How to calm your relationship insecurities

We all have insecurities. What was as a minor concern can become magnified into a major issue within a relationship. Here’s how to handle the fears and self-judgment that arise when in partnership, and see yourself in positive and accurate light.

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[fountainb]

“Relationships are a microscope on our mental and emotional health”. LOVE that.

[paulsmit]

I’ve been dating a man for 6 months and he travels all the time and I was feeling insecure (thinking he’s cheating) and unsuccessful because I can’t do the same. After watching this video (only really understanding it after the second time) I said, ‘No, you’re a CFO who is working hard and he has a freedom that you don’t. It’s his success, not your failing. Be inspired by him, but don’t hurt your relationship because you’re intimidated by a different lifestyle.’ Suddenly I feel silly for being so nasty with myself when I’ve actually been successful in most of what I do. Thank you, Susan. You have a very elegant way of making very poignant statements.

[tnt]

My little mantra "I'm worthy"

[lilichavez]

I was in tears, going crazy bcus I'm dealing with my insecurities in my relationship I was very stressed out minutes ago . Thank you for not just bringing me back to my sense but for teaching me something new I can do in my relationship

[Mimi-qthy]

My ex gave me insecurities I never had before him. I didn't buy into them right away but it sipped in after a while. He was quick to see "flaws" that were only flaws to him. I realized he was very judgemental and critical because of his own insecurities. He finally "gave" up on me. I was thankful. I stayed far too long because I have a hard time giving up on others. I'm over that. 😆

[ramirenriquez]

This is why, in my opinion, we should be in a better relationship with ourselves before you even let someone in to your life. If you don't know yourself and you get feedback from people, you'd automatically feel they're attacking you and you need to defend yourself. if you do this, it means you need some internal learning to do

[sramtae]

I'm 21 and Im in the first relationship I have had in many years. I have always been a very anxious person and I had thought that during these years i managed to come to a stable point with myself. But after entering a relationship all the fears and insecurities came back multiplied. I thought I was going crazy, but this video puts things in a different light. Thank you very much for the perspective

[jasminejoseph]

I love this!!! Thank you! I just had a conversation yesterday with my bf about how I don't like it when he comments on other women's physical attritubes in front of me. I told him it made me feel uncomfortable and vurnable because I was unaware of how to respond to these comments. He in turn talked about how I can do the same thing when I see other men. I told him I did it because he does it when he sees other women. So we both were acting insecurly around each other. I'm just glad that I voiced it and was able to hear him out as well. I'm looking forward to seeing how we both can change and where our relationship will go moving forward.

[paralleldiana]

I got cheated on a long time ago when I was at my most vulnerable and I wasn’t a bit of insecure. It ruined me and it still carries on to me. On top of that, I also do not get the best support and comments about myself growing up by my own family. Getting told I need to be like this and that for men to like. I’m a very middle grounded reasonable person so all of this hasn’t weighed down my personality but more or so my insecurities and my thoughts get warped so easily. I finally feel like I’ve met my match now and the issues that I’m struggling with is that the last time I was in this much love was with the guy that cheated on me. and it’s bringing in so many memories and voices in my head that I shouldn’t look forward to this journey and that it’s going to end negatively. This helped me a lot and see what true confidence is. I’m very vocal so I’m going to speak on it and I’m going to take the time to heal. I appreciate your wisdom

[davidthomspson]

Thank you.Two bad relationships with narcissistic women constantly had me questioning my self worth because all the "flaws" they saw in me.It was only years later that I saw I wasnt what they saw and wondered why I even loved someone who treated me so crummy.Self introspection and leaving a bad relationship helps you grow in the end.

[joscleo]

You are so lovely and brilliant. I cannot tell you how much your videos have helped me. When I have these moments of insecurity and panic I remember your words. Your helpful advice brings me back to sanity where I can see things clearly and deal with them logically. Thank you. (Gonna purchase your books too!)

[treaty]

Wow! I love the way you explain everything your so calming. We are so lucky to be in an age where we have these valuable lessons on tap with the click of a button.

[fannyjacob]

The dude is just not fakeing . The finishes of the goals. Beautiful. Magisterial. Love you *Minslegend!.* .🙏🏼.

[Chloe]

I'm so glad I came across this. I have been insecure for my entire life. People told me that guys were constantly checking me out in high school, but I never saw it because I walked with my head down. I'm now MUCH older and your videos are helping me realize that I was internalizing other people's judgments. I DO like myself. Looks can be improved, but I've always liked being alone.

[ivanilchev]

I just found your channel, Susan. I think you are great. You are not just another youtuber.

[beetee]

Wow i cannot believe how u read my mind. Had a major discussion abt this today. Slowly realizing my self worth

[aliciaweenum]

I have insecurities around his texting. He’s bad at texting me and when we’re in the process of making a plan, he takes so darn long and it makes me anxious because I want to see him and I get excited on to be disappointed that we don’t end up hanging out. I’ve told him a few times about it and then he “forgot” about a plan on Friday.

[tinysteps]

It's bubble bath time again. Having watched endless advise from you for many months, I have followed your every step of my disconnected 25 year relationship.
. Spit, found you, found my partner again. Your advise is than none other. I have been around 63 years, you are so very gifted with kindness and such teaching.
Living apart still, tiny steps for me. This is the finest YouTube for me. Thank you again for showing me my work .
Will keep you posted.
You are a guardian angel to us all. Blessings to you .

[Grungeflutter]

Four years later, just finding this. Brilliant! Thank you

[brookesanders]

Aww Susan, you're so wise and smart and beatuful. I feel lucky finding you 🌹♥️🌹