Why do narcissists come back after discard | The Narcissists' Code Ep 624

why do #narcissists come back after discard

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[cancerqueen]

It's because they realize they won't ever find someone as authentic and great as you

[rhyswilliams]

I finally left mine 3 days ago… she blocked and discarded me. Took me a while to get over it. Now I’m soooo free! She made me some anxious and in pain for so long. Forgot who I was and isolated me. 2024 here we come!!!

[blen]

It's like they have no memory of the things they've done or the harm they've brought to another person's life. They have no remorse, no guilt, no shame! I haven't spoken to my narc for six months and now you want to talk to me. Why?It's a sick game that narcissists are playing (my opinion), and if we let them back into our lives we won't be any better for it ❤.

[lynchmary]

I left my ex fiance in 2015. He knocked on my door in 2022. I asked him what he was doing here. He said he was wondering how I was. I shut the door in his face. No contact.

[azike]

No one gives them the kind of supply that you give to them that’s why.

[NM-ruqj]

Yeah mine came back after a year with no apology, no accountability no nothing. He acted like he had no idea what happened between us and was trying to reconnect . As if I would forget the cheating, gaslighting, Belittling, ghosting man the list goes on. He said if his communication was something I didn’t want to just ignore him and he’d go away. I ignored his text and blocked him once again. Pretty sure I saved myself from a life-time of misery. Never give them a second chance

[nas]

I didn't know what NPD was until about 12 months ago. I am really ticked off at myself for letting that crap happen to me. they should teach this stuff in schools. No one deserves this stuff happen to them.

[Janeintheok]

They're like children. They suddenly want a toy they've discarded after they see another kid play with it. They have arrested emotional development. I just dumped a 64 year old baby 🍼🥳

[loveablearies]

Lee I made it 8 months NO CONTACT after he freed me!!! I'm still partying!!!🍺🍹🍻🥂

[yogib]

The part where you talk about the narcissist demoting someone is
HI LA RI OUS !!!
The thirty cents short of a quarter guy who had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to offer, the nerve! 👀trying to demote someone with his negative zero low vibrational self….
I discarded him and will NEVER GO BACK… he wasn’t worth two nickels rubbed together ! Especially now that I know better, 🌺

[sanatm]

i have been on survival mode all my life, if love doesn't feel peace with him, he ain't something you have to wait for. god already has a plan for you and that is peace, self love, self esteem, good music, good pictures, good food.

[ThirdPlanetAstrology]

Needed to hear this. He reached out today and I quickly shut it down.

[jamiewilliams]

I can accept when a narcissist discard me but can't cope with the constant bitching and criticism.

[alexandria]

I remember a time when I almost married a narcissist. He married the woman he cheated on me. He would text me and email me years after our relationship. I blocked him in every form. I'm glad he doesn't know where I live. You were so funny with "we can be friends" lol

[blacksongbird]

He would always say that I was his. 🤨 I'm positive he feels he can come since I've allowed it in the past. Whatever spell I was under before is gone. He's blocked and I am determined to keep it that way.

[azike]

Cos you are important. No one takes care of them the way you do.

[Peacealways]

Its the temperature check. Checking to see if you're good without them or missing them. This happened to me, narc showed up at a church event months after the discard. So weird, he still had my #...why. Because I didn't give him attention he thrn text me right while we're in the same space..tried talking with my mom too...what the hell. I ignored him. I mean, it was like a child. I never told him when I'm done, I'm DONE! He married someone else 4 mos later. Going backwards is what he did..bless her.

[lynnc]

After 6 years of silence, he's married, 2 children and he messaged me yesterday that he misses me.
I had an extremely traumatic childhood and he taps into that pain.

[bettycarmella]

What if you discard them?? I’d love to see a video on what happens once you disappear and go no contact. So grateful for you Lee!! ❤🙏🏽

[coreoflife]

First time he "discarded" me, I didn't know what was going on so when he came back I gave him another chance. But this time, I realized what was going on again...and I discarded him( broke up with him).