Don't Wait For Your Ex To Contact You First! Here's Why.

Today I’m going to answer whether or not you should wait for your ex to contact you first in the post breakup period.

In this in-depth guide you’re going to learn,

Why getting into the right frame of mind before you talk to your ex is so important
Why what matters isn’t who starts the conversation but who ends it
What research during the no contact rule has taught us about exes reaching out first
Why my team and I believe you reaching out first is almost always the right move

[therockysafari]

This idea of outgrowing your ex is actually very healthy and smart. So if things don’t go as planned, you have the self-confidence to know life will be okay and you can be happy without them. Not as soul-crushing or as disappointing.

[matthewray]

This is absolute BS. You are using a poll within your own FB group as support for your argument. First, that is not a reliable sample size and second, the majority of people on that group are there because they still don't have their ex back. People who have had the no contact rule work will most likely leave or never joined in the first place. Not to mention your poll doesn't ask how long they had been in no contact or what the circumstances surrounding the break ups. This things all matter.

[StephenWong]

The ball is in the dumper's court to reach out. Dumpers who expects the dumpee to reach out are narcists.

[tankthearc]

no do not contact your ex if they dumped you and told you not to bother them.

[PB-mdnt]

Too many advantages not to consider? Like what, telling her she can weaponize breakups because she knows that you'll be the one to reach out? You broke it, you fix it.

[spiderjump]

It depends on so many factors. If I treated my gf well but she still left then I would let her go. Nothing I can do right ?

[peterfranco]

Can I use my sobriety as something I love more than my ex?

[BlakeCashington]

If they broke up with you, do not reach out to them.
Let that person be for now.
Every situation is different.
I usually like this channel but this is BS.

[dmitryisaev]

Don’t reach out. What for ? For the next phase of hurtful behavior, especially by DAs? Did it in three months, got load of BS acts, now in a permanent no contact.

[matthewray]

How can you outgrow your ex but still want to reach out? If you outgrew them, you wouldn't even care. You'd move on. The fact that you want to still reach out with intent to get back with them shows your never outgrew them.

[regina]

My ex broke up a with me, he found a new supply and was still sending me texts and calling I just stopped answering my phone

[emmalynrae]

Such a great video! I’m friends with my ex after NC, and I always always end the conversation with something significant and positive. Then I go on about my day and next thing I know, they’re double texting, asking me more questions, trying to reach out more consistently. I’m not ready to hop back into a relationship with them, but I love how respected and valuable I feel that they have to chase me down to continue talking.

[AM]

This is nonsense. If you felt you'd outgrown your ex, you wouldn't be on Youtube watching this video about how to contact them. You wouldn't give it a second thought.
Be honest and cut the pseudo science.

[bwbell]

Question! What does ending a conversation at its peak practically look like? Does it just mean you stop responding abruptly?

[eliazermodz]

Great video..I recently went through a very tough heartbreak and this really helped me out

[shuffle_twitchtv]

I was in a 3 year relationship with a girl who was a future doctor and loved me to death. I took her for granted and neglected her, and she left. I did the no contact rule and suffered emotionally mentally and physically for 6 months. I took it like a man and worked on myself. I learned to love myself and when she tried to reach out through her cousin i just wanted to puke and the thought of getting back with her was repulsive. I currently am in the same situation with a lond distance relationship. I saw her 3 times and i neglected her in a different way. Our beginning was rocky because i never thought i would date someone over seas and this with many things have made her leave me. I suffer once again and i know there is light at the end of the tunnel with no contact... but i thought.. what is the point... i know it would be easier this time to move on, i know i can do it but i dont wish to. I want to marry and settle down and change myself for the better for her while i am with her and for myself. No contact is needed for 3 days a week maybe 2. Dont lie to yourself and reach out when you know you should. Dont argue dont blame them keep it light hearted and flirty but also don't get friendzoned. Remind them why they fell in love with you by being the best version of yourself you were at the start. Keep a diary and remind yourself to not stop putting in EFFORT because you no longer feel pain. She did reach out and i replied and stopped then replied with the perfect response. Only you will know what that is with your history. Idk where this will lead. Maybe we get back together. Maybe we dont. Maybe she will try to friendzone me which if thats the case i will leave and resume no contact indefinitely. Make your suffering mean something. Truely reflect on yourself. The reason i dont want to lose this girl is because she is pure unlike many. This is rare and worth fighting for. I guess what i am trying to say is. No contact is needed to let the dust settle. Reach out anytime after a week or 2 if they are a GOOD person. If you know they truely love you. But reach out only with the perfect way only you will know. Because what's the point of no contact if it gets to the point of not even wanting them anymore when they wake up. Idk what will happen, but i know the person i am. Continue to grow and learn and never stop putting in EFFORT.

[MDDR-ionh]

If they've blocked me from every Avenue, how would I even contact them?

[mhaas]

if she dumped you, she should be the one to reach out first.

[HelloQro]

what if they have set a boundary of not texting or contacting them unless they do it first ? then what ? risk it anyway ?

[randscott]

If you're outgrown them why recontact them?