The most common problem in married couples is this. #rabbi #relationship #relationshipadvice #shorts

[Shir_Hadash]

That's right, Manis. Marriages fail because we fall in love with our idea of each other rather than the reality of each other.

[AugustoCuervo-hxpr]

As I get older, I have learned that a solid relationship gets along, because they don't take things way too seriously. They understand each other because they are made of the same; their voices, their life experiences, almost the same. That makes them forgive each other, and stay there, next to each other, in the darkest hours as if the pain of one is the pain of the other.

[confusedwhynot]

My husband married a part of me. I married the person. Thank you for this message. I felt a deep connection to him. He married me for attraction. We are now separated. I hurt so much knowing he chose not to see me as his soulmate. I think God needs to be a part of that marriage. God brought us together, but my husband just couldn't see it.

[jameswallace]

I'm a Christian and I love to listen this wonderfully wise Rabbi.

[nomorecensoringme]

Thank you for our daily dose of truth in marriage, Rabbi Friedman.

[hollysmith]

Yes I love my husband. My FIL asked why.
I couldn't answer because I jusy love him. There's no specific, just when I am with him I feel peace and warmth (hard to describe). Even when we are angry at each other. I can never be angry for too long. 😅

[sonofhibbs]

People are following checklists. And it’s ultimately not love but selfish gain.

[alifi]

Truly a sensible soul who makes complex decisions about life into simple words that are real and meaningful to the present and future generations.
I get much from paying attention to wisdom that I wish could have come sooner to me.

[ceceliadavis]

This a truth that many people do not think about. Thank you Rabbi.

[terralynnpash]

Agreed, my late hubby was definitely meant for me, and I him. Took 30+ years for HIM to realize it but I knew 30+ years ago he was my person!

[McFingal]

I’ve seen two of your shorts, and subscribed. I may be a Gentile, but I know wisdom when I hear it.

[MusicMike]

Beautifully spoken truth. Doesn’t this completely destroy the idea of dating apps with nothing but looks and checklists?

[soulthriver-oz]

We are two kind natured ppl who got together bc we were both ill & needed someone in life, as everyone does. But having chronic illness puts you in a different situation. You become dependent on each other & mayb not be the most compatible but were too tired to go out looking for the one. And "the one", never came along by 50 years old so..we do our best.

[Alexalexalexalexx]

This is such a good point. Makes me feel a bit better. There's not much to me so hopefully someone will be with me literally for me as I have a very small circle and little family now. Some times people with less can give you more ❤

[luciareece]

Thank you Rabbi for giving wisdom about marriage

[stevecooper]

Amazing, this guy's clarity can change your observations of life

[vivokea]

Two rough stones..they grow to trust each other by rubbing off of the rough edges..

[BigT]

But marriage is still a choice! And you can still choose to make it work. I know couples who raised amazing families and spent their entire lives together, yet will admit to having had their doubts and fears along the way. They had their seven-year itch periods... but that choice and the vow and the well-being of their children meant more to them than selfish desires. If you've lost that spark, it can be reignited. Don't give up!

[angiel]

Of course you marry someone for something about him/her, for example kindness. If they become abusive later, you don’t suck it up, you dump them!

[ecysmith]

Rabbi, I just love your lessons! You have just described my marriage to a man who honored me, who loved me, who treasured me despite all my defects. Before he died, I would like to think, that I acted likewise towards him, by honoring what this blessed union should be. He did think so, which comforts my heart and which brings memories that I shall treasure to the end of my days. When I learn someone is getting married, I tell him or her that it is my wish that he will have the experience I had with my beloved, wonderful husband who lives like a flame that doesn’t burn, inside of my heart. I love him, so much. He was a present from our Eternal Father, to me.