I Feel STUPID | My Biggest Insecurity

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Does Alpha come across as stupid? Not in regard to his video topics but his IQ? In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of IAmAlphaM, AaronMarino, and Pete & Pedro says that he felt like a massive moron after getting off the phone from a podcast interview.

Why did he feel insecure, and what exactly happened?
It's been about a week, so he's reflected on the experience. During the interview, he was asked about the last book he read {he doesn't read}-- so he grabbed one off of the shelf for his response. The truth is that he watched the Ted Talk. So he knew enough to be dangerous and talk about it. The next question was what was the last book he gave as a gift {never has}. He finally told the interviewer that he doesn't read -- he just doesn't like to read.

He's not a reader.
The more Alpha thought about it, he came to a realization that he's not a reader. He's a doer-- and he considers himself educated but doesn't like to acquire knowledge from books. Regardless, he felt stupid and a failure. This brought up other issues and insecurities that Alpha has. He has terrible spelling and grammar. Truthfully, he doesn't send long emails to people because he doesn't want to look stupid. He attributes it all to his Quaker kindergarten where he was taught to spell phonetically. It was all about spelling how it sounds -- 99.8% of kids have not problem switching over -- except for Alpha. Combine the spelling and grammar with not reading, he's felt doomed.

Don't Live Up to Someone Else's Expectations
He says we all struggle and have insecurities. For the most part, we can compartmentalize them. But it's okay if you don't do something that the world says you should do to be something. You are special and unique the way you are and have your own strengths. Don't beat yourself up! Alpha felt stupid -- but he knows that he's not. But while you're in school, do your schoolwork!

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I'm feeling so dumb that I literally searched for it .

[losasakarosa]

the absolute worst feeling is getting bad results in a test u revised a shit tone for. People go "its okayyyy u tried ur best" leading me to question why my best isnt enough

[Panda-ppqm]

Feeling stupid is also my biggest insecurity. My parents push me to take advanced classes but I always loathe going to those classes because compared to my peers I don't feel smart enough. I also don't read because I have no attention span. I usually turn to audiobooks.

[arreku]

I remember being called “retarded” and “stupid” throughout my childhood, so much in fact that I started to believe it, and that really demotivated me to the point where I felt like I never was good enough. I would just sit in class and hope the teacher wouldn’t call on me, because I feel like anything that comes out of my mouth would be ‘stupid’.

[socialglitch]

I feel stupid most of the time. I think I’m the dumbest person to ever live :(

[RustySpoons]

I feel stupid all of the time...pretty much every day. I know logically that I’m not dumb.
But, every single time I speak out loud with my peers & professors in a college class, I reflect back on what I said later on and I cringe at what I said. I don’t know if I suffer from social anxiety, but I go through this anguish every day it seems.

[thomasrye]

I don't think I'm stupid mentally. I just feel like I can't articulate my thoughts, ideas, or emotions properly. I found that when I write things, it sounds like I'm a thoughtful and a well knowledgeable person, but when I try to explain it or just talk, I feel weird. It's like a disconnect with everyone. People ask me about things and why I think that way. when I'm asked questions, I can't speak clearly because of the pressure of interactions. It's a weird feeling when I see everyone looking blank because they couldn't understand what I just said. It's an issue that just feels strange to me, and it makes me wonder why I should put effort into the things I say if no one notices or understands.

[yahelisrael]

I feel stupid all the time. I just literally searched for this because I was wondering if I am the only one who felt like this

[BulldogMindset]

Just interviewed you for my YouTube channel, and first of all I have to say thank you and second I have to say one of the reasons I wanted to interview on my channel is because I consider you to be such a smart business man an entrepreneur--someone who I look up to.

I appreciate your honesty and genuineness and I know others do as well.

It's awesome to see someone who is so successful in so many areas in life talk honestly about an insecurity.
Really kudos to you man.

And thanks again for interviewing for my channel. One of the best interviews I've had. You came across really well and are offering some real solid value to my audience. Plus, it was a whole lot of fun.

[kennycontreras]

Wow. I feel the same way. School makes me feel like im stupid for some reason. I dont like it when i fail. Completely start to stop caring because i feel like im going to fail anyway. I dont know what is wrong with me!!

[naheedm]

6:00 seeing alpha on the verge of tears and pouring out his emotions really got to me, I really commend him for putting this video up. Such a great inspiration.

[MrFrankyson]

Thank you for this, I was feeling really down about failing at math. I felt the same humiliation and insecurities when it came to math. Im a graphic designer and it always bugged me when I had to figure out dimension on the spot while everyone was looking at me. Thank you for showing your feelings, it makes a big difference that you relate to our insecurities.

[superholly]

This is AMAZING!
I love your vulnerability, it shows your strength.

[martin]

I feel like I'm one of the dumbest people I know, and it greatly affects my life. I dont even want to open my mouth around others cause I feel like the more I talk, the more apparent my dumbness will be.

[jimmykit-kat]

I'm really academically smart, and intrapersonally smart, but on the flip side, I'm not very socially smart. I try to think before I speak, and keep track of what I've previously talked about, but I always end up in the same spot. Usually I'll lean towards touchy topics accidentally, and not know when to shut up, blurt something out, or just stand there awkwardly because I don't know what to do, say hi fifty times in a conversation or mention how I'll say hi fifty times in a conversation, constantly feel the need to explain myself, and most of all, completely forget everything we've talked about. It is my biggest insecurity, and I'm pretty sure it makes a lot of people view me as weird. I'm just glad that my best friend sees past this and that when he says I am weird, he says it in a good context.
Anyways, sorry for the long comment, but I just really understand what you're feeling. The video made my day.

[crustycrested]

"The ancient oracle once said that I was the wisest of all the Greeks. It is because I alone, of all the Greeks, know that I know nothing." -Socrates

[shaynahall]

Feeling stupid is definitely my biggest insecurity. I always feel stupid. I feel like I've been stupid my whole life. I hate being this way. I have failed at so many things, made excuses and lost motivation. I feel like I am one big disappointment walking around. The thing about it is that I love to encourage and push others. But honestly, I need to be encouraged and pushed myself.

[kimberlydiamond]

That’s how I feel like I’m 19 years and I feel I can’t do anything right like I don’t know how to count, I don’t know how to pay bill, don’t know how to drive, adult stuff or when people talk to me they use big words and I don’t know what to say I stay quiet

[chapstickwarrior]

I barely got an education and did nothing for most my schooling years. I was forced to go to school when I was 14 for legal reasons, and it was hell! I can't do basic math, I'm bad at spelling, science, etc. I quit as soon as I turned 16. Now at 19, I can read and write, but still feel extremely slow.

I don't have any learning disabilities, but my lack of knowledge as an adult hurts my confidence greatly. It really freakin' sucks. I should probably try to educate myself somehow.

[Yankeefan]

Hi Aaron - I got my PhD in cognitive neuroscience a couple of years ago and I haven't read a book since high school. Textbooks, journal articles, etc. are just a part of my career, but outside of that "leisurely" reading isn't attractive to a surprisingly large amount of people who you think are intelligent. If you are going to read, then read with a purpose. You chose first-person learning ("doing") and that's great! There are insecurities on both sides of the fence - many vicarious learners would kill for charisma, which is probably a result of your preference to experience things first hand. Keep up the great channel and thanks for the inspirational video!