How to emotionally DETACH (let them theory)

In this video, I talk about detaching emotionally from men so you can thrive in your dating life and relationships. Emotional attachment is a lack of emotional control. Attaching to a person, their words, and their behavior and then reacting to the emotions they stir up in you, in a huge, grand way. You have to learn to emotionally detatch in order to gain emotional control. Once you put distance between your emotions and the external world, then you've mastered emotional control. The first thing I mention is the goal and the goal is this - Not trying to suppress emotions or control them but instead control your REACTION to your emotions. You have a choice and you will continue to have the choice to decide if your reaction is favoring you or disturbing you. Be selfish. I mention 4 things to in order to become in control of your emotions and how to stop being needy and detach emotionally from men. 1. Control your ego. 2. Being triggered is your fault. 3. Get the ick. 4. Check yourself...often.

Controlling your ego means taking control of your reactions vs listening to how your ego is telling you to react. Thats disempowered. Your ego is telling you how to react through its protective, survival instincts but it's not serving you. It's too emotional and detrimental to your peace. Being triggered is your fault and I'm sorry if THAT triggers you 🤣 You don't have to get triggered. Other people's actions are not your responsibility, it's theirs - your responsibility is how you react to their actions and words. You don't have to be a victim and give your power away to people by always getting triggered. Get the ick - simple. Be grossed out by ugly behavior and words. Don't let it make you wanna run after them more, stalk their every move. No, ew. Check yourself often means CHECK YOURSELF. WHY are you choosing to react in a grand way? Are you chasing your emotions, clinging to them, catastrophizing them? You need to just observe them and let them pass because THEY WILL. They always do. Subscribe for more self-improvement, dating, and mindset videos 💖

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Keywords: feminine energy, strong boundaries, financial security, dating, detachment,

[VickitaTrivedi]

Don't forget to give this video a thumbs up...💖👍🏼

LOVE YOU ALL.

[rwoodyk]

Everyone should get a cat. Watch and learn from the cat. The cat takes care of herself and seeks affection from those who she trusts. You mess up with a cat and she is done with you, she’ll go back to her cushion and groom herself and be content on her own.

[chubbatheBOSS]

I had a huge lesson from a man who faded away in my life. We started off close, but my emotional reactivity and clinging pushed him further away and I always blamed him. Eventually he disappeared and I was alone. I thought I would take this opportunity to sit with my feelings. I did this for hours everyday. The emotions came up and passed. Now I don’t think of that person and even if i do, it’s a distant memory and I have gratitude for this lesson leading me back to my inner self that was suffering without my attention. I was led back to myself which is great news. I never needed the other person, I was longing for my own self. Now I choose to make my mind clean and flourish in love, compassion, and joy like the garden of Eden. I tend to this garden, and my mind is my only focus. This is where I live after all. I want to live in a beautiful place. People can come and go but this garden will remain in holiness.

[thanhchinguyễn-ls]

1. Get your ego in check. You don't take order from your ego. Emotions is always passing. You will feel better regardless of your actions.
2. Be aware of your reactivity circle when they pull away. They are not responsible for your feelings. You are.
Let people do what they gonna do. Then choose your reaction.
3. Get the icks. Over personal traits. When someone disrespects you, get gross out.
4. Just check yourself. Bring awareness to who you wanna be and your reactions.

[Ljbabyg]

Choosing to be a victim robs you of your power.. So very True!. We Create our own Reality. Only Positive Empowering thoughts. 💖

[MaryJaneismyname]

Whenever I’m triggered I watch this video…3rd times a charm lol

[yasminh]

just got out of an anxious attachment relationship that I drew out from feeling like a victim and falling for his potential. not dating until ive got this secure, responsive, high value stuff down; my next relationship is either gonna be fantastic or very very short.

[Henbuch]

U changed my life when u said "allow yourself to get the ick". I would always try ti change the man to something i liked isntead if just being grossed by his behavior and letting go.
I cant change anyone i can only walk away and heal and find a better man for me

[salmasoso]

After this video, I decided to not react on whatever others do. It doesn't matter if he didn't text me first, and it doesn't matter if he doesn't care. What truly matters is my happiness. I just let things be the way they meant to be. 💫💞⭐️♥️💖💕💘💞♥️✨️⚡️ Thank you for this video.

[SpanishBarbieWorld]

After countless videos I found the one!!! “You react a way so he pulls away, you see him you plead for him to come back, say you didn’t mean it & he comes back but this time not as invested” WOW 🎯

[moonlightxcv]

I started dating someone I really really like for a month & a half now & last week my emotional reactivity was out of control & I pushed him away. We are going to meet up soon to talk about where we stand with our relationship. I’ve been doing nonstop research on this & to become a high value women. I’m sick of my insecurities consuming me emotionally & ruining my relationships. I’m hoping he can understand I’m trying to work on myself & to be patient with me. I don’t think it’s too late but if it is… “thank you, next” 😔 I will try to be better next time.

[Love-xuyl]

Happened to me on Wednesday. It hurt that day. But then I blocked the person. Immediate relief. Now Friday I am very happy. I am not sending message for a ghost/people wasting my time.

[ashmi]

Love this vid! You give great advice and I so agree. My mom used to say "they can stand yelling screaming crying but they cant stand indifference" . Ive found that a calm and silent reaction like you spoke of speaks more volumes than an emotional reaction does. 😊😊😊

[CareBlair]

Girl, emotional reactor. You hit the nail in the head. I went to a party with my man and I had to go upstairs and cry it out. I felt so overwhelmed and i also felt rejected and ignored. I'm so tired of being like that. Who cares anyhow. You look beautiful and I love you ❤

[jadexx]

"getting triggered is your own fault" say it louder for the people in the back! Haha but for real this is something I wish I heard years ago!

[Thankfulforeverymoment]

You are right. I am not going to allow people who don’t value me to make me feel anything. I need to force them out and not feel bad or hurt about it. I don’t want to be a victim anymore. I just need to keep looking forward and not look back. Thank you for making this more clear for me.

[CV]

I love that you explain all of this without having to use that hot button word “narcissist.” I feel like that term keeps us feeling limited and honestly narcs themselves will call other people narcs and it just becomes a messy victimhood. Let’s just call it what it is - drama-loving, reactive, unconscious kinds of people

[ShaniOnSinai]

Recovering reactor. Spent two years single and celibate working on my body and my mind. But you can’t work on relationships alone. I realized this when I started dating. A lot of old habits came back and creating unnecessary drama because the person I’m seeing is too unbothered. It’s demonic stirring of the pot and I know the root cause. I gave my life to Christ but that doesn’t mean I don’t fight demons.

It’s work. I have to literally sit with my thoughts. I have to observe to a fine point the origination and the sensation. I ask myself:
Did he disrespect me?
Will he benefit from a conversation about it?
Will a conversation benefit me?

It’s constant. I have a lot of work to do. I could easily say that if I were with a different kind of man I wouldn’t have these problems but it’s not true. The moment I get comfortable and open up, the demons have a route out. I must stay stoic and be productive for my own benefit.

[KarolineThePagan]

Manifestation teaches me a lot about this including letting go. Its really important to change how you see yourself than not being in control of yourself.

[jasminasinanbegovic]

There is a difference between hurting someones ego, emotions and literally breaking someones heart. Need to differentiate those three