Relationship Advice : How to Avoid Emotionally Unavailable Men

The first step in avoiding emotionally unavailable men is to identify the signals that they have set up barriers to avoid emotional intimacy. Steer clear of inevitably unsuccessful romances with advice from a licensed psychotherapist in this free video on relationships.

Expert: Stan Hyman
Bio: Stan Hyman, SAP, CSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and life coach practicing in Aventura, Florida.
Filmmaker: Paul Muller

[VelvetGal]

Now, I don't even want to try with any guy because of the experience I had with unpredictable, aloof, partially emotionally unavailable man with moodiness, drama, baggage, & issues. You're telling the truth that it takes a LONG time to heal. It will probably take years for me to heal from this IF I'm lucky enough to survive from current medical problems. I'm sorry to sound so depressed & sad, but it's NOT funny at all how emotionally or partially emotionally unavailable men treat all people (ct)

[VelvetGal]

Saira, I empathize & can relate to what you're saying. The scared, panicking, anxiety-filled, excuse-making, unpredictable, moody, angry, low tolerance, low patience, short-tempered, partially emotionally unavailable men, aloof, vague, hot & cold, yo-yo men are like you said, truly the ones that hurt almost everyone around them. They don't know how to build strong human relationships or friendships. There are some men out there & the main things they know is how to KILL things - kill the human

[IsisRenee]

Sounds so simple but just like dieting, it’s easy to spot the issue but when you want something (or someone) a lot of times you give in. Gotta be stronger willed but we deserve it.

[JustineMfulama]

KNOW AMEN! Ultimately, getting involved with an emotionally unavailable man, means you are purposefully robbing yourself of a dating experience that gives you peace and love. Don't settle for that and instead be with a man that is willing to open up and grow together! GREAT TIPS

[VelvetGal]

hurt, pain, damage, heartache, destruction, death to almost living being & soul with a heart around you or who comes into contact with you. It's not right to kill everything, almost every human & animal with a heartbeat around you. Sharks will never change if ALL they do is hang out with other sharks. That guy had the chance to change for the better & to hang out with people who were not sharks, but he relapsed & went back to his shark cove. I was very patient with this guy & endured a lot.

[VelvetGal]

who come into contact with them. It's not right to treat any gal like that & make any gal go through that. Sorry for long response. Emotionally unavailable guys shouldn't be talking to any woman, period. All gals have hearts, feelings, emotions, & souls. And it's NOT cool at all to use them, take advantage of them, & to not give & try better for the gal who has been there for you for a long time. It's not right to give any gal memories of you not trying your best, being lazy, not being there.

[sairaj]

Just forgive him and create new memories. You will NEVER forget but don't give up on yourself.

[VelvetGal]

I believed in him & told & expressed words from the heart that I never told another guy & the gift I got from him was him leaving & disregarding the feelings & words that came from my heart & soul. I tell someone for the 1st time in my life that I'm in love with him, then about 2 months later - he leaves. When guys say that they are sharks, it's very true. They shouldn't be happy OR proud about being sharks either. It's not something to be proud of when most of what you do is cause (cont.)

[sairaj]

women too but mostly men because our society taughts them to not be open with their emotions. they are almost always dishonest with themselves as well as others.

[sairaj]

oh and unpredictable men who get scared and partly emotionally unavaible men can hurt you. you would have nightmares every week and it just takes a very long time to heal. takes many years. maybe more. hopefully not.

[VelvetGal]

spirit, kill people's hearts, kill friendships, kill relationships, killl many people's trust, kill businesses, kill animals -- they nearly kill humans physically, too. They even like seasons where things are dying - fall & autumn. I MEANT everything good I said to the unpredictable & partially emotionally available man. I really loved him & was way more patient than most women would be& gave him the benefit of the doubt when most people were honestly skeptical of him & didn't trust him. (ctd).

[VelvetGal]

He should have been nice to me & applied patience with me because I DESERVED that. I don't know if I'll ever heal from this. It would have been nice if this guy redeemed himself to me & made amends & tried to make things better so that I don't have to die, relive, & think about all the inexplicable & heartless things he did. I'm going through medical problems, & it's not helping that I have to relive & remember this stuff. It keeps on replaying every week. I honestly didn't deserve this crap.

[justinlonghofer]

What about woman? Narcissistic men are always the cliche. But come on...what about the women. My wife is completely detached while I provide all the support