Aging Narcissists - What happens as they Grow Older?

What kind of things do narcissistic people face from middle age and approach old age, and how they react?
Whether a parent, partner or friend, this video answers questions about 'How do narcissists behave as they grow older? Do they change, if so is it for the better or do they get worse?'

Also answering the question 'What can friends and family experience as the narcissist grows older?'

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement, being disagreeable, highly resistant to criticism and having a lack of empathy for others.

Other videos on this topic you might find interesting:
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Narcissistic Mother in Law
Narcissistic Father / Daughter Relationship
Narcissistic Father / Son Relationship
Narcissistic Father in Law

Wetzel, E., Grijalva, E., Robins, R. W., & Roberts, B. W. (2020). "You’re still so vain: Changes in narcissism from young adulthood to middle age." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 119(2), 479–496

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[skylove]

There is only one way to deal with a narcissist. Run away and never look back!

[Artorius]

My experience with narcissists is they try to accuse you of the very thing they are doing to you when you call them out on their behavior.

[suzannederusha]

The damage the narcissist’s have done in my life will never be forgotten. Hard lessons are the greatest teachers.

[peternolan]

When my abusive, narcissistic father died I went to the funeral home. When I saw him lying dead I hid in the cloakroom for a few minutes because anyone could have read the delight on my face. It took me a few minutes to calm down and act "respectful." Then it hit me. For the first time in my life I was in my father's presence and I was not afraid.

[cockatielnation]

My narcissist father suffered from dementia as he aged and his narcissism just melted away. He became a sweet, childlike person who was affectionate and grateful for my care and companionship. We had the best 2 years together before he died and really enjoyed each other's company...

[Karatandstone]

I have totally abandoned and separated myself from my aging narcissistic parents. I finally found my strength in my 50’s.

[jimbrydon]

I wish I’d known about narcissism when I was a lot younger. I tried everything I could to please my parents - father in particular but nothing I ever did was any good for either of them.
He treated me like I was his worst enemy. It is like the worst kind of child abuse as you can’t work out what you’re doing wrong.

[jujujudio]

My 96 year old father's typical conversation is "how sharp he is" "people tell him he doesn't look his age" "everyone likes him" He enjoys going to the ER for his narcissistic supply. It took me years to realize how much he lies. I can't do the cringe anymore. It's beyond bizarre.

[judykinsman]

My narcissistic mother died at 92 & was never any less so. I learned you don’t get wiser as you age. You get more of what you already are!

[yafesiamwayibiggy]

The best way to deal with a narcissist is to AVOID THEM. Always keep a safe distance away from them

[benedictusmaladaptus]

Child of a narcissist mother who was also an alcoholic. Best thing I ever did was stop feeling guilty about all the things she said I should feel guilty about, and stop listening to people that say "she's your _mother..."._ I left all that behind and my life began improving almost immediately. I never looked back.

[sherparoyale]

I was diagnosed with a narcissistic disorder. Hit me like a brick. I started developing coping mechanisms and trying to become aware when I’d feel my narcissism taking over. I can’t say I’ve mastered it but it has clearly helped improve my relationships. The most helpful has been reminding myself that many sides of me aren’t special at all (and others are way better).

[twopurringcats]

Both my parents are in their 80s now and are both diagnosed NPD. They treated me with scorn, anger and hostility all my life for having boundaries and refusing to be controlled. They became more aggressive, manipulative and hostile in later years. I'd been low contact for a long time but they got so vicious, self righteous and tried going after my money so I went no contact. I was their only child and scapegoat. Mom hated me and told me she hadn't wanted me as a baby. No kidding. I was taken from them at 16 for my safety when she attacked me., never living with them again. She was glad to be rid of me but wanted me to fail in life and tried to sabotage my education, relationships and other things. She failed. I never had a loving family but friends are family. I worked hard to succeed and built my business from a young age. It's successful now..they hated that, too. So I live in peace without them and they are blocked from contacting me. They felt I owed them for every little thing..for being born and raised by them. Truth is, I was more a parent to them..and a therapist and cleaning person as a child. They are evil and I won't inherit anything but that's fine because I've got my freedom and peace now. That means everything to me. They hang on their rich friends and don't care what I do. Good riddance to them all. Life goes on. I've stayed in therapy and worked hard to have a decent life.
Peace feels so good.

