The Narcissist’s Trap: Playing the Helpless Victim

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[MirAndHer]

Pseudo vulnerability is def a strategy that works for the narcissist. Richard talks about the way they parentify you so that leaving them feels impossible, like abandoning a child.

[Softman]

Their Vulnerability looks so real. They act like without you their lives will crumble.

[NM-gytx]

Forever the victim and the hero
Never the villain!

[joannewright]

Day by day these truths you are sharing are assisting with all the minutes and hours that pass by when us victims of this predatory strategy are being reminded of truth. Thank you

[christinav]

If I didn’t cook or clean or do the lot he would lift a finger. If I didn’t care for our children he wouldn’t. After 20 years of marriage to a narcissist I collapsed from exhaustion. Then I was discarded and he took off with another. Then I got up worked and stayed single and fiercely independent for life. I love me and my life now❣️

[PatriciaB.-hier]

Wow, this is so profound. You are correct! 100%

[eliza_kai]

Wow! I have never heard anyone explain this so spot on. It’s stomach turning once you realize you’ve given half your life trying to help someone and got nowhere yet lost your entire self along the way

[ruthparks]

Co-dependants are dying inside.

-While trying to GIVE life to someone else

...who doesn't even want life.😢

-Tim Fletcher

[FunnyFrances]

Your ability to stay on topic...."BUT he's not waddling around....that's a trick!" is incredible. You are brilliant!! I wish I had found you earlier in my exit from my predator!

[alysondoucette]

My mind ruminates with these worries. Then you come on here and tell me the truth.
You are saving lives.

[lilasfaves]

Yep!! That’s the one my ex and I played out for 10 years! Lethal. I’m no longer so much of a rescuer these days happy to say 😅👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[carinajuntti]

OMG! This video is like a punch in the stomach! On one of our first dates my narcissist ex-boyfriend even called me a "godsend". After I dumped him "the helpless toddler" transformed into a very capable, vindictive and relentless stalker.

[obscurum]

When they ask for advice dont give it. Just say "only you know what is right for you. I'll leave you to think about it". And walk away.

[pastelsky]

Whenever my father is in a tight situation, his face, his whole aura changes. You would feel so much pity for him, as if he's a beggar. But as soon as he's out of the situation, he becomes evil, crude, arrogant, cruel, etc...

[ceciliamac]

“…to sink his claws into you”
That one hit hard.
Thank you

[foxInGloves]

This is why we need mentally strong men like Richard to teach women how men should behave!! Beautifully and powerfully articulated. Thank you 🔥🔥🔥

[justme]

Thank you so much. I've literally spent 2 hours online looking for confirmation of this information. I needed to hear it from someone else. A longer video on this would be GREAT if you have the time.

[nicberardino]

My ex used to act out terribly but as soon as someone would walk by she would act properly with much decorum. Thats when i knew the vulnerability was just manipulation

[alycewarr]

He trained me by failing at everything he didn’t want to deal with so I would do it. He “couldn’t cook, do laundry correctly or housework at all”, he couldn’t do taxes ( nothing financial ) and I even built our house without him. He couldn’t help with the children and anything regarding my need of support. I didn’t see it for 23 years!! It was on purpose and he was just another child I raised.

[zickityz]

It’s hard to imagine how deep this idea goes… we can even use this idea as a model in all our adult relationships. In a strange horrible fucked up way you must weigh every interaction in this way which is especially hard if you’re “empathetic” to yourself and others. I believe that people that care about people and want to help people are more prone to narcissists. You shouldn’t live life scared but we can always have more awareness. I think that’s the basic idea. Narcissists are using your willingness to help as a weakness because they’re seeing life in 2d and you’re seeing life in 3d. It’s a fundamental difference.