must to go about their lives, carry their own weight, and never interfere in their parents lives, especially, if the parents remarry.

[lizzie]

Ten years on, still being nice. Know everything about their family, their deceased mother, their childhood memories, their grandparents and cousins. They know nothing about me, my family history, my son. No interest whatsoever. Although they are in their 40s I guess I’m the adult in the “relationship “. Being friendly does not mean becoming friends. You are definitely on the giving end of this relationship.

[CoreyB]

I have an adult step daughter who is 19, I met her when she was 16.
I've been nothing but nice to her and all I get in return is hate, animosity she has towards me, disrespect, ect.
I tell my wife about this or even if she witnesses her daughters behavior towards me, she sides with her daughter and they tell me it's my fault and I need to stop causing problems.

I feel isolated, ostracized, alone, my wife doesn't support me, Im constantly gas lighted.
This has got me feeling depressed and though I won't act upon the impulses, I have had thoughts of suicide. The only time I find happiness is when I'm out fishing.

I've tried to throw in the towel and divorce my wife three times now because of this.
But I've came back because she has guilt tripped me and begged me to come back. I've told her that things need to change if I do and nothing has changed, all I got was empty promises that were broken.

I just don't know what to do anymore...

[virginiailla]

What about when they live with you and refuse to contribute in any way? No cleaning up behind themselves, no cooking, no buying food no rent.

[joybalanon]

How about if the other parent walked out in bad terms and the kids don't like that parent anymore?

[msve]

What do u say 5 the daughter says "his money is my money and will always be .my money" and the husband says nothing ?

[BingBingerson]

And what happens when they start treating you like shit and their mom defends them?

[MichaelaH]

I was hopeful when I saw "adult stepchildren" but this is a very vanilla take on the subject. It would be lovely if it was 'this easy'.

[jsims]

To me, this is a crock of crap. As a grown person, they should be happy for their parent to find love again. Who gives a crap if they have to adjust of Thanksgiving dinner. Life‘s full of adjustment grow up and grow a pair. Be happy for your parent, and not as focused on your stupid self

[blairbilliot]

My wifes adult kids feel like they should come first above me. Thoughts?

[caroann]

New wife…..

20 years later. The same. 😔

[KoolT]

Go very slow. Really scares the kid's. Just be polite.