Icky things that happen when you let the narcissist back into you life

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[sweetmalife]

The worst feeling is when they violate you 100x harder after you let them back. The repeat offense is always worse! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[juliek]

The ickiest feeling is when you realise that nothing has really changed despite the amount of time which has passed. You fell for it again and so the pattern emerges and repeats again 🌪

[tball]

NEVER LET THEM BACK Its like inviting cancer back in.

[sueellenh.]

For me, the worst part is the self-blame (How could I be so stupid? What is wrong with me?) when the narcissistic abuse resumes, because it always does.

[caralin]

When you let them back in, you give away your self esteem and your dignity.

[karlwesneski]

Being a survivor, I've lived and discovered the antidote to narcissistic abuse: leave and meet someone normal. It's that simple. Once you do, you'll never evvveerrr look back

[delwilson]

The "icky thing" that happened to me was the superlative of minimizing their betrayal: "I don't even remember it anymore." Typical narcissistic amnesia.

[greenpen]

The constant feeling of background anxiety, even when things are going 'well'.

[louisegarner]

"Don't retraumatise yourself" is my new mantra. It works too! 👍

[l.]

I needed to hear this today. Came face-to-face with my ex in a parking lot for the first time since divorcing 5 years ago. Since there were a lot of people around, I played it cool and chatted. He actually seemed nice and I felt sort of sorry for him since he seems to have aged a lot. It gets you questioning yourself. I needed to remember him swearing at me and ridiculing and belittling me. I need to remember him breaking my things when I was at work and then lying about it. I need to remember this is the same

[djvccew]

The icky thing is that think that they can go back to controlling your life.

[liambraithewaite]

When you let them back in, you put yourself in an even weaker position

[shabamiri]

They have even less respect for you and they seem to double down on their toxic behavior.

[myfuturepuglife]

When I let them back in again, my boundaries are crossed and my health goes downhill.

[jennifera]

The same day I moved back in with the narc after he begged me for a year to come back, he went out to the club with his friends that night. You can NEVER go back or you will die.

[roseambat]

I am 42 and dealing with the pain of having a narcissistic mother and not being able to let go of the relationship; your videos help me cope. Thank you Dr Ramani

[vanessaament]

What Dr. Ramani warns about is exactly what I would anticipate. Once they get what they want, they want to move on and not hear about their transgressions ever again, even if you are still hurting. Moving on is their favorite deflection.

[kellygibson]

They diminish how they have hurt you or they try to make you the person who caused the breakup!

[elaineinarizona]

One good thing letting them back in does once the old patterns start up again, it confirms the reason you shut the door. Also, you become grateful for having the strength to tell them to go away in the first place and thankful you have the power to do it again! Recently, let a relative back into my life. I was shocked how easy it was to understand behavior that was once so confusing to me. I realized that I had missed nothing during the 20 years they were out of my life and deeply grateful for the journey that got me here to this point where I can confidently shut the door permanently with ZERO regrets!

[juliablair]

Thank you for this reminder. I still struggle with thinking we can have the imaginary healthy, mutually respectful relationship that truly only existed in my head. You are such a great educator, communicator. Thank you!