[JenniferJones-ryji]

💯 SO VERY TRUE 🇭🇲
STAY AWAY FROM THEM DONT ARGUE BACK.. TOTAL IGNORE THEM.. AVOID THEM AT ALL COST.. TAKES TIME

[claytonllc]

You just described my 83-year-old father. Instead of embracing his waning relevance in the universe, he's doubling down on the same behaviors that have alienated him from anyone smart enough to see him as he truly is the first time around. It's frightening.

[vilamor]

As Narcissists get older they get more bitter and resentful.

[christinerobertson]

My mother has been a narc way before I was born. She made it clear to me I caused her misery by just being born. She's invaded my life completely for 63 years. I could write a book just listing the put downs and criticisms. I wasn't what she wanted. I was a mistake and she has reminded me of that throughout my life. I have felt responsible for her until a few years ago- I had her share a house with me and husband and her evilness came to the surface - I no longer talk to her but she has turned my youngest daughter into her flying monkey. which saddens me. But awareness is everything. Don't waste your life with a narc mother or father.

[miapdx]

I used to work with people who had dementia and alzheimers. Their minds were cloudy, but their true nature remains. People who were good natured became more so. People who were negative, manipulative, and unkind became more so. Never judge people who can't or don't want to care for an aging parent. You don't know what that child was put through. I tried to take care of my mother. But she became as abusive as she was when I was young. So toxic, I had to fight a ton of anxiety just to see her. My brother, my only sibling and also abusive to me, called me up cussing about how could I "abandon" that angelic woman. I told him that we didn't have the same mother. He got the best treatment from her. I didn't even know that woman.

[tegannottelling]

Two weeks before my mother's death I think she said sorry to me for the first time in my life. She did everything outlined in this video. Spent huge amounts of money on looks, tried to control people with money. Tried to seduce my boyfriends, Tried to turn my son against me. How she was always the victim. etc etc. I accepted the apology because I knew she was dying but in my heart I knew I was accepting it for her sake because she was so pathetic and she had realised it at the end. I don't discuss my mother with many people because they just can't understand how a mother can be so horrible you are relieved when they are dead. She didn't physically abuse me, a few slaps across the face, but nothing I could say was real child abuse, the house was always perfect, the entire facade front for others to view, but she was as emotionally abusive as someone can get.
My sister who was the golden child is much like her, I feel heartbroken for her children. Yelling at your children two inches from their face
"You are the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I wish I had had an abortion", is some of the more mild abuse I have witnessed shen my sister came to stay with me. When I stepped in and tried to stop her from doing this, she destroyed my house and left with the kids. I even tried social services but she has a great mask when other people are around and the kids are too terrified to tell SS what their homelife is like. I sent my nephew shoes because he has a size 16 foot at age 14 and my sister makes the excuse about his lack of suitable footwear that his foot is too big and she can't find anything. I bought them and sent them directly to him. Next think I know I'm getting a call from the local police telling me Tara (My sisters name) tells them she has a death threat from me through her son's shoes somehow. I could tell from the cop's tone that he was entirely frustrated with having to deal with her as her complaint against me is one of dozens she has put into the cops about just about anyone that has interactions with her.
Horrible horrible example of a human being. I'm certainly not perfect by any means but my son and I have a great relationship. I'm just so thankful I wasn't affected by my mothers narcissism the same way she was and I am not her. Still have had to do a lot of work to deal with the issues I do have from my mother's "care" and I think I always will but was a great example of how NOT to be a mother.

[thescapegoatclub]

I find it really hard to see my narc parents self-destruct as they age. My mum in particular. She is getting more and more depressed as her health fails and is distraught that I won't rekindle our relationship just because they are aging. And social norms say I can't 'abandon' my elderly parents.They can't see that the estrangement is a result of their behaviour. It's really difficult.